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Any other Millennials out there that are having a difficult time with emotional regulation? Were you brought up to keep your feelings, complaining and whining to yourself? Were you told that big kids don't cry or told something along the lines of "Be brave, don't cry?" Were you raised to basically not to question authority, your elders or teachers at school? Basically any adult you came in contact with? I'm just genuinely curious because I've heard a few others my age that were raised in similar ways and I'm interested in knowing what struggles y'all face as adults today? Are you emotionally available? Or do you tend to suppress feelings that are considered "bad" ? Do you find yourself isolating when life isn't going right or if a conflict arises? Do you Flat out avoid conflict at all cost? Do you struggle with people pleasing and do you neglect your own needs just to keep everyone else happy? Do you struggle with mental health (Depression, Anxiety,etc)? Do you also struggle in your relationships and friendships due to the emotional unavailability?
If you dealt with that growing up and have since healed and unlearned that way of living, how did you go about healing, and how would you say your relationship is NOW with your Mom and Dad?
P.S. This isn't an attack on the Boomers 😂 who raised us, I know they did their best.
I love this quote 💜❤️💜❤️
I WISH someone would have told me about healing the Chakras a lonnnnng time ago, but thankful now as I have started
Thank you @emotionalmoonbot and everyone who got me to 5 reblogs!
Thanks you guys 🙏😁
This about sums it up 😁
Thoughts on this? Idk ..this just sits well with me for some strange reason
Won't raise my children to suppress their emotions and feelings like a lot of people in my generation's parents made them do 😢. I'm teaching them that it's ok to cry, I don't tell them to suck it up or to stop whining. I'm teaching them how to feel the emotions and how to ground and ways to release them. I'm also helping them find ways to calm down when they're experiencing their big feelings : bubble baths, going to read a book or to color/draw, going for a walk , practice breathing/"blowing out the candles" if it's a situation that's caused distress, or I'll rub their back. Not only that, I'm helping them become familiar with expressing those feelings and asking them: "What can I do to make it better?" So yea, this is the CORRECT, HEALTHY way to handle disappointment/hurt/anger/conflict, etc.
They really do 🤣💯 It is a little bit frustrating 😕
I'm not sure if this is allowed, but here is my personal Tik Tok. I need a certain amount of followers to have a chance to "go live", as they like to say. Ive never been the one for putting myself out here like this,but I just KNOW I have a niche, gift. I am wanting to help others and eventually become a Trauma Informed Spiritual Healer (or something similar) soI'm doing my best trying to reach the right people. I actually need some new friends. 😂 Because everyone I try to talk to about my spiritual journey believes I've lost my mind. I also find it unbearable these days to tolerate the small talk. I am a deep thinker and honestly have a hard time NOT being deep 😂 . If y'all don't mind please like and follow my TIK TOK. 💜 ❤️ So I can get one step closer to my goal !! Thanks!
Dear Younger Self,
You are ENOUGH.
"No" is a complete sentence.
Don't water yourself down to make others more comfortable.
Ask questions and form your own opinions
"Keeping the Peace" comes at the cost of YOUR peace.
Mistakes and failure are OKAY. It's how you learn. It's how you grow.
Never ignore your intuition...it never lets you down.
Your body is perfect the way it is, it's just the WORLD that's cruel and ugly.
Wear your bikini in confidence
You're a kind soul, you will attract broken people. Don't let them break you too.
Your Mental Health should be your TOP priority
It's ok to quit! Jobs, friendships, relationships..whatever.
You have so much love to give, try giving some of that love to yourself first.
Self Care is not selfish, it's necessary.
Resting, laying down and taking a nap is not LAZY.
Slow down, you don't always have to be in such a rush. Take it easy.
You are smart, brave, kind, strong 💪, funny, honest, a great friend, daughter, sister, granddaughter, and anyone would be lucky to have you in their corner.
You are not responsible for everybody's happiness.
It's ok to cry and it's ok to show your emotions. Crying is the way you heal. Do not be ashamed that you have emotions. It's brave TO cry, not the other way around.
Your career, your job, your grades, the college you attended do not define you as a person. You are worthy without having to live your life constantly trying to prove your worth to the world. You are worthy and important and special already just as you are.
You are going to do great Things in this life. Your heart is huge, you love hard, you are creative, adventurous, goofy, determined, you have compassion for everyone and everything on this planet, you are smart, thoughtful and the right people are going to love everything about you and more.
And because I know things, I am able to understand everyone else, but nobody is able to understand me.
SERIOUS QUESTION: How does one go about getting some good quality training in all things spiritual (life coach, etc) to become certified? I have been looking into it but cannot find anything legit?
Putting Myself FIRST
Before My Spiritual Awakening, I was just living like everyone else, I suppose, I like to joke around NOW, and refer to THAT way of living as “living on autopilot”. My mind was always full of self doubt, worry, fear of the unknown, unsure of who I was or why I was even here, even though I felt like I was missing something, but could never quite place my finger on it. I put up with a lot of people’s bad behavior, I allowed disrespect and simply put, I let everyone walk all over me, doing my absolute best to avoid conflict and would keep the peace at ANY cost, until I realized the cost was actually MY peace.
Oh, the lengths, we as empaths, will go to make sure everyone ELSE is happy and everyone else’s needs are met, thinking we’re actually one step ahead and at peace, not even realizing the resentment building deep inside our soul from not receiving to the same in return from the ones we try so hard to put before our own needs and wants. Over giving, taking on more responsibility than I could handle, and accepting behavior that I would NEVER again in my life imagine of allowing left me in a constant state of feelings defeated, not feeling good enough, unappreciated, taken advantage of, depressed, full of anxiety always worrying about failing or falling short..just plain, flat out unhappy and lacking what I know cherish most, my peace. Living that way my whole adult life eventually caught up with, as it ultimately will with everyone, and I suffered a huge emotional breakdown my last day at work back, which is also the day I quit. The workplace I was employed at affected me so greatly, and even after being advised from family, friends and even former co-workers to just leave, I stayed. I stayed because I felt comfortable, I knew what to expect every single day, including the disrespectful and sny remarks from co workers. I stayed because it fit my schedule as a single mother, having certain times I could work and in the field I was in at the time, the hours I HAD were unheard of and not many people were lucky Enough to receive such a flexible work schedule. So I traded my dignity, worth and emotional/mental health and overall well being for those hours, looking back.
Work wasn’t my only dilemma, of course. I had also personal problems, dealing with a very unhappy family (not my own children): Siblings and as great as my parents have been and ARE, them as well. My parents unintentionally treated me that way of course. I had also recently left a very abusive relationship where I dealt with not only physical abuse, but also verbal, emotional, financial and spiritual abuse and Was trying my best to move on as quickly as possible. Dealing with drinking, trying to numb out some of the pain, I was dealing with just a massive amount responsibility as a single mom taking care of her kids, living in fear of my life bc of my ex, taking on the emotional responsibility of my mother and sister, etc. On top of dealing with my own health issues and mental health. Depression , Anxiety, OCD to name a few. It wasn’t until one day (Yes, one VERY random day) I said : Enough is enough. It hasn’t occured to me, as silly as it sounds, until then, my mid 30’s, that you know what? THIS is not any way for anyone to live. I was like, “What about ME?” I MATTER too! I need love and support TOO! I need a break TOO! I need someone to listen to me as I cry TOO! I deserve to have my needs and wants met TOO! I deserve respect TOO! I deserve to be put first TOO! I remember the day and it was like a tsunami of emotions flooding the gate, it was overwhelming and all consuming. I remember, as well, having random flashbacks from my very blurry childhood that I didn’t realize at the time, were so far suppressed within me. I was angry. Appalled. I was FURIOUS and I felt like my life was a lie. And how could I have not even known? That’s crazy right? No. I know now that it was my body’s way of protecting myself. I had a lot of unresolved issues that NEEDED to be brought to light. Easy right? No. I had no idea I’d spend the next yr or so In isolation, due partly to depression, but also due to my anger and resentment I had developed after all the years towards very special people in my life.
THIS IS WHERE things got even more chaotic. This is where my whole entire way of thinking and view in life changed. I knew LIFE had to be more…