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Reblog to have something lgbt happen to you this summer
so many of the transfems i know spent their time pre-transition performing a kind of lifelong exercise in self-deprivation. the goal, for them, was to find out exactly how little a person needed to live. they starved themselves, dressed carelessly, shunned friends, and hollowed themselves out so as not to be burdens on anyone but themselves.
i see it now, too, in the girls around me. i'll ask if they want care – a home-cooked meal, relaxed company, sex without the expectation of reciprocation – and they say no, no, thank you, i don't need it; what would you like, what do you want, because in their head they're still doing that awful calculus, still training themselves to disappear in the eyes of the people around them.
i don't think i'd have died without transition – not in the conventional sense, at least – but to take that leap, i had to stop thinking of myself as a human experiment in fuel-efficient living and start nurturing the anemic, atrophied flame of desire in my heart. i had to learn to eat well, to exercise, to style myself beautiful, but harder than that, i had to learn to ask the people around me to work on my behalf in order to enrich my life and give me the things i wanted.
and i did it; i learned. and it was agony, but courage is a muscle you can train, and every day i get better at accepting gifts with the hungry gratitude i never learned in my years and years as a sad, scared, lonely boy.
so be patient with the trans girls in your life. better than that: be proactive, attentive, generous; be forceful, if you have to, and learn to distinguish real discomfort from the terrified reflex of self-deprivation that so many of us learned to rely on.
and if you are so lucky as to love a trans girl, you must insist upon her. you must insist upon her happiness, her comfort, her pleasure, and her rest, because she may still not yet know how to make those demands for herself. if you can devote any amount of energy to becoming an engine that nurtures the flame of even a single tgirl then there is a place for you in trans heaven, which as far as i'm concerned is the only one worth going to
closeted trans women are beautiful
trans women who can’t/don’t want to be on HRT are beautiful
trans women who can’t get/don’t want any kind of surgery are beautiful
trans women with deep voices are beautiful
tall trans women are beautiful
trans women who have not/don’t plan to change their name are beautiful
trans women with flat chests are beautiful
hairy trans women are beautiful
trans women are beautiful
*Screaming at my enby non passing transasc ass* YES. A MILLION TIMES THANK YOU.
I've been seeing a disturbing number of "queer safe spaces" describe themselves as things like "femme & them" and even worse "she+," conflating femininity & nonbinaryhood. cease this immediately. say it with me: nonbinary people are NOT women-lite and it is extremely violent and straight up incorrect to imply that all they/thems are fem adjacent. this is erasure and this verbiage does nothing but make gnc and nonbinary spaces unsafe for masc and male nonbinary people. nonbinary, genderqueer and other third gender people can be and are masculine and men, we can be hes as well as shes and theys, stop allowing yourself and your peers to view nonbinary as woman/femme-lite, signed a butch nonbinary person.
Transfem butches, reblog if you agree
To all the trans people worried about how you’ll be treated once you’re just bones:
Anthropology has known about gender diversity for decades, centuries even. And the newer archaeologists are taught that the most we can test for with hard sciences is your sex. Not your gender. We can figure out if you’re intersex, but also as science will evolve, we’ll also know if you took hormones (bone density and characteristics), implants don’t degrade, your burial clothes will probably be synthetic, we’ll notice your hair length, what you’re buried with, maybe even the markers you left behind.
And there will be a good chance someone trans (even better just queer in general) will look at your file. Your data and artifacts, and see themself in you. Catch that you are their elder, and help aid the identification of your gender.
There’s a good chance you’ll be seen, and if not then that’s okay, because the people handling you will know better than to assume wrong.
H. Melt, “There Are Trans People Here” (2021)
shoutout to masculine presenting nonbinary people, and I don't just mean hairless AFAB twinks (though they are included). The fact that people even need to make posts about this sort of thing is so sad, and just shows how anti masculinity queer people can be. Those 'she+' or whatever spaces I've seen mentioned by other people are just so sickening, because you know they draw the line at those of us who are a little too masc. "We need to protect women and AFABs!" okay, so you're demonizing masculinity, one, you're infantilizing women, two, and you appear to be lumping every AFAB person with women, three. How is that NOT harmful?
transphobes calling trans people confused for their gender is just a cover up for the fact that the transphobe is confused. I know you cannot fathom the complexities of my gender, but that's not my issue lmfao.
i need EVERY lesbian to understand that you NEED to sit down and listen to lesbians who are transfem, trans women, intersex & MtF. this is not optional: this is vital information that cannot be ignored, and if you choose to refuse to listen, you are 100% an unreliable resource of information on lesbian, sapphic & dyke identities and experiences, as you are choosing to totally misrepresent the entire lesbian community.
i don't give a shit about personal politics anymore. i don't care if you don't agree with transfems and trans women. i don't care how you view our genders & biological sexes. we cannot stifle the conversation on lesbian gender identity in this way because it's holding all of us down. we cannot single out and target transfeminine lesbians in order to try to give people a more "accurate" depiction of the lesbian experience. this conversation is mandatory. it cannot be ignored. we NEED to have these conversations whether or not the ears they're falling on are receptive.
trans women and transfems are people first and foremost and our lives matter. it doesn't matter how you view us, we are people, and that means that our lives inherently have value, and our experiences deserve to be heard and respected
the experiences that lesbians who are transfem, trans women, MtF & intersex have are legitimate lesbian experiences, the good and the bad, the euphoric and the ugly, the beautiful and the vulnerable. again it does not matter what someone else thinks about a transfeminine lesbian: it does not negate the fact that they are a lesbian. and the specifically transfeminine lesbian experience needs to be heard- transfem lesbians don't deserve to have our genders erased in order to be seen as lesbians
the euphoria and personal fulfillment lesbians, dykes, and sapphics who are transfem, trans women, intersex & MtF experience needs to be heard. the powerful bonds, friendships, relationships and connections transfeminine+ lesbians go through need to be heard. the rich history of deeply sapphic love and treatment of lesbians, womens and transfemmes needs to be heard. the tenderness, the gentleness, the strength in vulnerability in transfeminine+ lesbians needs to be heard
there have been countless stories of cis lesbians and women learning how to love and appreciate their own womanhood and lesbianism through meeting and listening to trans women, transfemmes and trans lesbians. many women feel uncomfortable being women until they meet someone who is passionate about being a woman, and loves every moment of it. many lesbians learn to love lesbianism again because they see someone who is so proud and happy to be a dyke, the euphoria in being and living what they are and love inspires many cis women and lesbians to live the same lives, with a passion for womanhood, lesbianism, femininity, and sapphism. many women and lesbians say they learned to fall in love with women all over again thanks to trans women, transfemmes, and trans lesbians.
the connection to both womanhood and masculinity that transfeminine, MtF and trans female butch lesbians feel is not invalidating to anyone else. it does not erase the fact that we are butch. MtF, transfeminine and trans female butches struggle to be seen as themselves and this deserves to be heard. it doesn't matter if someone is born MtF, they can still very well be butch. that invalidates nothing. many cis female butches pack and/or get or want phalloplasties... it's not a problem that some butches are born with dicks.
the experiences that transfeminine+ butches have with the butch identity are crucial in the conversation about butch lesbians on the whole. transfem butches are people who know who they are and want to live their lives according to our own views on womanhood, lesbianism, sapphism, and transness- no transfeminine, trans female, intersex or MtF lesbian deserves to be told they're not butch, because they're living the butch experience every day, whether or not a stranger refuses to acknowledge that.
trans femme lesbians who struggle to be seen as femmes need your support and listening ears now. trans femmes shouldn't have to over perform femininity in order for you to see them as femmes, women, lesbian, sapphics and dykes. it doesn't matter how a trans femme looks, acts or presents. listening to trans femmes talk about what the trans femme lesbian experience specifically looks like is crucial in liberating all femmes, so that we don't put any of them through unnecessary stress when it comes to their identities as lesbians. we don't need to refuse to listen to transfeminine, trans female, MtF, intersex and beyond femme lesbian experiences when talking about lesbianism on the whole.
T4T trans lesbian experiences are extremely important in this discussion, whether or not someone else wants to view it as "real" lesbianism. trans lesbians being drawn to one another, regardless of they're transfem, transmasc, transneutral, or something else, the experiences trans lesbians share with one another are an extremely important part of our community and cannot be ignored when talking about lesbianism on the whole. this encompasses an absolutely massive part of our community
silencing transfeminine, transfemale, MtF, intersex, and related lesbian experiences will not make them stop happening. transfeminine lesbians will not stop existing because you refuse to acknowledge our lesbianism. it doesn't do anyone any favors to go through hoops and perform mental gymnastics in order to invalidate these experiences, sequester them off on their own, or say that they are antithetical to lesbianism.
the lesbian community is rich in diversity. we must listen to all parts of our community in order to remain strong and connected. we must bond over our unique differences in order to foster a healthy community that sticks up for one another when necessary, and loves each other deeply without question. we are not here to judge people as if to let them into a secret club- transfem, intersex, trans female, MtF, and beyond lesbians are lesbians whether or not you approve of us using the label or not.
Friendly reminder that there are no "male" or "female" levels of estrogen or testosterone. Every single person on the planet has varying degrees of what they need to function at their best, cis or not. "Higher" levels quite literally do not make you more feminine or masculine (excess of either will turn into the reverse), and "lower" levels are fine if they're what you best function at. There are levels that are enough to result in puberty, but like.. That level is different for everyone.
should i try to post tummy pictures on tuesday hmmmm? i hate how my body looks but maybe someone will find it attractive and it would lift someones mood? maybe there are other creatures and things who look like me and do not see enough representation and i cold make their day better? maybe it would help me and others accept and love ourselfs? not shure, don't know yet
uhm so here it goes i guess, keep reading to find my nipples
anyways this is me half a year ago when i still had a bed to sleep on in a bra i stole from my partner? the best picture of me to this day or the photo i hate the least i guess
should i try to post tummy pictures on tuesday hmmmm? i hate how my body looks but maybe someone will find it attractive and it would lift someones mood? maybe there are other creatures and things who look like me and do not see enough representation and i cold make their day better? maybe it would help me and others accept and love ourselfs? not shure, don't know yet
Like/reblog if you think that you don't need to medically transition to be transgender
People keep asking if it's really me on my profile. Yes, those are pics of me. Taken at age 58 in this photo, what do you think ?
Please REBLOG!
These have been my wishes all my life until 2005 when I promised to myself to live my authentic self from this day and everyday forward. I flipped off society and my family and now am the happiest woman I've ever been. I'd be the happiest woman in the world if not for societies ignorance and hatred and thus financial struggles. But that still does not change how happy I feel inside. People ask me if I regret living my correct gender. Oh hell no, I'd never go back to pretending, hiding my true self. That caused me severe depression. Why would I live for how others want me to live? That's just so wrong.
It's genetic and biological. It's past down in bloodlines. It usually skips a generation, but not always, before the gene expresses itself again. Overs 3000 peer reviewed papers have been published on transgender. In 1887 the medical establishment declared trans people, (although they didn't use transgender as that was not used yet) a subset of intersex. It's has a genetic connection. This is science, people
REBLOG if you would date a trans woman 🌸
If you see this flapper around, she always needs a stiff drink........Please accommodate her!
Careful if you encounter this villain! She may pull out her pistol and shoot!
In dire need of financial help! I'm 5 months behind in rent and cannot afford to pay monthly living expenses. Please help me if you can even spare $5 will help. Please reblog and share for me. Thank you for your kindness
