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Long Distance Relationships

Long distance relationships are, in my opinion, one of the absolute hardest to make work. And make work for the long haul. There are so many things that could go wrong but when those things don’t it only makes you and your partner closer and stronger than anyone else. Let’s go over the pros and cons of general ldr first.

*pros

- you have literally an entire planet of people to pick from so you’re bound to find your soulmate somewhere

- You have a reason to save money and do better for yourself and go see somewhere new with someone you love

- Making it work will only make the both of you stronger together

- You can discover a new culture/society/ place and learn about life for your partner wherever they live

- You can teach someone new traditions and customs

- You don’t have to pay outrageous shipping fees to send them something if you get it online.

- These are only the ones I could think of. Feel free to add your own if they aren’t here!

*cons

- little to no physical contact

- Time zone differences

- You need to trust your partner 100%

- Late nights and early mornings because of time differences

- Loneliness from lack of physical contact

- Idiots butting into your personal life because they feel they know best

- The closest you can get for now is Skype calls and FaceTime

- Not being able to scare those who hurt your significant other.

You can compare those two lists and make your own assessment on which matters more. I personally prefer long distance in the beginning but once I’ve found that special person I want to spend my life with I want them as close as possible.

Now onto ldr for cg/l and d/s relationships. These include all of the pros and cons from the first two lists with a couple extra cons due to the nature of these relationships.

- ABSOLUTE TRUST. cg/l and d/s relationships already require much more trust than a vanilla or normal relationship so to do them long distance you need even more.

- Punishments are a bit of a Grey area. You have to trust that your little or submissive will follow through with them especially for the ones you really have no way of checking.

- COMMUNICATION. I don’t think I could ever say this enough but communication is so. Fluffin. Important! Long distance makes communication hard as it is so with cg/l and d/s relationships again needing even more of it than normal it becomes a huge issue a lot of times. You need to communicate any and all problems or concerns to your partner when you are long distance especially because they are not there. They can not read your body language or nervous ticks and habits from miles and miles and miles away.

Okay now onto the part where I do my best to help.

_ Skype (play)dates and scenes can be very helpful with being more connected with your partner. Get creative with those camera angles people because you’ll need it.

As far as punishments go there are a few that can be done and you can know they got done correctly.

- writing lines

- Skyping while the sub or little sits in corner time

- Dictionary definitions

- Silent treatment

- I know most of these seem childish but they are effective. If you have any more feel free to add them!

And lastly but certainly not least COMMUNICATION

-weekly talk it out sessions where once a week you both sit down and have a serious talk about your lives, thoughts, concerns, relationship, the whole shabang.

-being clear and open about what’s on your mind

-lay it all out. Don’t hide anything. It will come back to haunt you later.

That is all I have for today if you have any questions, comments, concerns, feel free to contact me. Be good, stay safe, and have fun!