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Hello! I'm also an autistic disabled person and I've thought about getting a cane but I haven't pulled the trigger on it yet. What made you decide? Is it an every day thing or a some days thing? Idk I'm just trying to gather info ig.

Hey! It took me a while to decide to do it honestly but realizing that I don’t need to push myself is a big part of it. I’ve always been a person who has pushed themself to do everything perfectly and I’d get really frustrated when I couldn’t and to be honest I’m still like that. It wasn’t until recently (got my first cane back in January) that I realized that having a mobility aid or aids would help me be able to do what I wanted how I wanted was a big part too.

Also I came to the realization that people don’t think about/dream about how much a cane or mobility aid would help them if they don’t need or would not benefit from it.

I was constantly worried about how other people would perceive me and as an Autistic person I struggle with knowing how people perceive me so I’m always self conscious of that but ive come to realize that the opinions of others don’t mean Jack shit compared to my comfort. Additionally, I was really scared to be rejected by my family and loved ones and to an extent I have faced some ableism from them (my mother especially) the way my mobility aids have helped me way out weigh that.

Basically just coming to terms with the fact that I can’t do everything the same way as everyone else, realizing that people who don’t need it don’t think about it, and that I should prioritize my health and comfort over my fears of how others perceive me. The comfort and safety of my body is the most important thing so I decided to finally listen to the part of me that has been begging for help.

I know for me that sometimes I don't respond to comments because I’m busy and then, if enough time passes, I become anxious about responding, especially when it’s one of my older fan fics as I open and respond to my newer/ongoing ones, and avoid responding because it’s making anxious thinking about opening and reading the comment regardless of knowing that if they left a comment that odds are it’s positive, though I have gotten a few comments saying that they didn’t like the story, but now I’m too worried about answering and what they’ll think of me answering ‘late’ that it’s better to not open it and dump it in my fan fic folder in my email where I save all the comments, likes/kudos and following.

It didn’t happen often but I recently sent a comment, unopened, to my fan fic folder due to experiencing anxiety when thinking about opening it.

Right now I’m not getting much if any comments as I haven’t had the opportunity to get anything ready to be posted in quite some time.

I don't know if this is a question the witches will answer or not but I keep wondering so I'm going to ask anyway. But it's okay if you don't answer it.

Why do some fic writers respond to comments and some don't? I like when I get a reply because it makes me feel like we're talking or something since I don't really know any of them. It just makes it friendlier, I guess? I want to read more of their stuff if I know they're going to be nice if that makes sense.

We agree, it is nice to feel like you have a connection to a favorite writer through some kind of communication in the comments.

There are lots of reasons authors don’t reply to comments. Just like some readers worry about what to write for comments, authors can and do worry about how to respond.

Of course we encourage everyone to leave comments, but they aren’t a form of currency. Readers should comment (and kudo) because they love a fic, not because they’re expecting something in return. The writer has already given us something by gifting us with their ideas, words, time, and creativity.

Whether you receive a response to your comment or not, the witches are positive the author was thrilled that you left it.