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Some good ol' manipulation tactics
My sibling has accused me of manipulation in the past, they said it like it was a bad thing.
If everyone has context for what happened, and no one regrets it - does the 'manipulation' make it 'bad'?
It's my understanding that manipulation is a broad category of tools used to get a desired outcome. Motive is the thing to consider. (Please don't hate the chisel.)
So you only have good motives! All good then.
Manipulatin' is nothing too complicated.
Some things to keep in mind if you want something from someone:
Make it easy for them to give it to you
Make it enjoyable for them to give it to you
Be nice to them
Enjoy your time together
Build human empathy
Ask for the thing you want [Direct]
Do stuff that they like
Appeal to their desires
Sell them on what you'd do
Do something for them
Maintain a healthy relationship
Don't be annoying about it [hard part]
DON'T BE ANNOYING ABOUT IT [JEOPARDIZES THE MISSION]
Don't demand more than you know they can give.
Fulfilling these objectives might require some expertise. Some planning. Some listening.
That top tier, delicious, vintage, quality manipulation *for good motives* leaves the other party satisfactory, happy, or at least not feeling like they got cheated. This means you can keep manipulating them [said goodly.]
How exquisite.
Problems that you may encounter:
They don't like you ;-;
They suck
You suck
They're too busy
They like their something too much to give it to you
Every problem that can exist
In practice my sibling was talking about me weaseling purchases out of our parents for my own benefit (I was a kid.) I'd do a song and dance about each new hobby I got into. I'd research for 40 hours the hottest yoyo's and sickest strings only to drop the hobby after my fingers hurt a lil. I also cooked a lot of dinners for the family, I chatted with my mom late at night about job anxiety, and I was a chill lil tot. I was and continue to be 'an easy child with quirks' [now a harder child - cause left the house. and is broke and spends most free hours obsessively scribbling.]
I didn't go too much into the specifics because. Uh. Weird.
And people who look up "how to manipulate" are probably not always the best people.
So. Next time you want a lil' treat, a ride, a whatever from your person. Give 'em the works. Make their fucking life better.
Sincerely
Ben!
As a person with a personality wrapped around a husk of humor: the belief that making a good joke requires critical thought and unique thought runs strong.
The same part of yourself that can think you're funny can also think you're the best thing since baked beans, and maybe you are, or maybe you're a mushy apple.
You're neither.
You're a human.
And that's incredible.
What lovely sentient carbon we are.
Oh and teaching kids with memes seems like actually super fun.
Might get back into reading to make meme chapter summaries.
Oh.
Oh thats fandoms.
Imagine the Math Fandom (it already exists.)
I don't know what this is anymore.
Let's chalk this up to magnificence?
Toodles.
As a person with a personality wrapped around a husk of humor: the belief that making a good joke requires critical thought and unique thought runs strong.
The same part of yourself that can think you're funny can also think you're the best thing since baked beans, and maybe you are, or maybe you're a mushy apple.
You're neither.
You're a human.
And that's incredible.
What lovely sentient carbon we are.
Oh and teaching kids with memes seems like actually super fun.
Might get back into reading to make meme chapter summaries.
Oh.
Oh thats fandoms.
Imagine the Math Fandom (it already exists.)
I don't know what this is anymore.
Let's chalk this up to magnificence?
Toodles.
Dammit Ex Machina got made.
I was just thinking about what my "Act Naturally" [Ringo Version] would be (a role I would perform most naturally in.)
And unironically had the thought of telling a director: "I'd do best in a situation where a character feels like they're taking a Turing Test."
Very original of me I know. 🙄
I'm soooooooo special.
Dammit Ex Machina got made.
I was just thinking about what my "Act Naturally" [Ringo Version] would be (a role I would perform most naturally in.)
And unironically had the thought of telling a director: "I'd do best in a situation where a character feels like they're taking a Turing Test."
Very original of me I know. 🙄
I'm soooooooo special.
The Empathy of Not Getting It.
Howdy. Am inebriated.
A while back a friend and I were talking.
Friend suffers from chronic pain. It is not fun.
We are the type of people to discuss the nature and types of empathy over a drink.
I just had some minor booty surgery (non-aesthetic.)
They were experiencing a bout of pain that while bad, didn't stop them from dealing with me. (Very brave.)
I noted that for my worst pain in recent memory - the surgery - I was preparing to raw dog an open ass wound.
As the local anesthetic wore off I quickly realized I required the prescribed synthetic opiates to deal (I quit after a day - the feeling wasn't something I wanted to explore when unnecessary.)
But that was maybe a week of pain.
They live with pain. That's different. Pain was a visitor to me.
This was noted to the friend.
I don't think they were looking for me to fully understand the situation. Sharing is good. They let me know as much as they could about what was going on. And they sat through my booty surgery spiel.
But the fact that I knew I fundamentally could not understand their pain was accepted. I knew not to make assumptions or extrapolate from my experiences. I don't know the breadth of their situation.
I think there is a lot in realizing you're inability to understand.
Toodles.
Ben
Cringe
I optimize every living hour of my life to be cringe. It's to feel something. Cringe is one of my strongest muscles. Built like Sisyphus.
There are times when people don't realize I'M INTENTIONALLY BEING CRINGE, and just ASSUME I'M VERY CRINGE (I can't comprehend how one might mistake the two.)
By the way I'm very low cringe. It's just an act.
*Ooops It looks like I triggered my own trapcard. Need to make a graph.*
I'm almost certain I've smelt this concept before. If it's been done before I'll chalk it up to people extrapolating cringe to it's logical conclusion.
Ah. ^^^ The 0 - base of both Axis should be labeled "Nothingness"
Oh. Oh. I started preachin'.
I'm prone to that.
I'm not dying of cringe, I'm dying full of it. [sounded cooler in my head]
Ah. Important note: not all cringe is good.
bye.
Ben
Cringe
I optimize every living hour of my life to be cringe. It's to feel something. Cringe is one of my strongest muscles. Built like Sisyphus.
There are times when people don't realize I'M INTENTIONALLY BEING CRINGE, and just ASSUME I'M VERY CRINGE (I can't comprehend how one might mistake the two.)
By the way I'm very low cringe. It's just an act.
*Ooops It looks like I triggered my own trapcard. Need to make a graph.*
I'm almost certain I've smelt this concept before. If it's been done before I'll chalk it up to people extrapolating cringe to it's logical conclusion.
Ah. ^^^ The 0 - base of both Axis should be labeled "Nothingness"
Oh. Oh. I started preachin'.
I'm prone to that.
I'm not dying of cringe, I'm dying full of it. [sounded cooler in my head]
Ah. Important note: not all cringe is good.
bye.
Ben