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The kind of love that stars have died for.
i need EVERY lesbian to understand that you NEED to sit down and listen to lesbians who are transfem, trans women, intersex & MtF. this is not optional: this is vital information that cannot be ignored, and if you choose to refuse to listen, you are 100% an unreliable resource of information on lesbian, sapphic & dyke identities and experiences, as you are choosing to totally misrepresent the entire lesbian community.
i don't give a shit about personal politics anymore. i don't care if you don't agree with transfems and trans women. i don't care how you view our genders & biological sexes. we cannot stifle the conversation on lesbian gender identity in this way because it's holding all of us down. we cannot single out and target transfeminine lesbians in order to try to give people a more "accurate" depiction of the lesbian experience. this conversation is mandatory. it cannot be ignored. we NEED to have these conversations whether or not the ears they're falling on are receptive.
trans women and transfems are people first and foremost and our lives matter. it doesn't matter how you view us, we are people, and that means that our lives inherently have value, and our experiences deserve to be heard and respected
the experiences that lesbians who are transfem, trans women, MtF & intersex have are legitimate lesbian experiences, the good and the bad, the euphoric and the ugly, the beautiful and the vulnerable. again it does not matter what someone else thinks about a transfeminine lesbian: it does not negate the fact that they are a lesbian. and the specifically transfeminine lesbian experience needs to be heard- transfem lesbians don't deserve to have our genders erased in order to be seen as lesbians
the euphoria and personal fulfillment lesbians, dykes, and sapphics who are transfem, trans women, intersex & MtF experience needs to be heard. the powerful bonds, friendships, relationships and connections transfeminine+ lesbians go through need to be heard. the rich history of deeply sapphic love and treatment of lesbians, womens and transfemmes needs to be heard. the tenderness, the gentleness, the strength in vulnerability in transfeminine+ lesbians needs to be heard
there have been countless stories of cis lesbians and women learning how to love and appreciate their own womanhood and lesbianism through meeting and listening to trans women, transfemmes and trans lesbians. many women feel uncomfortable being women until they meet someone who is passionate about being a woman, and loves every moment of it. many lesbians learn to love lesbianism again because they see someone who is so proud and happy to be a dyke, the euphoria in being and living what they are and love inspires many cis women and lesbians to live the same lives, with a passion for womanhood, lesbianism, femininity, and sapphism. many women and lesbians say they learned to fall in love with women all over again thanks to trans women, transfemmes, and trans lesbians.
the connection to both womanhood and masculinity that transfeminine, MtF and trans female butch lesbians feel is not invalidating to anyone else. it does not erase the fact that we are butch. MtF, transfeminine and trans female butches struggle to be seen as themselves and this deserves to be heard. it doesn't matter if someone is born MtF, they can still very well be butch. that invalidates nothing. many cis female butches pack and/or get or want phalloplasties... it's not a problem that some butches are born with dicks.
the experiences that transfeminine+ butches have with the butch identity are crucial in the conversation about butch lesbians on the whole. transfem butches are people who know who they are and want to live their lives according to our own views on womanhood, lesbianism, sapphism, and transness- no transfeminine, trans female, intersex or MtF lesbian deserves to be told they're not butch, because they're living the butch experience every day, whether or not a stranger refuses to acknowledge that.
trans femme lesbians who struggle to be seen as femmes need your support and listening ears now. trans femmes shouldn't have to over perform femininity in order for you to see them as femmes, women, lesbian, sapphics and dykes. it doesn't matter how a trans femme looks, acts or presents. listening to trans femmes talk about what the trans femme lesbian experience specifically looks like is crucial in liberating all femmes, so that we don't put any of them through unnecessary stress when it comes to their identities as lesbians. we don't need to refuse to listen to transfeminine, trans female, MtF, intersex and beyond femme lesbian experiences when talking about lesbianism on the whole.
T4T trans lesbian experiences are extremely important in this discussion, whether or not someone else wants to view it as "real" lesbianism. trans lesbians being drawn to one another, regardless of they're transfem, transmasc, transneutral, or something else, the experiences trans lesbians share with one another are an extremely important part of our community and cannot be ignored when talking about lesbianism on the whole. this encompasses an absolutely massive part of our community
silencing transfeminine, transfemale, MtF, intersex, and related lesbian experiences will not make them stop happening. transfeminine lesbians will not stop existing because you refuse to acknowledge our lesbianism. it doesn't do anyone any favors to go through hoops and perform mental gymnastics in order to invalidate these experiences, sequester them off on their own, or say that they are antithetical to lesbianism.
the lesbian community is rich in diversity. we must listen to all parts of our community in order to remain strong and connected. we must bond over our unique differences in order to foster a healthy community that sticks up for one another when necessary, and loves each other deeply without question. we are not here to judge people as if to let them into a secret club- transfem, intersex, trans female, MtF, and beyond lesbians are lesbians whether or not you approve of us using the label or not.
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Got a few similar messages like this, so I think it’s time to make a little resource list about everything transgender related:
Basics:
Legal status of Transgender people - list of countries and their various transgender rights
Queer and Trans Spectrum Definitions - basic reference guide to common words
Non-surgery options:
Gender Affirming Gear and Clothing Brands - definitions, methods without surgery and brand suggestions
Voice training:
Masculinize your voice - Transmasculine voice - FtM voice Training (all for pre-T)
E-girl voice tutorial - Girl voice tutorial - How to do a girl voice - How to do the druew voice
Tips & Tricks:
How to hide a large chest - FtM passing tips - FtM make up - coping with being pre-T
Boy to Girl make up tutorial (beginner) - Boy to Girl Transformation tutorial - The Transfemme Field Guide
HRT:
Masculinizing Hormone Therapy - taking testosterone, how it works and what to expect
Feminizing Hormone Therapy - taking estrogen, how it works and what to expect
FtM Surgery Options & Details:
Top Surgery - removal of breasts
Facial masculinization - facial surgery
The Difference Between a Metoidioplasty and a Phalloplasty - masculinizing bottom surgery
Deciding between phalloplasty and metoidioplasty PDF - masculinizing bottom surgery
MtF Surgery Options & Details:
Breast Augmentation - breast implants
Voice feminization - vocal cord surgery
Facial feminization - facial surgery
Vaginoplasty - feminizing bottom surgery (with vaginal canal)
Vulvoplasty - feminizing bottom surgery alternative (without vaginal canal)
Note: there are no explicit images, however some sites offer additional links to stores that sell realistic looking private parts or links to surgeon galleries where one can view post-op results (which come with proper warnings)
When my girlfriend goes to bed and I get happy thinking about her, I go on yuri art binges and get even happier to have her in my life.
What have y'all found to be subtle ways to express yourself when you've been deep in the closet for your own safety? I'm in that position at home and I'm drowning. I can't dress differently. I can't even think about coming out or looking at HRT. It feels like I'm stuck, entirely, looking like and acting like a guy and I honestly can't think of a more suffocating thing.
Like/reblog if you think that you don't need to medically transition to be transgender
this is how I look going to a party..
People keep asking if it's really me on my profile. Yes, those are pics of me. Taken at age 58 in this photo, what do you think ?
This was from 2018, age 57 ready for the next scene shoot in an Independent feature film. Fun project!
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These have been my wishes all my life until 2005 when I promised to myself to live my authentic self from this day and everyday forward. I flipped off society and my family and now am the happiest woman I've ever been. I'd be the happiest woman in the world if not for societies ignorance and hatred and thus financial struggles. But that still does not change how happy I feel inside. People ask me if I regret living my correct gender. Oh hell no, I'd never go back to pretending, hiding my true self. That caused me severe depression. Why would I live for how others want me to live? That's just so wrong.
It's genetic and biological. It's past down in bloodlines. It usually skips a generation, but not always, before the gene expresses itself again. Overs 3000 peer reviewed papers have been published on transgender. In 1887 the medical establishment declared trans people, (although they didn't use transgender as that was not used yet) a subset of intersex. It's has a genetic connection. This is science, people
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Like/reblog if you think that you don't need to medically transition to be transgender
Starting transition relatively late is so weird. I went 30 years feeling like a sort of formless cloud and it's now like "wow, I guess I do have a body." I always felt kind of apathetic towards aging before, but knowing I'm going to become an old lady instead of an old man is so so so much better.
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green/blue are bigger color spectrums imho so they get more options
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