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Y la culpa no era mía, ni dónde estaba ni cómo vestía. El violador eres tú.

"And the fault isn't mine, where I was or how I dress. You are the rapist."

Those are the translated lyrics of the Latin feminist hymn originated in Chile.

The lyrics have been criticized by anti-feminists (specially in mexico) and so many women started tweeting about their experience with sexual assault (where they were and what they were wearing) accompanied by the lyrics and DataPopMX just released some statistics based on 2,832 tweets:

In 68% of the sexual assaults occurred between 4 and 6 years old, they wore pajamas and were in family home.

In 26% of the sexual assaults occurred between 4 and 6 years old, they wore children's clothes and were in family home.

In 87% of the sexual assaults occurred between 9 and 11 years old, they wore their school uniform and were in family home.

In 59% of the sexual assaults occurred between 14 and 16 years old, they wore shorts and were on the street.

In 76% of sexual assaults occurred between 19 and 21 years old, they wore jeans and were at a friend's place.

In 8% of sexual assaults occurred between 19 and 21 years old, they wore skirts and were in public transport.

Of the 2,832 tweets in total 31% (877) occurred between 4 and 6 years old.

got sexually harassed and verbally abused nonstop by two guys (they were out together) whilst waiting for my bus home last night. it was fucking terrifying and it just makes me so angry that women can rarely go out alone at night without dealing with some kind of violence, abuse, or harassment.

feeling pretty fragile today, it really fucked with my head to be honest. humans fucking suck sometimes.

And for the first time I found that boilerplate expression of support—which I know well and haven’t blinked at in other contexts—not just wanting but offensive. I understood, intellectually, that these replies were at the same time perfectly reasonable: Belief is the frame we’ve developed to counteract the skepticism with which sexual assault victims are treated. The intentions are good. But reading the responses, I felt certain that if I came forward with an account of personal harm, I would never forgive—or make the mistake of confiding in—any person who dared say such a thing to me, especially under the aegis of support. Somewhere along the way, it seems we all agreed (I did too!) that the proper response to people who have been assaulted is, in effect, “I do not think you are a liar.” It is reactive rather than responsive. It grants higher standing to the ugly premise that survivors are liars than to the actual pain being expressed.

This article was very well written and it captures the problem perfectly. Thanks for sharing it. It amazes me every day that the statement "believe women" must be reiterated at all. You'd think we would have accepted that we should believe women and moved onto "get some fucking justice for women who've been assaulted in any capacity".

I wanna say that sexual harassment isn’t just physical but also verbal. There’s many forms and both are harmful, just because the person never physically touched the person doesn’t mean that it isn’t still harassment. Sexualizing someone, threatening them, or making overly sexual comments to someone after they say they aren’t comfortable with that is still sexual harassment! It’s a form of harassment I don’t see getting recognized enough and I want people to know that just because it isn’t necessarily physical it’s still valid!

Not all man but most women. NOT ALL MEN BUT MOST WOMEN! I have never met a women who has never at least had one story to tell about how they been sexualized, sexually assaulted, sexually harassed or raped. Not all men but most women.

I’ve never really went to detail on my experiences with sexual abuse and I don’t necessarily plan on it anytime soon. All in all I am a victim of it and to this day it really affects me. I went unknown to the abuse I endured as a kid cause I was a naive child who grew up around it so to me at the time “it was normal”. It wasn’t till I made friends that I realized it was actually incredibly wrong. When you’re a child growing up around sexual abuse and that being your only source of knowledge you began to think that’s “normal”. It’s not until you get an outside perspective till you realize that it actually really isn’t normal. On top of the sexual abuse I endured growing up I had other situations with other people where I was sexually harassed. It affects me so much that any grown man who show me affection makes me genuinely scared that they’ll end up well… you know. Mixed with that fear is anger, anger that all of my offenders are able to walk freely without consequences. Angry that I’m not the only one but dozen upon dozen of people have the similar experiences. Angry that I was forced into silence for so long, angry that so many others are forced to be silent. I am no longer gonna be silent, I refuse to stay quiet. I speak for myself and the people who are forced into silence to this day.

I would like to go back to the year where women would be burnt at steak if accused to be a witch, cause I know damn well I would be brunt at steak and I rather be dead than have to live in world where I have to fight with people who can’t express basic sympathy to the struggles a person goes through regardless of their gender.

“Not all men”

“Not all women”

“Well I never —“

Irrelevant! Y’all wanna be praise so bad for doing the bare fucking minimum and not being a rapist, abuser, sexual assaulter, pedophile, groomer, serial killer, etc…

IRRELEVANT!!! Just be a human being and show love and support to a victims story, rather than making it about yourself or some fucked up gender competition.

I make this post for the men who have trauma and constantly get discredited for it or ignored, silenced, and told to be quiet just because they are a man. Anyone who thinks vulnerability is weak is ridiculous. Show support for all victims no matter their gender.

Mens rape, abuse, and sexual assault matters just as equally as it does for women. My platform is for both men and women, and for anyone in between. It’s for people who need a voice because they are scared to speak up, because they are told their story doesn’t matter, because they are forced to stay quiet, because they are told it’s their fault.

I’m here to tell you it’s not your fault, that your story’s valid and there are dozens of people who understand, who gone through similar, who are here to support you through it.