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aplatonic people are beautiful and good and deserving. having language to express how they experience the world is not a bad thing, and should Never be framed as such.
if you are aplatonic because of a personality disorder, you belong.
if you are aplatonic because of autism, you belong.
if you are aplatonic because of trauma, you belong.
if you are aplatonic because of a fatigue disorder, you belong.
if you are aplatonic because you're just happier on your own, you belong.
if you are aplatonic because of another reason i can't think of rn, you belong.
you are real, and you matter, and you deserve to find pride in being yourself.
- sincerely, an aroacespec
Cishet aspecs are queer.
Cishet aromantics are queer. Cishet asexuals are queer. Cishet aplatonics are queer. Cishet afamilials are queer. Cishet anattractionals are queer.
Aspecs are queer as hell and excluding them only isolates queer people from their community.
Hi! I think very little relationships are not based on attraction.
Platonic attraction is the desire for platonic relationships. It's looking at someone and thinking 'I really want to be their friend'. I know other aroace people who talk about how much they want to befriend people they think are cool.
I'm aplatonic and that just doesn't happen to me. Sure I like talking to people and you're right to say people need connections but I just don't have the desire to be close to any specific person. People I call my friends are people who have stuck around with me for years. I don't look for friends and if someone doesn't stick around I don't really care.
I want people to like me but beyond that it doesn't matter to me.
Familial attraction is how people talk about "I don't get along with so and so but she's my mother/he's my father/she's my grandmother etc). I guess it is kind of obligation but from a more emotional perspective it's the urge to be close to your blood and to get along. It probably stems from the biological advantage of wanting to be close to your family for protection advantages.
For me, as an afamilial person, I don't care for my family members any more than I would for a stranger. I don't actively wish them ill will. I just don't feel bonded with them anymore than I do the average person. In my case, this is likely related to trauma but that might not be the case for everyone.
The anattractional spectrum refers to relationships between people. I love sunsets, my pets, the rain and so many other things. However, my types of attraction to human beings are limited.
It can definitely be lonely. I think it's more lonely because people don't understand. I'm entirely happy the way I am but people's lack of understanding/knowledge and people's expectations of what I should feel are very restricting.
I live my life differently and experience things differently but that doesn't make the quality of my life less.
Hope this makes sense. Feel free to ask about anything else!
Cishet aspecs are queer.
Cishet aromantics are queer. Cishet asexuals are queer. Cishet aplatonics are queer. Cishet afamilials are queer. Cishet anattractionals are queer.
Aspecs are queer as hell and excluding them only isolates queer people from their community.
Cishet aspecs are queer.
Cishet aromantics are queer. Cishet asexuals are queer. Cishet aplatonics are queer. Cishet afamilials are queer. Cishet anattractionals are queer.
Aspecs are queer as hell and excluding them only isolates queer people from their community.
This is a snippet of how the protagonists in my story meet! Also, This is a complimentary piece to another, more themed towards this lovely month!
Have a great day/night/dawn/dusk!
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A drawn market with some characters. A lady with blond hair wearing a brown vest as well as a figure with purple hair and a longsleeve tunic standing watch. Another figure has green hair and a sleeveless short jacket and pink skirt watching the performers A group in middle right, tallest has pale blue hair, small deep blue horns and markings, wearing a dark blue turtleneck vest, giving money to the figure to the left, who has coilly dark brown hair wearing a yellow cropped vest and a multi-yellow skirt A guy near them, watching the performance in a hooded red vest with dark red hair. A lady is wearing a brown vest with a skirt, she has brown hair and horns The last watcher has red-brown hair and a blue vest. Performer on the left has brown curly hair and a dark blue turtleneck vest and long gloves making watery magic as sea-shapes with bits of magenta. Right performer wears a pale gold, longsleeve and has blond hair. He is making gold and white sparkly magic in bird and fish shapes
Hey Ace-spec and Aro-spec folks?
You all are wonderful and real and you are never required to participate in discourse about your identity.
If you don’t think ace/aro people are inherently queer, you’re not betraying your community.
If you do think ace/aro people are inherently queer, you aren’t required to argue about it.
I implore you all to try to look at all perspectives and keep an open mind but you are wonderful and brave and I love you.
No Discourse Please
My dear lgbt+ kids,
Whenever you’re reading this, during Asexuality Awareness Week or not, it’s a good day to
- be proud of and comfortable in your identity as an asexual person
- question if you might be asexual (and no, you’re not too young, too old, too whatever!)
- support asexual people. Asexuality is real, there’s nothing wrong with it and asexual people belong in our community!
With all my love, Your Tumblr Dad
happy pride to all my fellow aspec peeps!!
a redraw of sorts from last year- unfortunately it looks like my hands aren’t gonna let me do multiple versions for different flags this time around but still I must take every opportunity to make ace & aro rep in the form of my silly lil creatures to whatever level I can it’s what I do :3
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aroallos: you are not gross or impure.
alloaces: you are not “waiting for the right person”.
aroaces: you are not unfeeling.
angled aspecs and oriented aroaces: your love is valid.
aplatonic and aqueerplatonic people: you are normal.
demi and greyspec folks: you are not “just like everyone else”.
abro, aceflux, and aroflux people: you are not “indecisive”.
hetero aspecs: you are part of the community.
sex/romance positive aspecs and hypersexual aspecs: you are not pretending to be aspec.
sex/romance indifferent people: you are deserving of respect.
sex/romance repulsed people, both allo and aspec: you are not broken.
aspecs who use microlabels I have not included above: you exist.
aspecs: you are here. you are queer. you are deserving of whatever kind of love you want to receive.
Shout out to my awesome sister and everyone like her! She's demi-het/demi-het (angled aroace) and I love her to bits. I make sure she knows it, but if you're A-spec and het: you are a valued member of the community and YOU ARE QUEER ENOUGH.
Happy pride month to all aromantics and asexuals.
Happy pride month to all demiromantics and demisexuals
Happy pride month to all grey-aromantics and grey-asexuals
Happy pride month all hetroromantic asexuals and aromantic heterosexuals who often get told they aren't pat of the lgbtq+ community
Happy pride month to every single acespec and arospec person out there. You're valid as fuck and I love you (no romo).
Hey it’s ace week and you’re local ace has something to say! I’ve been out as ace for 3 years now and it’s still a big part of my identity that I’m proud of so here’s a lil something for those who need it!