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Navigating Friendship and Faith: My Recent Experience

Recently, I found myself in a bit of a dilemma involving a close friend and her evangelical church. It all started when she invited me to a wedding celebration at her church. During the event, the preacher mentioned that they had recently discussed turning people to God. At first, I joked about it with my friend, but soon I realized it might not be a joke after all.

She recently invited me to a Christian camp, and I didn’t know how to respond. Initially, I agreed to go, but then I lied, saying my parents wouldn’t pay for it (it costs 70 euros for two days). She was disappointed but later told me that the leader would allow me to come for free or at a very low cost. Now, I feel like I’ve dug myself into a hole.

This situation has been emotionally challenging for me. On one hand, I deeply value my friendship with her. She’s an amazing person, and we share so many interests and experiences. Losing her friendship over this would be heartbreaking. On the other hand, I feel uncomfortable with the pressure to participate in religious activities that don’t align with my beliefs.

To give you some context, I am an atheist. My family background is culturally Catholic and Orthodox, and we only observe religious holidays in a cultural sense. My parents, coming from different denominations, decided not to raise my siblings and me religiously to avoid arguments about our Christian upbringing. This has shaped my perspective and beliefs, making me hesitant to engage in religious activities.

I find myself torn between wanting to be honest with her and fearing that honesty might hurt our friendship. It’s a delicate balance, and I’m struggling to find the right words to express my feelings without causing offense or misunderstanding.

The thought of losing a friend over something like this is really upsetting. I keep questioning whether I’m overthinking the situation or if my concerns are valid. It’s been weighing heavily on my mind, and I wanted to share my experience here in hopes of finding some clarity.

Have any of you faced a similar situation? How did you handle it? I’d love to hear your thoughts and advice.

Update

Hey, sorry but I have an ask.

Any advice or recommendations for paranormal games with friends? I'm having a sleepover soon and want some good ones. I already know a few and need advice for these ones tho

Red door, Yellow door- I need advice for this one but I have google and the basics

Cat scratch cat- I feel like this one would be fun

Light as a feather, stiff as a board- Olivia Rodrigo moment lmfao I need advice

Any more ideas? Thanks.

Hey, sorry but I have an ask.

Any advice or recommendations for paranormal games with friends? I'm having a sleepover soon and want some good ones. I already know a few and need advice for these ones tho

Red door, Yellow door- I need advice for this one but I have google and the basics

Cat scratch cat- I feel like this one would be fun

Light as a feather, stiff as a board- Olivia Rodrigo moment lmfao I need advice

Any more ideas? Thanks.

Hey, sorry but I have an ask.

Any advice or recommendations for paranormal games with friends? I'm having a sleepover soon and want some good ones. I already know a few and need advice for these ones tho

Red door, Yellow door- I need advice for this one but I have google and the basics

Cat scratch cat- I feel like this one would be fun

Light as a feather, stiff as a board- Olivia Rodrigo moment lmfao I need advice

Any more ideas? Thanks.

Hey, sorry but I have an ask.

Any advice or recommendations for paranormal games with friends? I'm having a sleepover soon and want some good ones. I already know a few and need advice for these ones tho

Red door, Yellow door- I need advice for this one but I have google and the basics

Cat scratch cat- I feel like this one would be fun

Light as a feather, stiff as a board- Olivia Rodrigo moment lmfao I need advice

Any more ideas? Thanks.

Anyone have any advice for autistic people who struggle with Getting Things Done? Not sure what the term for it is but I don't do things unless I absolutely have to. Examples include not throwing away my food until its moldy and dangerous as a result, or only doing things unless someone forces me to.

!!need advice!!

i have stray cats that i feed on my porch and this little stray dog starts coming around now. but he keeps trying to "play" with the cats and now im worried he might attack them, because one of my cats wont even come on the porch anymore. is it wrong of me to call animal control or something?? i dont want him to be put down, but i also dont want my cats to be attacked.

I know I haven't posted in a while but I need advice on something. It bothers me....anyone who wants to give me advice please let me know...it's not about art.....it's about my University....

Y’know, sometimes I wonder if I am a fictionkin of Saw, X, and Kris (Deltarune).

I feel a really strong connection with them, mostly Saw. I have felt like this for a few months. I have also felt a connection with Kris for a few years now.

I also had a memory/flashback thing where I was Kris where they take out their soul at the end of chapter 1. I also like to imagine myself as Saw or X because it feels like it’s truly me and it makes me feel content with myself.

So if any of you guys know about FictKin, can you share some advice or maybe tell me if I could possibly be fiction kin.

uh guys do you have any tips for making a striped cat beanie on the sentro knitting machine? I’ve watched some videos but all of them have a row counter. I don’t. Oh and like the stitches to make the ears. And how to count rows without a row counter. UH YEA THANKS!!! Also this photo was from last night lol I was excited so I waved my hand legklfkfk

half a poem, half a rant

pretty pink lips and brown eyes like black holes i get sucked into every day

quite literally m my man but not really because he's not, we're just classmates

this is really stupid but I've known him for 5 months and I want him o love me

i want him, i crave him, i don't even know what that means

i want him to love me when we barely speak, and he has a lovely fr g" "girl best friend" who i can't tell if she's more than a best friend

and shes so nice,she's so pretty, and i have nothing against her and if anything i couldn't dare ruin their perfect

but i barely know anything because we barely speak, and i don't know how to speak to him

but the other day he gave me a gum wrapper heart

and i cling to that heart that token of hope, my chance of a chance with the most beautiful guy i've ever met

Question for yall:

Is 6,662 words too long for a second chapter?

The first was only like, 3,879 now that I’m looking at it.

Should I wrap this one up and post it, or break it in half or something????

I’m remembering why I avoided writing fanfics now. It’s because I am like Oscar fucking Wilde and I don’t know how to stop once the flood gates open.

I need advice. Help.

Is there anyone here that I can talk to about personal issues and just make a safe space for me and hear my thoughts? Please? Or just be a realistic positive distraction but without sugarcoating still.

Hit me up in the DMs, thx🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

Does anyone here ever experienced getting into college and chose a wrong major? I'm literally at the end of it and still got so much to do and it's usually hard to continue because there are still a few things that needs to be done, and these take time (often times idk if I wanna continue tbh). Anyone wanna share their stories and advices please or simply wanna be friends too?🥹

Hit me up in the DMs👋🏻📩

Why there are so much scammers on my account?

I recently opened this account. Already three scammers have asked me for money, and they all have those in common:

too much emojis

poor English

being too kind than normal Tumblr people

asking for money. Do I just anwser them "no", tag my post with #tumblr scam and other tags like this, or can I report them to the staff?

Help Me Im Confused!

Hey guys. I need some advice and second opinions bc im super confused about my sexuality. Im a 15 y/o cisgender girl and have always identified as straight but as im maturing ive found girls to be attractive. Ik thats kind of a "ok so ur bi" type of thing but it feels more complicated to me. Ive had a few crushes during my short life. Maybe like two long term ones. As ive come to find by talking with friends this is pretty unusual. Most of my friends at this time have liked a whole bunch of ppl. But all the ppl ive seriously liked r guys. And ive been in a relationship with 2 guys. But now im starting to find girls hot, and ive had fantasies of being intimate with a female. And the more i think about it im pretty sure i used to like my best friend for like a month or two in 7th grade. I super admired her and always wanted to be around her and thought she was pretty and smart. But i dont currently wanna date any girls ik. And most of the girls ik im not sexually attracted too. But thats all the same with the guys ik too. Im really only attracted to a person if i like their personality. Idrc what they look like. So im wondering if im straight, bisexual, or pansexual??? Ive taken some test online that tell me im bi. And there was one that told me im pan. But i kinda hate the labels. I just dont feel like straight fits me bc i think girls r attractive and i dont feel like bi or pan fits me bc ive never seriously like another girl. And ive imagined me living my life and telling ppl im bi but then i dont feel like i would have the need to broadcast my sexuality, take part in huge lgbt movements, or know and obsess over lgbt celebs just bc theyre lgbt as i feel all my other lgbt friends do. And when someone tells me theyre gay or lgbt im always like "cool ig?" not "omg really?!" cuz i honestly don't care about that i just care if ur a good person. Id see if i could date a girl to see how i feel about it but im currently in a relationship with a boy who i care about very much and dont want to break up with just bc of this. Hes bi and ive kind of talked to him about this but not much. Hes actually liked a couple guys for real unlike me whos maybe possibly liked another girl. If u have any advice feel free to message me or reblog. Sorry this was so long and if ur still here thanks for reading!

I have realize I am a genderfluid a few months ago. I told my mom and the rest of my family except my dad. But my mom one call me she/her pronouns she said it is because of my dad but she doesn't say they/them or he/him when my dad is not around. This hurts but I don't understand why. But recently I talk to her about get a chest binder but she said that is a bad idea because it will hurt. Then a few days later I stared gaming with my brother and talking about this with him and my mom was listening to our conversation but she only heard what I was saying and she texted my brother saying where is all of this coming from and why is she talking about altering her body. And ask her about what she meant by this. She said she just want to learned this stuff to but I feel like she lieing and trying to cover up what she really means. Then later I told her I could help her join this subreddit and she said maybe later. Am I overreacting over nothing. Also I have a question what is better a chest binder or Tape? Also is it weird I want to wear a chest binder only sometime or is it weird to wear one even though I am not trans? I am trying to figure out what feels right. Thank you for all the help

uhm!!! so like, i wanted to make a custom skin for rain world, and downloaded the dress my slugcat mod! i opened and tried to edit the template sprites in my drawing software (krita), however when the file was edited and saved, when i went into rain world it is still left unedited? like i edited the file, but in rain world it still shows up as the unedited version of the camplate i do not know what i did? perhaps i missed a step?? what do i do? if any of ya'll have advice or know what to do pls tell me!!! i am absolutely clueless (especially since this is my first time actually trying to make a sprite!)

Does a guy like you even if he gets embarrassed/uncomfortable when people think that you and him are dating?

I GET you dude.

I'm no professional but here is my opinion.

If you have a supportive sibling/cousin/aunt or anything, tell them first. Then plan a date to tell your parents, WITH the supportive person around as backup. This way if things go south, your not alone.

And they may except it- and they may not.

But remember you are living for YOU, not your parents, you need to do what makes you happy.

Good luck!

Hello Tumblr,

I need some advice

So I know there’s a good chance not many people will see this or take the time to read this but if anyone could give me some sort of idea on what to do, or tell me their personal experience, it would be really helpful.

I need advice on how to come out to my parents and deal with said coming out.

I know my parents are really chill and pretty progressive but I’m still scared. Every time I think of doing so I think, “just wait until college when they cant do anything, you have two more years” but im tired of tiptoeing around who I am. Im pretty open about most things, they know im in my schools LGBTQ club, im an art and theatre kid so I just tell them “oh you know the arts, a lot of my friends are queer so they wanted me to join this that or the other”. But i want to hang up a pride flag in my room, and be called by the name I want to be called by and the pronouns that feel right for me.

Coming out as a lesbian would be a bit scary because my parents may get suspicious with my female friends, since well, they’re all queer. But thats just a bit of it. Mostly I want to tell my parents I use they/them pronouns and I don’t want to be called my given name anymore. I have no idea how they would react to that. But it sucks to constantly be misgendered at home, at least at school some of my friends know and make an effort but at home theres nothing. Im just tired and scared and I don’t know what to do, so if anyone has any advice, feel free to leave it in the comments or message me. Thank you .