1, 6 & 9 For The Ask Game!

1, 6 & 9 for the ask game!

Hi!

I’m Ash and I’m fronting right now (and I think Piper is hanging around somewhere).

I usually feel calm when I’m fronting. My job is day to day life and I’m the most “neutral” of the system, which I find hilarious because I’m very dramatic and emotional. I like being in control though so fronting calms me down.

I’m not part of a subsystem (pretty sure).

We love asks so much so thank you!

Remember the post I wrote about Aziraphale being a fighter?

Do you wanna know who isn't one?

Crowley

And no, I'm not saying he is a lover or some bullshit like that. Aziraphale is a fighter AND a lover. No, Crowley is a strategist.

He fights with his brain. He is really good at thinking on his feet. In a physical fight, he gets over the violence by talking his way out of it and using his creativity to come up with a quick exit. He thinks up plans quickly and efficiently (raising the antichrist, surviving Ligur and Hastur, getting Hastur stuck in the phone, figuring out how to cross the M25 aflame, the Arrangement, saving Aziraphale in 1941, the plan to rob the church in the 60s, fooling an horde of angels into believing Job's kids are new kids, do you want me to continue?).

And he has the added bonus of having a silver tongue, so his words are always clearly his main weapon to bring his plans into fruition. And, so far, we've only seen him fail once: convincing Aziraphale to stay

DID being demonised/etherealised is hilarious to me because we’re just regular people with a little more trauma and a little less flesh sack

Hey there system who is freaking out about whether or not to tell their loved ones that they’re plural!

After we were diagnosed with DID it suddenly became a big worry of “who do I tell” and “how do I tell”.

Firstly, you don’t owe it to anyone to tell them. You don’t have to tell anyone at all. However, we do understand the safety and comfort reasons behind telling people you trust.

We haven’t told everyone. We haven’t even told everyone we want to tell. So far our immediate family (parent and their parents) and one of our friends knows. Having them know means that we can be kept safe even if someone who’s fronting can’t do that.

Secondly, it can be a big relief to have a friend know. I’ve known my friend for years and yes things have changed but it’s been overwhelmingly positive. She’s checked on our boundaries, on how she views us, on how the disorder affects the other aspects of what she knows about us and all with respect.

It wasn’t a big moment. It was a matter of her asking if I wanted to talk to her about something and me explaining the diagnosis.

What I’m trying to say is that you don’t have to tell people and if you do tell someone you feel safe with, if they’re a good person, it probably won’t be as bad as you think.

🌷An ask-the-part-thats-out Ask game ❄️

Hi! Who are you right now?

How do know its you thats out? What are your usual cues?

Do you like it when people know its You and not the collective whole? Is it situational, or depends on the person?

What sort of aesthetics do you draw to?

What do you look like?

What sort of emotions do you feel mostly when you’re out?

What sort of situations are you out in most of the time?

Are there other parts like you in the same system?

Are you part of a subsystem?

What’s your relationship like to the parts nearest to you right now?

Do you have vague memories of before you came out, or do they feel blocked out?

What’s your favorite way to ground?

Do you have a favorite snack or drink?

Do you have a favorite item in the present world?

Do you have an inner world? Do you have a place you like in there?

Whats a simple way other parts might describe you to like a therapist or something?(they’re the fierce one, the sad one, ect)

What’s the safest thing you can imagine right now?

What’s something you wish the system would do more of?

What’s your handwriting like?

Free space! Tell me a random fact about you or something you’re thinking about

Exactly!!!

“See the person not the disability”

NO! SEE MY DISABILITY! IT IS AN IMPORTANT PART OF MY LIFE THAT SHOULD BE ACKNOWLEDGED! OF ALL THE ABLEIST CRAP THIS IS THE WORST ONE!