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may i also add that its not always adults (victims and/or perpetrators)?
coc r@pe exists
also that you dont have to touch someone to rap3 them?
non-contacte r@pe exists
all types of sa victims are valid, no matter your gender, age, weight, race etc.
all types of sa are NOT OKAY, no matter your excuse rap3 is the ONLY crime that cannot be validated, and is therefore the worst crime (imo)
boys will be held accountable for their actions and if that means getting my hands dirty, so be it
No matter what I was wearing,
And no matter where I could go,
Clothes do not mean yes
And no will always mean no.
Short as my skirt may have been,
And though I may have looked my best,
You did not ask for consent,
And I did not say yes.
I can still recall your hands
Where they should not have strayed,
And I will always remember
While for you it was just another day.
How many have fallen victim to you
And others who act the same?
Why are you still free to roam
And we get told to change our ways?
“I’m not afraid of God, I am afraid of men.” -Marina
I'm genderfluid and prefer presenting male most of the time, and I can attest to this. It hasn't happened irl because I'm technically "still in the closet", but online I've had to block multiple women because of sexual harassment. Most of the cis women I've met have been very toxic people, and it's honestly ruined my view of women for the most part.
something terves and transphobes love to leave out of their conversations is how often trans men & mascs are preyed upon by cisgender women. cisgender women are among some of the most frequent sexual abusers of trans men and they can be so casual about it
i had an old best friend who i was not even remotely attracted to in the slightest who aggressively began trying to get me to sleep with her after i came out as a trans man and continued to press me even after i told her i preferred men at the time, to an old roommate going on and on about how she thought i was hot because i was an "androgynous" man (meaning that i still have my breasts.) and would not drop trying to include me in a threesome with her partner as well as shifting the goalposts for what gender my secondary sex characteristics belong to every other sentence, to a random self-identified cis lesbian grabbing me by the shoulder outdoors, in public at a pop-up art market to tell me about how she would never sleep with a man, but she would consider sleeping with me because i'm "... you know." she said while gesticulating at my body.
none of these instances were ever provoked by me being sexual or interested in that person first, especially the incident in public. i am painfully asexual in person, i struggle to express these things and generally don't if i feel them. the fact that so many cisgender women have found it necessary to tell me that they want to sleep with me solely because i have a vagina to the point of even doing it in public around complete strangers is a dead giveaway that the second that so many cisgender people hear that a trans man is trans, they instantly stop viewing us as a man.
it's not just cishet men who do this. cisgender women can be abusive, yes, even sexually abusive. randomly telling someone you barely know that you want to have sex with them because of their genital situation is predatory and abusive, no matter WHO it's coming from.
It’s unfortunate why we’d need this, but since the world is shit, keep it in your back pocket.
Stay safe, girlies!!
THROUGH A RAPIST’S EYES” (PLS TAKE TIME TO READ THIS. It may save a life, It may save your life.)
An Article from Neena Susan Thomas
“Through a rapist’s eyes. A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interview…ed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:
1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun! , braid, or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.
2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who’s clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.
3] They also look for women using their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.
4] The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at is grocery store parking lots.
5] Number two is office parking lots/garages.
6] Number three is public restrooms.
7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don’t have to worry about getting caught.
8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn’t worth it because it will be time-consuming.
9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas,or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.
10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you’re not worth it.
POINTS THAT WE SHOULD REMEMBER:
1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk: can’t believe it is so cold out here, we’re in for a bad winter. Now that you’ve seen their faces and could identify them in a line- up, you lose appeal as a target.
2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they’d leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.
3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.
4] If someone grabs you, you can’t beat them with strength but you can do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or in the upper inner thigh – HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.
5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy’s parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you’ll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he’s out of there.
6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.
7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don’t dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel little silly at the time, but you’d feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.
FINALLY, PLEASE REMEMBER THESE AS WELL ….
1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do it.
2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans : if a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you…. chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!
3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won’t see you but everybody else will. This has saved lives.
4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON’T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side,put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS , LEAVE.
5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:
a. Be aware: look around your car as someone may be hiding at the passenger side , peek into your car, inside the passenger side floor, and in the back seat. ( DO THIS TOO BEFORE RIDING A TAXI CAB) .
b. If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.
c. Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)
6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).
7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!
8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked “for help” into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.
Send this to any woman you know that may need to be reminded that the world we live in has a lot of crazies in it and it’s better safe than sorry.
If u have compassion reblog this post. ‘Helping hands are better than Praying Lips’ – give us your helping hand.
REBLOG THIS AND LET EVERY GIRL KNOW AT LEAST PEOPLE WILL KNOW WHATS GOING ON IN THIS WORLD. So please reblog this….Your one reblog can Help to spread this information.
THIS COULD ACTUALLY SAVE A LIFE.”
When humans are transfigured, they lose their clothing. They're exposed, with a warped sense of identity at best, barely recognizable.
And the times when Mahito was actually inside of them, hiding in the guy who looked untouched in shibuya...
And NANAMI was disturbed.
It also reminds me of the night beyond the tricornered window, how in that anime it was stretching out souls, described in such a sexual way but intangible, invisible.
How they could have used their abilities responsibly, respectfully, consensually, but chose against it.
The way they're obeyed by their victims feels so much like Stockholm's syndrome
Also the way that Mahito can transform his body into anything, clothing included, but had the audacity to ask Kenjaku for HIS clothes. Like he felt so entitled to things he didn't need and denied anyone on a whim that basic decency.
Content warning for topic of SA
And how I think it's represented through a character in jujutsu kaisen.
I think he was very well written and that this was intentional.
He's on level with curses from the earth, forest and ocean (which are so big with so much negative energy directed at them that the curses gained consciousness without form) but Mahito is from humans.
He mutilates bodies and souls without consent. The transfigured humans beg for help, they beg for relief, even if it means death, to be put out of their misery, whenever they can manage to say anything coherent that's all that it is.
And these victims are seen as monsters themselves. Less than human, their consciousness tampered with, they die of asphyxiation.
All of these effects come from SA. the damaged body, brain, nervous system, feeling like air doesn't exist, like you're no longer breathing, that the state you've been left in is worse than death.
And in the end, when Mahito faces judgement and begs for mercy, it's easy to feel sorry for him. To want to give him another chance. And that might be the sickest part of all.
It's so real and such a good representation without actually showing SA on screen.
And the relationship that he had with Junpei was grooming. I could elaborate on that but honestly. I don't have it in me rn. Just, the intellectual conversations, the it's easy to talk to you, the manipulation and coercion and pushing boundaries with corpses and his mother and transfiguring him in the end.
Mahito is such a creep and I hate him but it isn't exactly triggering to watch, either. I got triggered by the night beyond the tricornered window, though - which I put on after hearing that it influenced jjk. And I do see where gege got the domains and pacts from, the art style was rly cool, but I could not keep paying attention to it omg. It wasn't even graphic, but a sort of spiritual rape, and the dynamics there were...
What I'm trying to say is that I think both jjk and this anime did a good job of showing SA without there being SA. (though tbf I didn't get through the other one, or like I did eventually bc I liked the art style so much but I could only glance up to it occasionally bc at that point I knew better).
Also I believe that elfen lied and banana fish inspired jjk, and those series are heavily about autonomy and sexual assault and the effects of abuse.
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SA Indicators (TW)
The Indicators Project is an astrological research analysis project of different life situations, mental health and physical health conditions that can be seen through the birth chart. The research is done with the utmost care and precision, leaving out any indicators that could potentially be inaccurate. The purpose of this project is to help those that experience(d) one or many of these situations to feel visible, find confirmation and validation. A story has been created and pinned to my instagram profile that explains the basic of Indicators, and that will contain all indicators that have been posted. Please check that post before commenting, as it explains how the indicators should be read. This post may be reshared and reposted as long as credit is given.
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now that it’s sexual assault awareness month, i want everyone who’s ever experienced any form of sexual abuse to know that your trauma is valid. it’s still assault if it was your significant other. it’s still assault if it was your friend. it’s still assault if it was a family member. it’s still assault if it was someone you trusted. don’t ever let anyone tell you that your experience wasn’t real. as someone who was a victim of this a year ago today, i want you to know you are stronger than your demons. it gets better. it may take time, but i promise things can only improve. and a big fuck you to the person who hurt you and invaded your privacy. you are ten million times stronger than they will ever be. i love you, and my inbox is always open to anyone who needs to talk 🩵
over sexualise yourself. wear tight clothes and flaunt your body, but cry at night because you feel like it's the only way you'll receive love.
over sexualise yourself. put yourself out there, but cry at night because there's no one to hold you to tell and make you feel like you're much more than your body.
over sexualise yourself. make decisions you're far too be young and sensitive for, but cry at night and try not to feel alone because that's not what you truly want with someone.
oversexualize yourself. feel it's all you're good for. wipe your own tears and repeat the cycle because at least you're not alone.