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Happy New Years Fam! May god bring us all a year full of blessings, success, good health and life. 2023 was great for others and a struggle to others as well, but 2024 I have a beautiful feeling that things will be great for all of us even for those who didn't have such a rough 2023. All I can say is that 2024 is a year of growth! So ya go ahead with ya bad self and show what ya mama gave ya! Lol We say goodbye to all the things we leave behind with 2023 and we embark in this new journey or chapter with 2024! Protect your space and cherish life because we only get one. ✨️ Anywho Welcome to 2024!!!! 🎉🎉🎉🎉🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳
I love how my life goes exactly how I want it to go, everything, every moment is my dream come to true, I am the luckiest person ever. I am so blessed. <3
🥇Success is a mindset, a way of living where you continuously strive for better. It starts with believing that you are capable of achieving great things.
🥇Cultivate habits that align with your goals, and be disciplined in your pursuit of excellence. Embrace learning and growth, for they are your greatest allies on this journey.
🥇Remember, the road to success is paved with persistence, hard work, and a positive attitude. Keep your eyes on the prize and never lose sight of your vision. 🌈
How & Why Gatekeep Yourself
I loved this tweet so much that I sat down and brainstormed how to gatekeep myself. ✨💋🍷
This is something that has been on my mind since entering the business world and representing our family business at events, in negotiations and meetings.
As a naive 20-something, I had to make a conscious effort to learn not to share too much about myself and family.
Even if I had a row with my sibling that same morning, at the afternoon industry mixer I'll only talk about how harmoniously we work together.
People in business, as well as any acquaintances, are not your friends. Most people you encounter daily as a young woman don't have your best interests in mind.
Here are the minor details you can share with anyone that seem personal but don't reveal anything significant about your life:
Favorite foods: Mentioning your favorite snack, dessert, or a specific dish you enjoy.
Music preferences: Sharing a song or artist you’re currently listening to.
Pet peeves: Mentioning small things that annoy you, like loud chewing or slow internet.
Daily routines: Talking about how you like your coffee or a morning ritual like reading the news.
Hobbies: Discussing a hobby you’re interested in, like gardening, knitting, or collecting something simple.
TV shows/movies: Mentioning the show or movie you’re currently watching or have recently enjoyed.
Childhood memories: Sharing a funny or light story from your childhood that doesn’t reveal much about your personal life.
Weather preferences: Talking about how you prefer rainy days to sunny ones, or vice versa.
Travel dreams: Mentioning a place you’d like to visit one day, without giving away any travel plans.
Favorite color: Sharing your favorite color or type of clothing you like to wear.
These details create the illusion of being open without revealing anything that could be used to deeply understand or analyze your life.
Gatekeep yourself, stay classy. 🎀🪞🩰🦢🕯️
"i'm just a girl" while men out there form informal networks where they receive advice, support, and opportunities for advancement from other men
How to Subtly Push Back in a Negative Job Interview
My inspiration for this career guide is a hostile job interview a few years back. I fumbled it because I was unprepared.
At the time, I was taking a break from the family business (I've since returned full-time), going out in the world and doing my own thing.
I met this business owner at a gala. I had already been aware of the company's reputation as one of the best in their field. We hit it off immediately. It turned out they were looking for a freelancer with my exact skillset for an ongoing project.
I went in for an interview a few days later. I tailored my presentation to their company and needs, as I usually do.
I made an effort to prepare. Overall, I expected smooth sailing as I had already made a good impression at the event. I was armed with tons of relevant experience, skills, and portfolio.
Long story short, the owner was absent that day. I was interviewed by other senior staff who, much to my surprise, went for the jugular: a stress interview.
The problem was that we were discussing a freelance project, not a permanent position with the company.
In that context, the stress interview technique was misguided at best. It showed me that they didn't understand the freelance relationship and had unrealistic expectations. Working with this client would likely be a nightmare.
Freelancers have other options, and we are looking for clear, professional, and mutually respectful interactions.
That was definitely not the case.
I was just trying to get a feel for the project, but the interviewers seemed determined to neg me.
I was angry at myself for fumbling that interview.
Not because they didn't choose me for the project. The interview was a huge red flag 🚩, so I was no longer interested in working with them anyway.
No, I disappointed myself by being powerless, not knowing how to push back in a professional way.
I was clueless as to how to defend myself without burning bridges. The latter is relevant because I might eventually have to deal with that company again in our family business.
I vowed to myself that the next time this happens (because it will), I will be prepared. So I brainstormed some sentences to flip the script when it's all stick and no carrot.
💬 1. Ask Direct Questions
"I’m sensing there are some concerns here. Could you share what specific qualities or experiences you’re looking for that you feel I might not meet?"
Translation: Let’s see if you can back up your negativity with something concrete.
💬 2. Highlight Their Approach
"I’ve noticed this interview has focused a lot on challenges and potential negatives. Is there a particular reason for that?"
Translation: Why so serious? Let’s balance this conversation out a bit.
💬 3. Turn the Question Around
If they hit you with something overly harsh, try, "That’s an interesting perspective. How does your team typically handle situations like this?"
Translation: Let’s talk about how you guys deal with these issues. I’m curious.
💬 4. Reframe the Situation
"It sounds like this project has a lot of potential challenges. What support does the team offer to ensure success?"
Translation: If you’re so worried, how about telling me how you plan to help?
💬 5. Emphasize Your Professional Standards
"I always strive to maintain a high standard of communication and professionalism in my work. What’s the typical communication style within your team?"
Translation: Let’s make sure we’re on the same page when it comes to professionalism.
💬 6. Use Silence Strategically
After a particularly harsh question, pause before responding. Let the silence do the talking.
Translation: Silence can be louder than words—let them sit with their negativity for a moment.
💬 7. Seek Clarification on Their Concerns
"It seems like there are some strong concerns about this role. Could you clarify what the biggest risks you see in bringing someone on for this project are?"
Translation: Spell out your concerns. Let’s see if they’re really justified.
💬 8. Politely Challenge Assumptions
"I’m curious about the assumptions behind that question. Could you elaborate on what led you to ask that?"
Translation: What’s the real reason you’re grilling me here?
💬 9. Redirect to Your Strengths
"I appreciate the focus on potential challenges. However, I’d love to highlight how my previous experience with [specific example] directly aligns with this role."
Translation: Let’s get back to what I bring to the table.
💬 10. Exit Gracefully
"It seems like there may be a disconnect in expectations. I believe it’s important for both parties to feel positive about a collaboration. Perhaps it’s best if we reconsider if this is the right fit."
Translation: I have options. If you don’t see my value, I’m out.
Use these techniques wisely, and you’ll not only navigate tough interviews with grace, but you might even leave the interviewer rethinking their approach.
After all, your career is all about knowing your worth and choosing who you want to work with. ✨
What advice would you give to someone struggling to find their path in their 30s?
Off the top of my head ...
Make a realistic assessment of yourself.
Your personal pros and cons. You need to center what you're good at, but you also need to pursue difficult goals and projects that you are not yet good at. Otherwise you'll never improve or learn anything new.
Let your childhood dreams guide you.
I wanted to be a writer as a little girl. Writing is now a big part of my job, but child me had creative writing in mind, so I now pursue this too in my spare time and I feel fulfilled.
Be decisive and move fast.
Timing is everything. When you make a decision, you need to execute as soon as possible, preferably immediately. If you don't, in a few weeks or months you'll cool down on the idea. Your circumstances will have changed, potential collaborators will get swept up in other stuff, etc. You'll give up and never do it. So just do it asap.
“If you find it in your heart to care for somebody else, you will have succeeded.”
—Maya Angelou
Manifesting 🙇🏻♀️✨
“Don't bend; don't water it down; don't try to make it logical; don't edit your own soul according to the fashion. Rather, follow your most intense obsessions mercilessly.” ― Franz Kafka
There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds.
(via purplebuddhaquotes)
Success<33
There are no secrets to success. It’s the result of preparation, hard work, and learning from your mistakes.
daily reminder that; there is no true success without peace of mind!
peace of mind for purity 🧘🏾♀️
with love,
B 🫀
11/09/2023
