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the thing that gets me the most about ableism against pd’s is that ppl will be like “these disorders make you an ASSHOLE!!!!” and then turn around and pretend that other disorders can’t and don’t make you act shitty.
depression and anxiety can make you irritable and snappy. they can cause you to refuse to listen to people and to be distant and withdrawn. they can cause you to seem angry, bitchy, rude, uncaring, etc.
ptsd causes an array of difficulties in forming meaningful relationships. it pretty much shakes up your entire worldview and sense of self a lot of the time. ptsd can cause you to get angry often. it can cause you to yell and scream. it can cause you to withdraw from others, run away, or cut them out. it can cause general changes in demeanor and more cynical worldviews. it can make you seem grouchy, negative, explosive, impolite, difficult, needy, controlling, etc.
and yet when people with personality disorders have symptoms of that nature, suddenly we are irredeemable monsters. when it’s npd, bpd, hpd, or aspd instead of ptsd or depression and anxiety, people suddenly and magically lose the ability to be understanding.
mental illness is an explanation, not an excuse. i firmly believe that. hurting others is never justified simply because you have any disorder.
but if you can be patient with people who have depression, anxiety, ptsd, ocd, or any other more well understood mental illness, you can be patient with us.
This is so so useful for us because our urges are really bad with some things. We have a couple Cluster B disorders (bpd genetically and npd) as well as autism so I'm very glad that we found something that can help with what some of the things we go through.
Tips for Cluster B Anger
~ coming from someone who has BPD and a psychology special interest Have you been feeling like your anger is completely uncontrollable and all encompassing? Do you feel like your anger controls you more than you control it? Me too! But here are some things I've found to be helpful: - Taking notes. Write down triggers for what causes your anger episodes (as well as other episodes e.g sadness or paranoia) once you come down from it and start looking for a pattern. Not only will this help you to slow down and self reflect, you can begin to either avoid those triggers or find ways to regulate the effects. - SLOW DOWN. If something is making you want to hurt someone else or yourself, slow the FUCK down. Push against the grain, step back and let yourself have a good cry or scream into a pillow. Do whatever you can to (healthily) process the emotions, no matter how long it takes, before making major decisions. - Avoid self harm, substances or unhealthy habits like disordered eating or emotional self harm. It's so tempting, believe me, but it will only serve to make things worse. You might feel like you want it to get worse now, but in the future, you WILL regret it. If you start feeling these urges, refer to the urge surfing diagram below this. - Get outside advice. Think you're splitting but you can't tell? Run the situation by a close friend or loved one and see how they feel about it. Try to relay it with as little bias as possible and see if they agree with the decision you're about to make or if you perhaps need to reevaluate some things. - Take care of your heart. I know this is cliche, but a good sleep schedule, hearty food consumption habits, hydration, exercise routine and mental health care go a long way in helping you succeed in the above tips. You are struggling with an illness, and ill people need as much care as possible. Become your own parent. This works for anger in all Cluster B personality disorders, as well as with autism spectrum disorders! Urge surfing:
I was about to write an entire paragraph telling you to go fuck yourself, but yeah, this needs to be addressed more often.
I made multiple vents about my distorted perception of relationships, and how I have this really fucked up idea that all of my friends hate me and i should kms and shit, because get this: I ACTUALLY FEEL THAT WAY.
AND I LOST A CLOSE FRIEND OF MINE BECAUSE SHE TOLD ME THAT IT WAS MY FAULT AND THAT I SAY THESE THINGS FOR PITY POINTS (which i don't btw, I just talk about it to get it out of my system).
It makes my blood BOIL whenever people get mad that mentally ill people do mentally ill shit, and especially personality disorders in particular.
I genuinely feel so bad for the NPD community (bless their hearts btw /pos), because the amount of stigma against them is UNBEARABLE to watch. You hear shit a lot about "narcissist abuse", "all narcissists are evil and bad", and it blows my mind because the only people with NPD I met were some of the chillest and kindest people know
All i can say anymore is this: Stop getting mad at MENTALLY ILL people for doing MENTALLY ILL things.
Thank you.
Edit: Should mention that while yes, it doesn't excuse genuinely shitty behavior like abuse or rape, that doesn't mean all people with a mental illness are genuinely shitty for being mentally ill.
MENTAL ILLNESS IS AN EXCUSE!!!
Motherfuckers be offended when the mentally ill person acts actually mentally ill. If they could act "correct" they wouldn't be mentally ill you fucking asshole. Mental illness isn't a choice. Mental illness symptoms aren't a choice. Displaying mental illness symptoms, harmful or not, isn't a choice.
Disordered people act disordered, surprise bitch!
If someone without legs asked you to get them a glass of water, would you call them "manipulative" and "lazy" and accuse them of taking advantage of you to get them drinks? Would you tell them to "just walk"? (and I know some people genuinely would do this... I have no words for them)
No the NPD person can't just "not be less arrogant". BPD can't just "be normal". ASPD can't just "be nicer" or "learn to feel empathy". HPD can't just "stop making it about themselves." etc.
You're mixing genuinely mentally ill people up w/ "quirky" people that choose their "symptoms". It's not a choice for us. So stop expecting disordered people to just "be normal" or "keep it to themselves".
Disorders ARE an excuse for disordered behavior.
:33 < happyrry bpdde days gudyts.... (harr5t)