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Not forcing!!
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Edit; forgot to include that I’m also xenogender and a xenopronoun user xD I hoard dog and wolf xenogenders and currently only go by pup/pups, though I don’t mind any other dog Xenos :3
Also guys ur blowing up my phone GAHHH thank you all so much 😭😭😭🫶🫶🫶
after this outburst because i was quite uncomfortable, i wanted to say something.
if you're a xenogender/neopronouns/xenopronouns user, i just wanna tell you that here's a safe space for you.
i know that sometimes you must feel invalid or bad because of all the hate from these ignorant people. humanity sucks sometimes.
but i want ya to know that you're safe here and that i love you so much. i find you, your pronouns and your identity so valid and tbh they're so cool!!
i love y'all and don't forget to be kind to people. we're all just trying to survive in this shitty society...
hey my dear humans! how y'all doing?
so, in last september i started to write a book about pronouns. basically i'm your pronoun teacher and i teach y'all about how to use different sets of pronouns.
i've already written 8 chapters but the only one who reads is my dear partner :)
i'd like to have more people reading this book because pronouns are such an important thing and i like to spread awareness about them.
so if y'all interested about reading my book, you can go to quotev(either the site or the app) and search noahizslay and check my book.
i hope y'all will do it and i'm very grateful if you do :D
thanks for reading this and see ya! <3.
hey my dear humans!
i just want to tell y'all that emojiself pronouns are just so cool and if you use them you're also cool and valid as fuck!
don't let other people tell you that you're "mocking" trans people because of the pronouns you use.
like can't y'all understand that pronouns are literally just a word that we use instead of your name because this way we don't have to repeat it constantly or because we don't even know your name?
also does someone using pronouns you're not familiar with hurt you? is it that difficult to use? can't you waist 5 min of your life learning about them so you can respect people?
also don't forget that emojiself pronouns are meant to be used online only! also most of people who use them use other pronouns as well. same goes with neopronouns, nounself pronouns, etc. people who use them also use other pronouns.
just respect people's pronouns ffs!
have a great day :)
I think in honor of pride month and also in general forever we should stop trying fit queer people into the identities we think they should call themselves.
And I know no one is going to see this because no one ever does but I'm going to talk about it anyway because this is important.
Bisexual doesn't mean you don't date trans people, it doesn't mean you like men and women, it doesn't mean you can't have a preference. Someone can identify as polysexual or bisexual or omnisexual and have no preference and you don't get to say that that means they're pansexual. Because no, if they don't identify as pansexual then they're not pansexual.
Transmasc doesn't mean you use he/him pronouns. It doesn't mean you identify as a man. Transfem doesn't mean you use she/her pronouns. It doesn't mean you identify as a woman. You can be nonbinary or genderqueer or agender or any gender that isn't binary and not use they/them pronouns. You can use any of those labels and still identify as a man or a woman. You can use different pronouns than is typically used for your birth sex and not consider yourself transgender. People can be gender non conforming and not he trans. People can be trans and not gender non conforming.
A trans man can be fem. A trans woman can be masc. Nonbinary people don't owe you androgyny. Intersex people don't owe you androgyny. Intersex people are people, they deserve way more attention than a way to one up transphobes. Intersex people face discrimination and body altering surgeries without their consent and then are only ever talked about to say "some cis women have penises" or "some people have an extra x chromosome" and then we never talk about the struggle they face as part of the queer community.
Asexuality and aromanticism is a spectrum. Some aces like sex, some aces are repulsed, some aces only experience sexual attraction to one person or once in their life, some aces need a deep emotional bond, some aces their attraction changes. Some aros change identities. Some aros are repulsed by romance unless it's a fictional character. Some aros have romantic feelings until they get to know someone. Some aros crave a romantic relationship but never have romantic feelings. You don't get to say someone isn't asexual or aromantic enough.
Asexuality and aromanticism is having a unique relationship with romance or sexual feelings and impulses. Someone who is transgender has a unique experience with gender. You don't get to decide that they don't have a unique experience. But guess what? You don't get to decide if they do either. Someone can have a unique experience and still not identify as asexual aromantic or transgender. You can cross dress and still fully feel like a man. You can use he/him pronouns as a cis women. You can have trauma around sex and not identify as asexual. You can never have a romantic relationship and not identify as aromantic.
You can have "contradicting" labels. I don't know as many of these because I don't personally identify as any but please fell welcome to add in reblogs. There are trans men lesbians and gay women. There are sex loving asexuals. I know there are others I just genuinely am not educated enough.
YOU DONT GET TO CHOOSE SOMEONES LABELS
ANYONE CAN EITHER IDENTIFY OR NOT IDENTIFY AS QUEER
Please feel welcome to add anything in reblogs. I'm sure there's things I've missed. I haven't talked about neopronouns I haven't talked enough about "contradicting" labels. I haven't talked about queer platonic relationships or kink or polyamory or enough about intersex people or pronouns vs gender. There's so much important things but at the end of the day it's just so important to not choose other people's labels.
i love xenogender and xenopronoun users and y'all are so valid!!
Not forcing!!
(Image by ♡ Apollo ♡ on Pinterest)
Edit; forgot to include that I’m also xenogender and a xenopronoun user xD I hoard dog and wolf xenogenders and currently only go by pup/pups, though I don’t mind any other dog Xenos :3
Also guys ur blowing up my phone GAHHH thank you all so much 😭😭😭🫶🫶🫶
hey my dear humans! if you're dysphoric because people keep misgendering you, i have a tip for you!
if you have a notebook with you, write sentences in which you're using your pronouns. if you don't have a notebook with you, just think about sentences in which you're using your pronouns.
this can be really helpful and this helps me a lot when i'm dysphoric about getting misgendered.
have a great day!
SURVEY CLOSED!!!
; indeed, I second this !! Emojiself pronouns are very fun and very gender !! <3
hey my dear humans!
i just want to tell y'all that emojiself pronouns are just so cool and if you use them you're also cool and valid as fuck!
don't let other people tell you that you're "mocking" trans people because of the pronouns you use.
like can't y'all understand that pronouns are literally just a word that we use instead of your name because this way we don't have to repeat it constantly or because we don't even know your name?
also does someone using pronouns you're not familiar with hurt you? is it that difficult to use? can't you waist 5 min of your life learning about them so you can respect people?
also don't forget that emojiself pronouns are meant to be used online only! also most of people who use them use other pronouns as well. same goes with neopronouns, nounself pronouns, etc. people who use them also use other pronouns.
just respect people's pronouns ffs!
have a great day :)
; * sips gender juice * only if you hand over some genders, and I'll let you leave w all your bags of pronouns !!
I need…. *growls* more… pronouns
; some masc ones will suffice for now .. ! But consider yourself lucky you're leaving w all your pronouns
I need…. *growls* more… pronouns
; hi !! Neopronoun user here :]]
; " what are neopronouns ? "
; neopronouns are pronouns that are not the usual he / she / they !! They're generally for trans or non-binary ( and everyone under those umbrellas ) people to use, but anyone can use them !! For most people they're a form of self expression or a way to further personalize their experience and to feel more comfortable w themselves. :]
; " when and where do they originate from ? "
; I don't know the history 100%, but to my knowledge: the oldest recorded use of a neopronoun was where William H Marshall documented the use of the pronoun " a " !! And a later use in around the late 1970s where the pronoun " le " was introduced among other attempts at normalizing gender neutral terminology and pronouns. But it died out pretty quickly .. Although it's gained more popularity ( plus the use of nounself pronouns, emojiself, etc ) from the birth of the modern internet, especially with apps like Tumblr !! Mainly they became more recognized in the 2010s !! :] This is js brief though, as I'm still learning more about them and their history !!
; " when and why did neopronouns become more popular recently ? "
; as I mentioned they gained traction around the 2010s among apps like Tumblr, etc. With the LGBTQIA+ community becoming more accepted and wide spread. Plus queer rights, especially trans rights, being passed and accepted. People were no longer ( in most big countries / cities .. Still a lot of places fight for rights, and it's of course and ongoing battle. ) fighting for the right not to be killed for simply existing outside, people had more opportunity to explore their identities and not have to worry ( too much ) about being ridiculed and unaccepted. So neopronouns naturally kind of came into discussion, and since so many people adored and related with them, they became more and more popular !! :]
; " why do you feel more comfortable using these pronouns instead of i.e. they / them ? "
; personally I think they're just fun, and my gender is- complicated, I relate this to my neurodivergency and I find it hard to always 100% relate to " stiff " pronouns like they / he / she, they just make me feel odd sometimes. So when I found out about neos, they made me feel 10x more comfortable, and I get a boost of joy whenever ppl use them for me. I also adore finding / making pronouns for things I like, it's something about my person I can freely customize, so why wouldn't I ?
; " how do you come up w these pronouns ? "
; to be honest I usually search for neo lists ( lists of neos already made by someone else ) or ask for recommendations !! But picking them out is like .. Picking an outfit to wear, I enjoy aspects of it and I like how it feels as a whole, it also might describe me as a person or I resonate with it. Some are simply for fun, because again, they bring me joy :]]
; " to ppl who add more and more neos supposedly js to spite an anti-neo person, are they truly comfortable w these pronouns, or are they just using them to spite others ? "
; I can't speak for everyone, but personally ( and what majority thinks ) it's more of a joke !! Obviously I do get a little spiteful joy out of it, but that's more because I know their hate is coming from a, purposeful or not, uneducated stance. So I'm not offended, I js find it amusing that they waste so much time being hateful on something that's really not a big deal. But of course I'm comfortable w the pronouns, I wouldn't use them otherwise ?? /nm /gen
; " do you use these pronouns irl ? "
; so I haven't come out as any form of trans / enby so pronouns haven't been discussed, I doubt I'd tell my family ( possibly siblings but .. ) since they're not the most supportive and it'd be unsafe for me. BUT, I would use them irl. And if I had friends irl I'd want them to be used on me ! I have full intention of using these in real life, and I know of plenty of people who use them outside of the internet as well !! They're our pronouns, not js fun internet accessories ( generally speaking ofc !! Everyone's got a slightly different opinion :] )
; " how do you use pronouns like bunny / bunnyself in a sentence ? "
; they'd be used like " This is *name* ! Bunny is a close friend of mine, and I really enjoy bunnys company. Bunny really knows how to take care of bunnyself ! " Although some peoples sets vary person to person, so it's best to ask if you're unsure !!
; " how do you get around ungrammatically correct pronouns, that could make ppl uncomfortable because they're not grammatically correct ? "
; honestly I've never encountered this issue .. But how I personally would handle it is simply tell them to use another set ! Since I'm A) okay with any neos and B) have a lot of other personal favourites that'd work better and make them feel more comfortable ! And if it really came down to it, I'm also okay with he / they, so they could always use those instead of neos. :]
; " how do you pronounce pronouns like xir / xem / ey ? "
; xir is usually pronounced like zer .. Xem is zem, and ey would be ae !! Of course if you're ever unsure, it's always fine to ask !!
; " do you agree or disagree that neos are harmful to trans people ? "
; disagree !! While I understand neopronouns are defiantly hated and ridiculed a lot .. So are trans people in general, neos or not trans people will be ridiculed by transphobes !! And majority of people who use neos are trans ( or under that umbrella / nonbinary ) we're in this fight together. Hating each other and turning against each other isn't helping anyone. Neos aren't embarrassing and they aren't hurting the community, what's hurting the trans community is transphobes. They're the problem, not people using different words to refer to themselves for comfort / whatever !! :] /nm /nay
; " if hypothetically neos were causing harm to trans people, what would you do ? "
; I'm not really comfortable answering such a hypothetical !! Although in general if something is supposedly harming the trans community I'd do research on it, and if it's especially harmful, advocate against it .. But neopronouns aren't hurting anyone. So this is an unnecessary question !! /nm
; " what can people do to make you feel more comfortable ? "
; kind of you to ask !! I think really js using my neopronouns, with or without hesitation .. It always makes me feel so positive and welcomed when people do. And if they have questions, just ask !! I'd rather be asked a hundred questions a day then have someone make their mind up about me or something about me while uneducated, or start hating others about something they don't properly understand .. !! /nbh /gen
; " anything else you'd like to add ? "
; it's genuinely very thoughtful of you to ask this !! And also never be afraid of asking questions like these, even if you maybe get negative responses, it's really important to keep an open mind !! So yh, genuinely appreciate this :]
; ( hopefully these answered your questions well enough, and were understandable !! If not I'd be happy to answer any other questions through either DMs or my asks !! :D )
Can someone explain neopronouns to me?
This is genuine. I went through both the anti neopronouns tags and pro neopronouns tags, but neither explain their sides good enough. I have questions for both sides, and I want some genuine answers without people getting mad at each other. For people answering, I ask that you keep in mind that these are genuine questions. Please don’t get mad.
For people answering, you don’t have to answer all questions. I know some of these questions are pretty heavy.
For both/neutral to answer:
• What are neopronouns?
• When and where do they originate from?
• When and why did neopronouns become more popular recently?
For pro neopronouns/neopronoun users to answer:
• Why do you feel most comfortable with these pronouns instead of pronouns like they/them?
• How do you come up with these pronouns?
• I’ve seen posts of neopronoun users adding more and more pronouns to their profiles just to spite an anti-neopronoun person. Are they truly comfortable with those pronouns being used on them, or are they just doing it to spite these people?
• Do you use these pronouns in real life?
• If so, how do you get people to use your neopronouns in real life?
• How do you use neopronouns like bunny/bunnyself in a sentence?
• Neopronouns like paw/pawself don’t really make sense grammatically. And some people don’t like using grammatically incorrect sentences. How do you get around that, and how do you help people who are uncomfortable with using grammatically incorrect sentences?
• How do you pronounce pronouns like xir/xem/ey, or other pronouns similar to those?
• Some people think that neopronouns are causing harm to trans rights. They also think that neopronouns are making it harder for trans people to be taken seriously. Do you agree or disagree? If you disagree, can you explain how neopronouns are not causing harm?
• What would you do if, hypothetically, neopronouns were genuinely causing harm? Like they are causing harm to trans rights, like some people think they are?
• What can people do to help make you more comfortable?
• Any other things you would like to add?
For anti neopronouns to answer:
• Why are you uncomfortable with calling people by neopronouns?
• Are you alright with pronouns like xir/zen/ey etc.? If not, why?
• Alternatively, are you alright with pronouns such as void/voidself? If not, why?
• If you said that you were alright with one but not the other, why?
• Some languages don’t have gender neutral pronouns like English does, so there are neopronouns in other languages for gender neutral people. What are your thoughts on that?
• Some people think that neopronouns are causing harm to trans rights. They also think that neopronouns are making it harder for trans people to be taken seriously. Do you agree or disagree? If you agree, can you explain how neopronouns are causing harm?
• What would you do if, hypothetically, neopronouns aren’t causing harm? Like they had no effect on transphobia, like some people think they do?
• Any other things you would like to add?
To people that answer these questions, thank you so much for your response!
; this a million times oml. To add more: neopronouns are not effecting the trans community, neopronouns are not exclusive to certain people, neopronouns are not silly or cringe or invalid and they're not ( most the time ) js for online use, they're peoples pronouns. And qpr are different to everyone !! They can include sex but they don't have to, but stop calling it " basically friends w benefits ", qpp's can kiss or never even try, qpp's can get get platonically married if they want, qpr's can be polyamory or exclusive, and they can be sexual without being romantic and it is not mf abusive or whatever dumb shit ppl are spreading, they can also be romantic and not sexual and not be sad or a " failing ship ", etc. It's not your relationship and it's not your definition of platonic, so js leave ppl alone. Oh and for the love of the stars DO NOT call it " js a really close friendship " or " friendship+ basically " and / or describe it as lesser than romantic / sexual relationships. Its not less or more than anything, it's a queer platonic relationship. It's it's own category THANK YOU.
I think in honor of pride month and also in general forever we should stop trying fit queer people into the identities we think they should call themselves.
And I know no one is going to see this because no one ever does but I'm going to talk about it anyway because this is important.
Bisexual doesn't mean you don't date trans people, it doesn't mean you like men and women, it doesn't mean you can't have a preference. Someone can identify as polysexual or bisexual or omnisexual and have no preference and you don't get to say that that means they're pansexual. Because no, if they don't identify as pansexual then they're not pansexual.
Transmasc doesn't mean you use he/him pronouns. It doesn't mean you identify as a man. Transfem doesn't mean you use she/her pronouns. It doesn't mean you identify as a woman. You can be nonbinary or genderqueer or agender or any gender that isn't binary and not use they/them pronouns. You can use any of those labels and still identify as a man or a woman. You can use different pronouns than is typically used for your birth sex and not consider yourself transgender. People can be gender non conforming and not he trans. People can be trans and not gender non conforming.
A trans man can be fem. A trans woman can be masc. Nonbinary people don't owe you androgyny. Intersex people don't owe you androgyny. Intersex people are people, they deserve way more attention than a way to one up transphobes. Intersex people face discrimination and body altering surgeries without their consent and then are only ever talked about to say "some cis women have penises" or "some people have an extra x chromosome" and then we never talk about the struggle they face as part of the queer community.
Asexuality and aromanticism is a spectrum. Some aces like sex, some aces are repulsed, some aces only experience sexual attraction to one person or once in their life, some aces need a deep emotional bond, some aces their attraction changes. Some aros change identities. Some aros are repulsed by romance unless it's a fictional character. Some aros have romantic feelings until they get to know someone. Some aros crave a romantic relationship but never have romantic feelings. You don't get to say someone isn't asexual or aromantic enough.
Asexuality and aromanticism is having a unique relationship with romance or sexual feelings and impulses. Someone who is transgender has a unique experience with gender. You don't get to decide that they don't have a unique experience. But guess what? You don't get to decide if they do either. Someone can have a unique experience and still not identify as asexual aromantic or transgender. You can cross dress and still fully feel like a man. You can use he/him pronouns as a cis women. You can have trauma around sex and not identify as asexual. You can never have a romantic relationship and not identify as aromantic.
You can have "contradicting" labels. I don't know as many of these because I don't personally identify as any but please fell welcome to add in reblogs. There are trans men lesbians and gay women. There are sex loving asexuals. I know there are others I just genuinely am not educated enough.
YOU DONT GET TO CHOOSE SOMEONES LABELS
ANYONE CAN EITHER IDENTIFY OR NOT IDENTIFY AS QUEER
Please feel welcome to add anything in reblogs. I'm sure there's things I've missed. I haven't talked about neopronouns I haven't talked enough about "contradicting" labels. I haven't talked about queer platonic relationships or kink or polyamory or enough about intersex people or pronouns vs gender. There's so much important things but at the end of the day it's just so important to not choose other people's labels.
; in case this was not obvious I am a v safe space for xenogender users, neopronoun users && xenopronoun users !! Love you all :DD ( I also use them myself lol )
Not forcing!!
(Image by ♡ Apollo ♡ on Pinterest)
Edit; forgot to include that I’m also xenogender and a xenopronoun user xD I hoard dog and wolf xenogenders and currently only go by pup/pups, though I don’t mind any other dog Xenos :3
Also guys ur blowing up my phone GAHHH thank you all so much 😭😭😭🫶🫶🫶
When I say I go by all pronouns, I include neo & xenopronouns as well, just for the record.
I don't know who needs to hear this, or if it will even reach an audience at all, but you're valid. I'm talkin about the people who are constantly told they aren't valid by their own community: the lesboys, mspecs and everyone of the like. Those of us with 'contradictory' identities. The people who use neopronouns, nounself pronouns, emoji pronouns, and/or xenogenders. You're just as valid as the people who fit neatly into simpler, more 'acceptable' and 'normal' identities. And don't let anyone tell you different.
I know it's hard. I've witnessed a pan lesbian get doxxed on Twitter all because they identified as such. You see, people like us aren't what's harming the community, but some people will try to make you feel that way. Try not to let it get to you.
people who 'joke' about being glad their fathers beat them when met with the fact queer people exist live a sad existence. I'm sorry a teen who uses fox/foxself makes you think that child abuse is in any way okay, and I'm sorry you went through that. But yeah that's where my sympathy stops lmfao, stop bullying queer kids because you have a dad that wouldn't accept you if you explored your identity in any way that isn't the norm.
I have never heard of this, thanks for bringing it to my attention!
I would like to learn more about actual xenopronouns, myself; as a nonhuman I am thoroughly interested in expressing that part of my identity, and this could help.
I wanted to make a post about this because it’s really frustrating me.
Xenopronouns are a type of pronoun that cannot be understood by human language. An example is a pronoun that is a pattern of flashing lights (like a firefly) or a pronoun in sign language, but you need four arms to sign it. They can also be things like the sensation of electricity, the sound of glass shattering, etc. that humans can’t produce. They are primarily used by nonhumans.
What about pronouns like star/stars, raccoon/raccoons, or green/greens? Those are nounself pronouns, not xenopronouns. I don’t know where the confusion comes from. Maybe from the fact that these pronouns are usually used by xenogender people and “xenogender pronouns” gets shortened to xenopronouns. The truth is that any gender can use any pronouns, so associating nounself pronouns with xenogenders is just wrong.
One of my new companions wants to use xenopronouns to accentuate xir nonhumanity, and I’m trying to find resources about those pronouns to better understand my companion and figure out how to refer to xem (xe said I could use xe/xem as an aux). But the xenopronouns tag is flooded with people tagging posts about nounself pronouns with xenopronouns. It makes it very hard to find posts about actual xenopronouns.
Please don’t push xenopronoun users out of their own tag. If that tag becomes basically unusable, where else are they supposed to go? It’s not that hard to tag a post about nounself pronouns with #nounself pronouns instead of #xenopronouns.
