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Violet: I have an idea.
Tairn: A good one?
Violet: Let’s not get ahead of ourselves.
Violet: I have an idea.
Tairn: A good one?
Violet: Let’s not get ahead of ourselves.
People have said it in more intelligent ways than I’m going to but the relationship between cis mlm and “straight guy gets turned gay” type of porn is in turns fascinating and relatable and repulsive. It carries over commonly to porn where the bottom is not conventionally queer-looking but instead is quite masculine in some way. It’s like. The internalized homophobia (which is really misogyny dressed up) that frames queer sex and bottoming as a form of degradation. And then that in turn is an outlet for men who imagine themselves as the tops in this scenario, where it becomes a defense against homosexuality on top of a defense against homosexuality. Because you as the top are “forcing” someone else in this scenario to take on the degrading role and this humiliating identity. And in that way removing yourself one step further because it is not JUST a fantasy of kinky degrading sex you’re having but of an act of aggression and violence against another man. I’m doing this to you, I’m making you into this.
Kink is a great way for people from all genders and orientations to explore their own internalized biases and taboos and that’s why I’m really into de transing and breeding and stuff so I’m definitely not knocking anybody who’s into it. I just find it genuinely fascinating to watch cis men show up in droves in the comments of posts that are just plain old “two guys fucking who don’t look conventionally queer” and inevitably always turning it into THIS GUY is STRAIGHT and he’s being FORCED to be GAY like the LITTLE PIG BITCH BOY HE IS.
Whereas it’s so refreshing and lovely to see masc men who don’t fit traditional twinky impressions of queerness joyfully and unselfconsciously participating in subbing and bottoming. I feel for them because their submission so often gets turned into an act of degradation by the very people they are creating this content for? Whether they want it to or not. And we could talk about the way this speaks to how so many mlm see even traditionally skinny femme bottoms and how that impacts THEM but that’s a topic for another day. Anyhow.
Comfy 🥰
I think they should all get to be happy for a while.
When I first started to really work on improving myself I thought, “at x weight, x income, once I travel here, once I graduate, once I get married, once I have kids, once I buy this item/get this nice car, THEN I’ll be happy” but it really doesn’t work like that. If you have any amount of ambition, once you reach that level you’ll already be thinking about what’s next. That’s why you have to work on being happy with where you are now in this present moment and acknowledge and celebrate what you have already done and then keep it moving.
What did you do all these months??
If it's okay to ask😊.
tried to kill myself 💀 im okay now tho just really struggle with academic failure
