Letting Go Of The Need To Control The Outcome Sets You Free - Tumblr Posts

In my new job working as a nursing assistant in a long term care facility for the elderly, most of my colleagues completely confuse niceness and weakness. I'm determined to be gentle with everyone (colleagues included) and I cannot count how many of them have told me I'm going to be eaten alive if I keep it up. I don't know how to get them to understand that I'm doing what I do with deliberate intention. No one is going to eat me alive, even if the worst comes to pass (which I guess would be some form of getting backstabbed and fired) because I know I'm doing what's right. I have a lot of other job options. I'm choosing this one because it fits best at the moment, but I'm not going to embrace the toxic culture for any reason. That doesn't make me weak, it makes me indomitable.

A thing I notice is that at least 60% of the time some of the more caustic and temperamental types of people have this self-victimizing attitude where they see themselves as recovering doormats who have been nice for too long and so have "earned" permission to be mean to people because they confuse rudeness for assertiveness and niceness with submission and they have a binary view of the whole thing.