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Self Acceptance
Acceptance is different for many people. Sometimes it’s easy to accept yourself and your habits, wants, or needs. For others, it may not be so easy. I have never really thought of it before because I am one of those people where it comes very easily to me. However a few days ago someone needing my help came to me about a little space need not sitting well with them outside of their headspace even though they needed it to be happy and that’s what I’m explaining today.
*happiness
Happiness is something that most everyone desires, needs even to make it through their day to day life. However, if we stop our selves from being happy because what makes us happy is a little off putting then we are only making it worse for ourselves. As long as you’re not hurting anyone in any way that they have not fully consented to or hurting yourself then there’s no problem with wanting to be happy. It’s like having a favorite food combo that everyone finds weird or even you find weird and not enjoying it even though you know it tastes amazing. Happiness is not a crime.
*acceptance
Liking something out of the ordinary is not uncommon. Everyone has their own preferences, likes, dislikes, etc. again, as long as you’re not hurting anyone in any way that they have not fully consented to or hurting yourself then there’s no problem with it. If you like that pacifier at Walmart, you buy that pacifier! You like the tea set at toys r us? I’ll write the tea party invitations for you! Diapers put you in your headspace? Diaper up and giggle away! My point is that even if you think your likes, hobbies, headspace activities, or anything else you like to do is out of the ordinary, just remember that if it makes you happy, relaxes you, de stresses you, or puts you in your headspace then there’s nothing wrong with it. Not even in the slightest.
That’s all for today. I hope this is a help to anyone who needs it. If you want help with anything specific or need to talk to someone my asks and inbox are always open day or night. Be good, stay safe, and have fun!
Safe words!
We’re talking safewords words today kiddos. In my opinion, they are one of the most important aspects in this community next to communication but they also go hand in hand. A safeword is a word used during a scene or 24/7 sub/dom (and the nsfw side of cg/l) dynamic. It needs to be something you would never accidentally say while in the moment or just in everyday life.
Common Safe words-
* green for go
* Yellow for slow down or need a break
* Red for stop immediately
I refer to this as coloring out and I’ve seen the term used a lot in the community. I believe that while doing an intense scene or pushing your subs limits you should check on them throughout by asking their color.
Other Safeword suggestions
* pineapple
* Unicorn
* Dragon
* Freeze
* Mango
* Phone number (from a book. It’s actually sad)
* Ladybug
* Apple
* Drop
The list could go on and on and on. It just has to be a random word that will get your doms attention quickly. Doms who do not listen to safe words are to be avoided at all costs. This is very bad and very dangerous for the submissive, safewords are there to protect you. Not to be taken lightly.
Those are verbal safewords, if the sub can not speak for this or that reason then there are still ways to give them the ability to safeword.
* hold a ball in your hand. Drop it to safeword.
* A small metal bar, drop to safeword
* Tap a designated spot on your body
* Clap( if possible)
* If not, shake your hands(like jazz hands)
* A button strapped to the subs palm, press it so it makes an alerting noise
These can also go on and on. It is really just what works for you and what will get your doms attention efficiently.
A fair amount of new subs or subs with a new dominant do not like to safeword because they feel it makes them look weak, this is absolutely not the case. Safewords are always appropriate whenever they are needed! Do not force yourself to do something you are not comfortable with to please anyone! They are meant to keep you safe, comfortable, and happy.
That’s all for today. Be good, be safe, and have fun!
What caregivers really do after bedtime haha.
Dom Drop and Sub Drop
Okay lovelies I will be covering subdrop AND domdrop tomorrow. It’s gonna be long. It’s gonna be extensive but if there’s anything you feel should definitely be in there or an experience you’ve personally had with either of them and you want me to add what helped you or how you knew what was going on or the symptoms you feel need to be covered let me know!!!! Either through anon or messages my inbox is always open but with such a serious topic I want to make sure I cover every base possible. Thank you for all your help lovelies!! Be good, be safe, and have fun!
Subdrop
For the multi-roll labeling purpose today I’m going to refer to it as Drop. Drop happens usually after an intense scene but can also happen after any scene if it was particularly pleasurable and draining. Drop is the result of your brain releasing “happy chemicals” and adrenaline in large doses during a scene and then your body and mental state going through a withdrawal essentially because they are not coming in at such high doses after the scene has ended. For subs it usually happens within a day or two of the scene. However, for doms it could be several days before it kicks in and really hits you. It’s especially bad for subs and doms with anxiety or self doubt. I will be covering both subdrop and domdrop today because they are both very real and could potentially be very dangerous.
Subdrop-
Subdrop tends to happen a day or two after a scene. It does not always happen but those no real way to guarantee it won’t happen so it’s good to keep an eye out for it any time. There are a lot of different ways it can show up. Let’s talk about the physical things first
- It can show up as feeling like a hangover
- like you stayed up too late (even if you got more than enough sleep)
- you could wake up feeling just off
- Drop can be associated with feelings of loneliness, mental and physical exhaustion, confusion, insecurity, tremors and many other physical symptoms.
Not so random fact: pain can make you tired. You’re going to feel it and it’s going to wear your energy down, and your body is going to be short on chemicals to give you a boost. This can make you crash and suddenly become exhausted, and being tired can make you emotional.
Honestly, the emotional side is the more dangerous half. Emotions can wreak havoc on our logic,you could be great one minute like normal, then suddenly you’re completely out of it and it can be mental torture.
- you could feel abandoned
- Depression(especially if you already have it on a daily basis)
- Even feeling unloved is common during subdrop.
Subdrop can not be prevented or avoided entirely. You can try but there’s no sure fire way to do so. Here’s how to help subdrop:
- If you can get to your dom and they can help you calm down and reassure you with cuddles and words that works fairly well for most people.
- COMMUNICATION( I really can not say that enough) Text or call your Dom as soon as possible.
- if you can’t get a hold of them, you need to stop and evaluate.
- Remind yourself that sub drop is normal
- remind yourself of what happened during and after the session.
- There should have been some type of aftercare, go back to that moment and stay there.
- Remember how loved you felt, hold on to the fact that your dom cares for you.
- Take your self to a happy place with happy and positive thoughts
If you’re feeling a little emotional, think of what makes you feel better when you’re sick (because you kind of are). A warm blanket, a bubble bath, candy, a favorite drink, music, etc. If you are someone who likes to journal, keep a notebook with you to write out how you feel to get the words out and down, this might also help you clear your head before you talk to your Dom.
Okay I know I was supposed to have this up a while ago but I had several things come up. I just recently got a new job and that’s been taking up a lot more of my free time which was sparse enough since I try to meet with my friends often. As you can see this only covers subdrop. I’m not confident in the level of research I’ve been able to do on domdrop and don’t want to give vague or incorrect information to you guys. I’ll try to get it done soon but no promises. I will also be at daughters of the moon which is a Wiccan event this weekend so contact and any sort of posting will be delayed until at least Monday. As always be good, stay safe, and have fun!
Hey guys. I had to go on a bit of a hiatus to fix a few things in my life and help a few friends get through some things. I hope to be posting again soon but I am currently on a road trip and I have a convention after that and then I’m moving for college so I’ve got a lot to do between now and mid July but after that I should be back to our regularly scheduled program. Still feel free to message me or send me asks, I really do love answering those, and I will be active as much as possible besides full on posting. This is caregiver signing out, be good, stay safe, and have fun!
Just found it funny that this is casual conversation for me and my friends. I’ve also been called “The Mom That Gives”. Being the mom friend is so nice. Anyways I’m all settled into the new place for the most part. I should be back to posting soon but I’m also still looking for a job so when that happens I might have to slow down a bit. I’ve seen a few people saying their ask box isn’t working so if you’ve sent me an ask or a message and haven’t gotten any sort of reply then please contact me on my kik: Freshie_Fangirl or my Snapchat by the same name. That’s all for now, be good, be safe, and have fun!
Talking with my friend. He hasn’t been happy in space in a while and definitely usually doesn’t accept compliments. I’m so proud of how far he’s come
Sprinkle Jar Craft
So I have a *small* obsession with candles and candle melts so today me and my little friend made jars with shredded candle melts or “sprinkles” in them so you can mix and match smells in a candle wax warmer! These were super cute and super fun to make so I thought I’d share it here. It’s easy and fun to do either alone or with your little or cg or just a group of friends!
You’re gonna need
-candle melts
-exacto knife
-jelly jars(any size works!)
*optional
-paint
-glitter
-paint brushes
-mod podge
-anything else you want to decorate the jars with!
First you wanna shred up your candle melts. You might want to have supervision for this little loves and be careful! Take the exacto knife and cut thin slices off the candle melts and put them into the jars. If you’re using yankee candle candle melts then they should just crumble up no problem and no knife needed!
You wanna do that till all the jars are full but not all the way to the top. You can fill as few or as many jars as you want!
Next we painted the lids white and let them dry, this might take a few coats to get them all white!
After that we put mod podge on the top part of the lid and coated it with glitter. I ended up doing two coats to make it extra sparkly. I used a bowl to put the excess glitter in so I could pour it back in the jar later
Then we let everything dry and put the lids on the jars and here’s what we had!
And that’s it! That’s all for today lovelies. It’s been a while so I wanted something fun for you guys to do! I hope you enjoy and if you make any I’d love to see them! Be good, be safe, and have fun!
Um I need some advice... basically I was in an abusive relationship where my little side was considered a chore to deal with. Now it’s hard for me to fully get into littlespace. I’m with someone now and he says he’s been a daddy in a relationship before and that he’s comfortable being my daddy, but it’s hard for be to get in that space outside of sex. Have any advice??
Oh jeez I’m so sorry I’m just now seeing this, well I guess it’s a matter of trust. The more comfortable you get with him, the easier it should be for you to go into space and trust him to take care of you. Your headspace should never be seen as a chore. It’s a safe space for you to go and relax and letting someone in on that takes time and trust. You’ll get there sweet pea.
Do you happen to foster littles or know anyone who does?
I think I have an idea of what you mean but message me and we can talk about it lovely
For all my lovelies who might need a little nudge to help yourself. I know this may not change your mind on what you think people might do but hopefully it gives you a bit of confidence to do something that will help make being social just a little easier for you. I’ve had friends call me mid-anxiety attack because of having to socialize without something to help ease their mind. I hope this helps even one of you, then I will have done my job. Be good, be safe, and have fun!
God I really wish carrying stuffed animals around with you was socially acceptable
Let Me Be Sappy For A Minute
Okay so it’s very late for me and unfortunately I can’t sleep. I’ve been hoping from one ASMR video to the next and no luck. However, with a lot of those being from Karuna Satori (actual goddess of my sleep schedule) I feel like being sappy because I feel like I haven’t touched base and interacted with you guys a lot. I love all of you dearly whether we talk or not and no matter how small this blog is currently it always lifts my mood to know that in some capacity, no matter how miniscule it is, I’ve been able to help SOMEONE, or make them smile for the first time that day, or helped them solve a problem or hell, even just help with their homework! I’ve done something to make someone’s life just a bit better and that’s all thanks to you guys. I’ve moved back home and gotten in a much better mental state than I was in July. I have two jobs, one of which is my dream job that I wake up ready and excited to go to everyday and it finally feels like things are working out. Thank you guys, so so much. I truly do love and appreciate all of you. As always, be good, be safe, and have fun.
Bought my first piece of furniture that is completely mine. Not a hand me down or bought with money I didn’t earn. Wish I had a little to cuddle with because it has the perfect space for a blanket fort 😔
So um I have a mommy thing.... and it’s hard to come out and say yes I like being lg for mommy than daddy but it hard to meet a female that like that and I guess my reason is because I was raised without my mom in my life but I am bisexual I find mommy more better any thoughts on how I could meet someone
Hey there sweet pea! Sad to say but I get this one a lot. Finding a caregiver is the same as dating just with a few extra requirements. The best advice I can give is just to put yourself out there and talk to people. There are plenty of mommy run blogs such as this one on here and groups on apps like whisper. You could even try a few groups on Facebook and that may also help you find your local community. My one big warning is to be careful of what you send other people. Especially if you are doing something online only. Take your time and get to know people. The internet will let you meet a much larger pool of people than just sticking to your local community however, it also means that you may come across many more people who are only after sex or nudes or to hurt you. Keep an eye out for red flags and if you’re unsure then ask someone for their opinion. More often than not, someone who is unbiased can see more than you can. That’s as much advice as I can give on that and feel free to message me if you have any more questions lovely. Be good, be safe, and have fun!
( ; ~ ; ) Same...
Reasons i need a caregiver
• i forget to take my medicine
• i forget to eat
• i only get three hours of sleep
• i drink to much dairy (for us lactose intolerant littles)
• i don’t get my work done
• i feel lonely
• i have more anxiety attacks
• i’m more depressed
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