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im gonna start off by apologizing for the rambling in this post about technoblade's situation. twitter is just grating on my nerves hard, and having all this happen to someone I hyperfixate on is, "buries face in hands".
And if this post isn't phrased all that well and I gave off the wrong vibes, my apologies. I don't have any ill intention towards the minorities affected in this situation, and if you want a certain line rephrased to accurately reflect my real meaning/message/intentions (but it didn't because I sucked at phrasing it) uh replies. DM. Ask. Whatever works to reach me.
To anyone who's affected by it too, whether it's because he's your hyperfixation, or not and you're just generally worried. Stay off twitter yeah, hope you're doing alright, uh have some water.
CW! Twitter Discourse , Ableism , Mentions of Asian Hate and Harassment.
Stop reading if you know well that it will trigger you. Please scroll past. Find a cute cat picture, maybe.
So, new hashtag trending. Wonderful, congratulations people on Twitter involved, you did something! You did something you thought was good! Good job! (/s)
this sounds super rude but, what the fuck mate? what was going through your mind when trending #kick-insert techno's real name- ? You had good intentions to call out people who deciding doxxing techno is okay. I can respect that, but tweeting about it with the hashtag? That's what gets it trending. Multitude of people tagging it.
how much traction did the og tweet of the doxxing get? how much attention was pulled to the situation AFTER the hashtag trended?
have anyone ever thought that, someone with, horrible anxiety, would reply to such a stressful situation? that maybe their mental health is on the brink after this shit?
Call him out on the bad shit he's done, that's fine. Good for you. But to this point of not considering someone else's side and expecting someone who's ND to rise to your NT standards is a pure shit move.
A week to apologize?
Look, I get it. It's been going on for awhile. But, who gave him a week to apologize? The minorites ACTUALLY affected? If so, that's alright, you're tired of waiting. That's fine. I can't say much. The only one I can say much about is the covid joke he made since I'm Chinese . I don't live in China, but I'm definitely Asian nonetheless.
Have you seen the full clip? Or did you only focus on the single part. He didn't completely disregard the Asian harassment and hate. He said before he made the joke: "horrific racism aside" .
And yes, I don't speak for the entire community, I know some people are hurt by the joke, especially (observation based) if you found out about the joke around this period of time where COVID is far worse compared to Feb 2020 when the joke was made. that's fine. Just because me and my friends aren't hurt doesn't mean you should be the same.
It's fine to ask for an apology, but to chase an apology to the point you're carrying out blatant heavy harassment towards another person is not okay.
But anyways, a week to apologize?
But if the one who gave this deadline isn't minorities actually affected? If it's the ones being performative and said "hey! You have a week to say sorry!" ?
ಠ‿ಠ what bro.
People are really chill with the easy side of adhd aren't they? Hm? Once the tough stuff about adhd comes up and shows itself, people really just flip faces quick huh? So quickly. Actually, no, once the tough stuff about a ND persons disorder comes up, flip.
shhhhh. listen hey hey hey hello listen. s h h h h h h h h don't say no more words. shush. sealed. keep your lips closed.
Claps clap yay I'm done weeeee. (not /s). I'm keeping this off the main Technoblade tag as this is more of a rant and it's definitely much heavier.
Okay but why the fuck is no one talking about this? Literally an excerpt from black white and blood and…. This is what’s fucking wrong with marvel. I had this same gross feeling when watching no way home. Not saying that DC or anything is any better with mental health stigma (plot twist: they aren’t any better at all), but this is a major recent continuing thing with marvel in comics and film.
I’m so sick of the neurotypical “mental illness needs to be cured” and “is a hinderance” message they’ve had for a while now. The way the whole scene is written… I just… you can *tell* it’s not from someone who is plural/a system nevertheless someone who is neurodivergent
; I know it's talked about but genuinely it's not talked about enough how difficult ( difficult ) it is being autistic. And it's not even just because I have autism, sometimes it's from Third Party People Being Ableist™ and making my life 20x harder than it was previously.
; and I'm sick and tired of people trying to be allies by denying that I'm autistic ?? Denying my struggles and saying " you're just a little funky !! " or " you're not different, you're the same as any other person <3 " because I'm not ( not ), I'm genuinely not like every other person. And wow are you going to be disappointed when you find out I actually can't function like you, I physically can not. I can't do most anything like a " normal " person and every day is a struggle because people want to see me as average, so they treat me as average and neurotypical and no different from them, but I am different. I do need things that others don't, I do need support even if I'm probably categorized as low support needs, I still have needs that the average person doesn't !! I'm Autistic !! I am different, I am not like the average person and it disables me. I do not resent being autistic, I do not want to be neurotypical. What I resent is how I'm treated because of it, how my struggles are either ignored or stigmatized. I resent not being able to function how others want me too, and therefore being labeled as a nuisance or a difficult case.
; I. Am. Autistic. And yk what ?? I'm not making it my whole personality, it is my whole personality !! It's my mother fucking brain, of course it's going to effect most every aspect of me and how I work ?? And so of course most things I talk about or most my experiences are going to " look autistic " or could be categorized as autism, because I'm autistic !! I'm a walking book of autistic traits so yeah, a lot of the ways I think and the things I do are gonna be related to autism, because I literally am autistic. Sorry if that bothers you ?? Like ?? Idk what people expect from me, I'm going to talk about it because it's kinda hard not to when everything I do or say is " affected " by it ?? :/
; anyways, happy disability pride month. Thanks for listening to my miniature rant
I hope whoever made this video gets hit by a car I do not care
people talk about gay coding villains all the time but never about aro coding villains and it’s honestly everywhere it’s like “oh this terrible guy cannot feel love and it makes them a horrible person”
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i think the worst form of ableism is definitely “everyone around them has it worse.”
it’s when you look up “how to cope with delusions” and the top 10 articles are how to cope with someone else’s delusions. here’s Google’s chosen result, if you dont believe me look it up yourself! (and btw - “how to cope with my delusions” and “how to cope with my own delusions” come up with the same Google’s chosen results.)
this stupid shit has made me believe that no matter how traumatizing my delusions could ever be to me, the people who love me have it worse because of my own mental illness. no matter how scary it is for ME to actively lose my memory, it’s more inconveniencing to other people can it ever could be to me. how DARE i lose my fine motor skills, what about my loved ones and how they feel about it? how the fuck is this an acceptable way of viewing mental illness and disability? the top results for how to cope with ANYTHING should never be from an outsider’s view looking in.
i do not exist to be silenced by guilt and a non-psychotic’s need to feel comfortable around me.
i could say more but that’s enough anger out of me tonight
Fun fact: the word 'chronic' means it's lifelong! and the phrase 'chronic illness' means I'm stuck with it until it takes me out, or I take me out. So, to the woman bothering me at a close family friend's funeral today about 'whether it goes away' can shut the hell up. Chronic means I'm stuck with it. Telling me I can think my way out of it when I have things physically wrong with my body will not do anything. No, it's not going away, and praying and trying to force me out of my wheelchair won't do jack-shit (except make me want to break your nose). Trust me, I have tried almost everything under the sun by now.
Besides, I've come to the conclusion if god/s exist, they decided I'm better used as a disability advocate than wasting their precious time on fixing the fact I'm in crippling pain constantly :DDD
self proclaimed schizoposter nervously typing '911' into their phone and hovering their thumb above the 'call' key as they hawkishly watch a disheveled guy at a bus stop make repetitive movements and ramble to himself
First try of the leg 🦵 I take my hat off to @oneill.con for his incredible acting on this show - this leg was not the easiest prop to manoeuvre and he just did so incredibly well. Creds to Nick Weir our most excellent props master & Jake Walls for the prop making collab, our whole team on this was so fab 🏴☠️ #ourflagmeansdeath #ofmd
Okay in all seriousness. There's something that I REALLY want to talk about as an open discussion with the fandom, but. This is not going to be a very nice thing to hear/talk about.
It's about how Gonta is treated by the fandom.
As a fan of all the V3 characters now, and as someone who has always been a fan of Gonta, and as someone who has many mental disabilities and two diagnosed neurodivergancies... I'm tired of playing nice about it.
You all need to stop being ableist towards Gonta.
I've mentioned in the past that I don't like shitting on personal interpretations. I don't like saying something is or is not canon because narration is just a big web of text that you try to decipher with your own personal biases, experiences, and thoughts. That's why two literary analysts analyzing the same text with the same literary criticism rules can come to wildly different conclusions--why people develop different headcanons from the same canonical information.
But one of the things that challenged my integrity is just how many people view Gonta as this innocent, naive, ignorant, baby boy who can do no harm/never has a complicated/dirty/violent/sexual thought in his life ever.
This incredibly ableist interpretation of the character bothered me for, well, obvious reasons (See: It's fucking ableist, need I say more?) but I never challenged it as harshly as I am now because to be frank, it's not my place to tell people how to HC a character. It still isn't. But I've pretty much given up on my integrity on the subject and have decided to go all in on discussing why this interpretation of Gonta is just. Really bad.
First of all, not to promote my own analyses here or anything, but I think this analysis I did of Gonta explains a LOT in regards to the ableism the cast gives him in canon. I also think that this subtle ableism is why the fandom is so bad with Gonta's characterization in headcanons and fanfic--because they've seen how the cast treats him, and they think it's normal. They don't see the microaggressions, they don't see the subtle ableism in the cast--they just see this big giant idiot who speaks like Tarzan in the English version (which... I don't actually know why people assume Tarzan (Thinking of Disney's version) is stupid. Like as a boy he had to reinvent the spear with no one to guide him on how to do it. He was able to strategize and outsmart "civilized" men in the final showdown. Still I digress) and don't see the literal genius behind his social awkwardness.
There is also another very important point I'm going to make in addition to this, and it's going to be very uncomfortable to Gonta fans who insist he's nothing but a sweet baby who only has pure thoughts. Especially to the fans who insist he "can't be sexual" or think it's weird to ship him with his peers.
Sorry to burst your bubble, but... Gonta blatantly has sexual desire and gets horny right in canon.
This is further clarified here:
It wasn't a matter of Gonta didn't want to touch her because touching someone in their underwear was inappropriate, or being flustered because she was in her underwear which is inappropriate...
It was literally a "weird feeling" that made him unable to approach her or touch her. A "weird feeling" that Miu makes pretty obvious as to what it was--sexual arousal.
He literally was sexually attracted to and felt sexual arousal from looking at Miu in her underwear. He had sexual feelings and thoughts about Miu. Why?
Because Gonta is a young man.
Gonta is a brilliant, talented young man who has normal human thoughts for someone his age--sexual desires, upsetting thoughts, complicated thoughts, ectect. He is not a child, he is not mentally stunted (I've been informed that people have literally said this on Ao3 for the NSFW Gonta fics, please for the love of god stop that)
I think the reason why Gonta fans typically want to keep him as a "pure baby child who can do no wrong" is because treating him like the young adult that he is makes it harder for them to justify Chapter 4. Every time I've seen a Gonta fan that hates Kokichi, it's always followed by the sentiment of "Kokichi manipulated and abused Gonta into killing Miu, so it's all Kokichi's fault." They're afraid of nuance and liking a character with the grey morality of genuinely thinking Mercy Killing the cast is a viable option, because it challenges their own morals about the character they adore.
To those people who read this and are upset: You can and should like Gonta! Gonta is a magnificent character who showcases the subtle way microaggressions can manifest and hurt people, he's a good-hearted person and a literal genius, he cares deeply for his friends and loves everyone with upmost sincerity.
But.
You need to re-evaluate your stance on Gonta if you think he's a stupid, naive fool who Kokichi manipulated. You need to re-evaluate why you think those thoughts, why you think Gonta being shipped with anyone is "Kinda weird" or "has weird consent problems" or "give you the ick." You have to challenge yourself and ask yourself uncomfortable questions in regards to why you treat Gonta like a child when canon has proven otherwise, why you think he cannot have violent or sexual thoughts, why he can't think mercy killing his class is the only way to save them.
This isn't an attack on you--but understand that these specific takes on Gonta? They are ableist in nature. They belittle and dismiss him, they treat him like a child, an idiot who can't think for himself--and you have to come to terms with the fact that Gonta is a far more complex character with complicated thoughts and feelings who is a young adult. Not a child. A young adult.
So again, ask yourself this: Why are you treating this young adult like he's a toddler?
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Sometimes I remember I experienced my first microaggression as an infant and get really upset about it.
Obviously I have no personal memory of the events, but I was at a parent-child class of some sort and when everyone started singing in a group I started crying. I was clearly, in retrospect, overstimulated. When my parents were leaving, they heard another mother say, "What's wrong with that baby?" referring to me, and my dad had to stop my mom from knocking the woman flat.
Anyway, nothing was wrong with "that baby." "That baby" just turned out to be autistic. But knowing people felt that way about me from the beginning does cut pretty deep, even though I'm in my 30s now.
Filming people without their consent is a massive issue of not only privacy but ableism that's been going on for many years.
It started out with filming more visibly disabled people, like high support needs autistic people having meltdowns in public and (especially fat) disabled people literally just using mobility aids, but once that was deemed less acceptable it moved to other things. Filming people acting "weird" in public. Eating weird foods. Falling asleep in weird places. Wearing weird things. Stimming. You get the idea. It's no longer safe to be visibly weird in public and that's an issue for a lot of disabled people. I recently had to lay down on the floor of a department store because I had an ME crash while out shopping. Not only did I have to worry about the normal things like people coming up to ask me if I'm ok, I also had to worry about some video of me at my lowest point, when I'm suffering immensely, being shared around as "haha look at this weird bitch on the floor". It's upsetting. It's scary.
And then there's fakeclaiming. A fun trend where people will film us in public to "prove" there's some kind of huge epidemic of people faking disability. Spoiler alert: there is not. Most of the time the people they film are real disabled people who don't fit into the expected mold for disability, usually service dog teams or people who use mobility aids who don't "look sick". And you would think this trend would be some kind of abled nonsense, but it's not. It's often other disabled people doing the fakeclaiming. Yes, there are some times when it's obvious a service dog isn't trained properly, but other than that, it's damn near impossible to tell if someone is faking a disability, and you're much more likely to target a disabled person than a faker. I'd love to say this trend was new, but it's been going on since the days of "the people of walmart" where many of the people posted were fat mobility aid users, always with the assumption that they used it because they were too fat or lazy to move on their own. In fact, the image of a fat person in a mobility cart has become almost synonymous with "lazy". It's one of the things that drove me to get my own expensive power wheelchair, to avoid the judgmental stares in the grocery store when I was just trying to exist, to avoid the fear of public shame. Even now when I stand up from my chair to walk to the bathroom stall or reach something on a high shelf, I watch the corners of my vision for that telltale phone in the air. I feel like I'm never safe from the judgemental eye of the internet, even when I'm logged off, and I'm sure I'm not the only person who feels that way.
Tik Tok, YouTube, Instagram, these places are all great for disabled people, especially those of us without access to the outside world. But it's also become a source of great anxiety for anyone who's uncontrollably "weird", mostly disabled people. Leave us alone, I'm begging you, we just want to go to the fucking grocery store in peace and safety.
Tl;dr
Stop filming people for "acting weird" or "faking a disability" in public. It's ableist, it's invasive, it's creepy, and it's humiliating. People don't exist in public for your amusement and especially not disabled people. You don't know who is disabled and who isn't no matter how many disabled people you've known or how sure you are that the person is faking.
TW: ableism against mentally ill folks, ableism
Here are some observations about how mentally ill people are treated.
When you’re a kid, your mental illness isn’t real. It’s bad behaviour. It’s this kid cries too much, let’s see if punishing this kid for crying too much will make them stop crying too much. Most crucially, it is never to be taken seriously, and you are not to talk about it, because if you use words that make us worry, you must be faking for attention. If you show your emotions though, instead of calmly explaining them, then you are immature and it is a behaviour problem. I experienced this the most at school. For me, it was ignored until I was old enough that my symptoms were taken suddenly very seriously.
If your trauma isn’t big enough or isn’t there at all, then why are you like this? You have no excuse. If your trauma is too big, then you’re exaggerating. It wasn’t that bad.
When you get a little older, your mental illness isn’t real, but it’s dangerous, it’s still your fault, and has to be stopped. Bad behaviour is now scary. If you’re not white, or homeless, you are especially dangerous. If you are struggling to take care of your mental illness by taking your meds and doing your therapeutic homework correctly, then it is even more your fault than it already was. You have to want to get better, see.
Additionally, if you don’t have a diagnosis that we think is bad enough, you’re faking. If you have a diagnosis that we think is too bad, then you’re crazy. If you don’t have a diagnosis at all, then we’re not going to help you. If it’s temporary, it wasn’t that bad, if it’s long-term, why aren’t you over it yet.
And of course we have empathy for you.
At no point is the mental illness understood for its experience from the perspective of the mentally ill person. At no point is it about what they need. It’s all about blaming them based on how you, from the outside, think their mental illness should work. It’s about finding patterns you think are there and hating people for both fitting and not fitting them.
I think this is how ableism often works against mentally ill people. People get killed because people believe these things, especially people with other marginalized identities. When people say have the assumption that everyone is a little mentally ill, (a little OCD, a little crazy on the inside) they are refusing to acknowledge that we are a community. It’s also hard for us to do activism, because mental illness can make it hard to do anything.
We’re not seen as a community that has a right to want rights and fair treatment, because our symptoms are seen as excuses for bad behaviour.
There are things I haven’t considered here. If you see this and you have another thought about how ableism works, please talk to me about it. I’m trying to understand this specific discrimination better. Talk to me about how your other identities intersect with this kind of ableism. If there are things I’m not seeing and you feel up to it, please let me know.
cw: ableism against neurodivergent folks, discussion of police violence, contains a personal story about a negative interaction with security officers
Most of the time I exist in a strange middle ground where I pass as neurotypical to some, albeit a weird one while some people just assume I’m autistic. Part of the reason why I want to get a diagnosis is because while yes, people who assume I’m autistic sometimes treat me like a child, I rarely encounter outright hostility with them when I can’t hide my autistic traits. Neurotypicals seem to need to have a diagnosis disclosed to them before they’re willing to tolerate perceived strangeness. It’s that thing where it’s okay to bully someone for autistic traits, but it magically becomes discrimination when the person discloses a diagnosis. I see people talking about this a lot, but I want to emphasize the potential danger of not being able to prove your autism.
In meltdown, I have had campus security called on me. Fair enough. I couldn’t stop screaming. I can see how that might scare someone. They wouldn’t believe me that I wasn’t high. I had to give them way more personal information than I should have had to to convince them that I was not, in fact, taking drugs I wasn’t prescribed. I had to tell them what medications I was on, convince them that I was taking them, tell who my psychiatrist was, and that I was on a wait list for a therapist before they would stop trying to convince me to admit I was high. Before they would treat me like a person and not a threat. I essentially had to prove that I was an acceptable mentally ill to them.
First I say, so what if I had been high? So what if I wasn’t being "appropriately managed?" Even in those cases, it is not helpful and potentially dangerous for the person in crisis to treat them like they’re a threat. That’s ableist. Requiring people to convince you that they are receiving or pursuing certain treatments or otherwise meet specific standards of respectability before you treat them like a person is ableist.
What if I had been having a verbal shut down that day? I was barely able to talk at all in that moment. Speaking felt physically painful and I was struggling to form complete sentences. I was lucky I was able to communicate the necessary details to earn safety from them. What if I hadn’t been able to? What if they had been real cops? What if I hadn’t been able to say "no touch" or communicate other basic needs and the situation escalated?
What if I had had an autism card? That situation would have been much less terrifying. I would feel safer going out in public knowing that if I get upset and can’t communicate, I have a diagnosis other people are likely to believe to back me up. I can make my own warning card with instructions on how to help me, but ultimately, people don’t listen to disabled people, they listen to their doctors. If I say I’m autistic to an authority figure and later on I can’t prove it, I will be in trouble.
The same way I hope people in my classes assume I’m autistic so they are willing to be tolerant of my autistic traits, I hope people who can genuinely hurt me assume in my worst moments that I am autistic so they won’t fucking tase me.
If I, a white person, a housed person, am worried about being hurt because I can’t be clear about my autism, imagine what it’s like for people from other demographics that are already more vulnerable to police violence. People who are also less likely to receive an official diagnosis.
I am willing to discuss this and would love to hear other people’s perspectives, but I will not be debating people about my choice to self-diagnose.
we're not saying people with npd, aspd, ect cant hurt you or abuse you
we're saying disorder =/= abusive
people with npd, bpd, aspd, infact, ANY cluster b disorder CAN abuse you. HOWEVER, having those disorders dosent instantly make you an abuser
dont be abelist.
people with ANY disorder can abuse you. that dosent mean they WILL abuse you. the fact that they have that disorder dosent mean theyre an abuser. it dosent make them abusive. they can be abusive, that dosent mean suddenly every narcissist is evil, suddenly all aspd people are threatening you, all bpd people are rude and abusive. stop throwing around the word abuse like its nothing. stop specifically linking it to personality disorders. thats blatantly abelist.
ihope all cluster bs have a lovely lovely day please ignore the hate and abelism yall are so gorgeous treat yourself to your comfort food