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Is it really Friday if Mother hasn’t spent an hour telling you you’re a failure at everything you do?

Happy Friday, Ya’ll.

GUYS ,A QUESTION?(genuely serious and imp question)

is it normal for parents to like...say things like

1 "tang toar dungi/dunga"

(TRANSLATION:" i will break your legs!")

2 "utha ke patak dunga/patk dungi"

( TRANSLATION:" i will pick up and thow you on the floor !" thtas the closets translation icould ghink of)

3 " jhapad padega zoor se ! "

(TRANSLATION: ill slap you really hard/you'll get slaped realy hard !)

4 " school se naam katwa ke ghar pe jhadu pocha karwane bethake shaadi karwadijaygi ! "

(TRANSLATION: "well have your name cut from school, well make you do cleaning , cooking, then mary you off ! ")

5 " mu tor dunga/dungi"

9TRANSATION : "ILL BREAK YOUR FACE !")

etc etc When your were 11? 7? 4? and even now? for the smalest of things and geting a sum wrong.

is it normal or is like the thrats of voilence just normalised in our culture. also non indians what are your thoughts on yhis ? how bad is this?

add on too this is it normal for them to throw things at you and break you stuff?

is it normal to get yelled at for wanting to sleep alone since i am nearly alomst going to be 16?

is it normal to get yelled at for wanting a closed door?am i wird for wanting a closecd door?

is it normal for my father to throw me on the floor when i was in 1st 2 nd grade and i did a sum the way my teacher told me and not the way he said and i told him this but he just threw me on the floor brfpore slaping and bashing my head?

is it normal for parents to say " why do you make me do this? i dont like doing this to you." and i have to aopligise?

i genuionly dont know if its normal,part of culture or what so plesae people any one got htoughts becuse i am drowining in guilt and would like outside perspective pleases

Wtf they actually portrayed asian parenting in a positive way and not just comedic this is new

This year's lantern rite talks about family. Ga Ming and his father has settled their differences through communication, somehow I also understand and see myself in Ga Ming when I was in his age, every time I'm having a dispute with my parents about plans and goals in life, I often walk away feeling mad and doesn't listen to what they say, to me its all the same, they don't understand and feel like they are always right. Somehow, as I grew older I often listen to their thoughts and understand what they mean, after all most of the parents wants what is best for their child, and so parents has also to listen to their children, it is always a two way communication to understand each other's perspective. In Ga Ming's quest, it shows that his father learn a thing or two from talking to someone , its better to have a second opinion and learn from the conversation, this way, it broadens the mind and be more open minded and understanding.

His talk with Zhongli opens his mind in understanding his child, being protective of your child and look out for their future is natural for a parent, however that doesn't mean you hold them from their passion and dream just because you feel and think that it is not something that can provide them with their basic needs, such as Ga Ming's passion of wushu dance, Yip Tak thought that dancing will never earn huge some of mora and Ga Ming might find hard to survive a day. In which case, Zhongli explains to him about kites and about someone's dream and goals.

A good example, is Miss Xianyun's parenting, she is giving her disciples to choose the path they want to go and guide them if they lost , protect them and understand them. On her story quest, you can see how cloud retainer takes care of her disciple giving them the freedom to make decision and understand them, even though there are some decisions from her disciples she does not agree but she supports them. In this way, it helps the child grow, know which path to choose and more importantly, they feel valued and respect their master in return, for Xianyun respects their decision all the time.

I think many players resonate about GaMing's journey and his passion, most of the asian households usually influence their child with the career path to choose , its because most parents thought that a career that is in demand, good pay and with achievement, can give their child a sense of security and income, will help them sufficiently provide their needs and wants. Because parents always look out for their child's future, to have a stable job and can provide themselves, to them, when they no longer in this world, it is a great relief for a parent to see their children that has a job that can provide any needs/wants, because they are having a stable job.

it took me 3 weeks to answer your texts because im suicidal due to me having to become my parents' parent, do you still care about me

Parents

My parents are literally so funny; they think parenting is just financially supporting the household and feeding us. It is as if that is they have the right to us. Like sir, madam, parenting has much more depth to it then that; even I know more about parenting than you who lived about twice the time I have ever lived. Please, it’s true you made those children but your children are not yours to manipulate and control or mold them into perfect shape, they’re their own person, you are just there to support them, not own them. And that’s on toxic parents. 

To: parents who have no idea about their child

The one thing that bugs me the most about parents is the phrase "I know everything about you." The amount of times I hear that phrase is uncountable. Also the funniest phrase to ever been told to me. It's so funny how parents seem to think they know about their child. Sorry to break it to you, Sir, Madam but their best friend might know better than you. Let me ask you if you think that way toward your children, do you know that your child cry themselves to sleep every night? alone in the dark where no one else knows? Or do you know how many times they were on the verge of giving up? Or that they have depression, anxiety, ADHD and many other more? Yeah that's what I thought. Do you know they cut up their flesh in order to cope? Or that they're emotionally unavailable and is trying hard to stay alive which you thought was laziness. Well let me enlighten you. it isn't. And I also like to bet you don't know they have trauma which was most likely caused by you either. So yeah I would like to sincerely ask you to stop spouting that lie, please and thank you.

from the struggling-to-stay-alive-teenager