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Now a message for my past younger self:

Agree 100%

That being said, part of the problem with talking about it is that menstrual cycles can be so different from person to person. I have know people that hardly notice theirs and others have pain so bad that they vomit. Many factors go into how we physically, mentally and emotionally are impacted by our periods. We need to understand that our own personal truths do not have to mirror the experiences of others so we can hear what they are sharing with us instead of minimizing their experience.

I know this sounds like an obvious duh, but I’ll be uncomfortably honest and admit that my 18 year old self didn’t understand this. I remember telling people PMS wasn’t real… and I believed that at one point because I hadn’t experienced it yet. I remember judging people that I believed were exaggerating simply because their experience was much different from mine. I just honestly didn’t understand that we could experience the “same” thing so differently.

We absolutely need to talk about menstrual cycles more, but requires hearing and believing the experiences of others when they may differ from our own. Whether is menstrual cycles, child birth, identity, boundaries, and a million other topics, we need to understand that our truth is ours and someone else’s truth is theirs and respect that. I wish I had learned that much younger than I did.

we as a society don't adequately address how physically, emotionally, and mentally hard the menstrual cycle is on a woman's body and we really should be talking about this

yeah they aren't ready for this

One of my favorite things about rotj Luke is how morbid he is. We don’t talk about it enough. He walks up to Jabba’s palace in Vader’s best cloak and not-so-subtly threatens Jabba with death, which Leia delivers. When Luke says goodbye to Leia, thinking that he’s leaving to die, he tells her she’s the only hope for the Alliance. To Palpatine, he says “You’re gravely mistaken,” and, “Soon I’ll be dead, and you with me.”

IMPORTANT PSA

I told ao3, so now I'm here to tell you all.

I do see your comments and your reblogs, but I don't always respond. I try, but sometimes life just gets in the way or I completely forget for days or weeks. Sometimes, by the time I actually remember or see the comment, it's disrespectful to even respond because it's so late.

There is no such time as too late to respond to comments and reblogs. It may take a while, but most people, I've found, are pretty understanding. At least, that's what I've seen while reading comments on other stories.

Fandom culture is, for some reason, falling back onto this theory that everyone just knows what everyone else is thinking and it's sad. Interaction between everyone who creates and consumes is falling quickly and steadily.

Artists of all kinds are getting kicked in the ass because of the rise of AI creations. We're being kicked while we're down because people are seeing our stuff, we know they are, but they're not communicating with us.

I can guarantee that commenting and rebloging and tagging will motivate artists much more than you think.

I've heard stories (one of them my own) of people giving up on stories or whole art pieces because people weren't communicating or interacting with them.

I've heard stories where people have picked up pieces that they hadn't touched in years because someone commented on their work.

Fandom Culture has become less of a community and more of a consumer base. It's disappointing, to say the least.

I was born in 2004 and raised on old fandoms and fandom culture. I didn't jump into it until 2017, but even then was so much better to post and write because people were leaving comments about their favorite parts or compliments and keyboard smashes.

New people coming into fandom culture aren't getting the true experience that a lot of us grew up on and in. They're coming into a place closer to window shopping than an actual library.

2020 was largely the cause of this when huge amounts of people entered fandom culture because there was nothing else for them to do. But they're not all to blame. We didn't do a good enough job teaching them the proper etiquette. But it's not too late.

Lesson number one is to comment. Never post a hate comment and never give critique unless it's asked for.

very controversial opinion here, but sometimes customer service workers are the problem 😶

it drives me bonkers the way people don't know how to read classic books in context anymore. i just read a review of the picture of dorian gray that said "it pains me that the homosexual subtext is just that, a subtext, rather than a fully explored part of the narrative." and now i fully want to put my head through a table. first of all, we are so lucky in the 21st century to have an entire category of books that are able to loudly and lovingly declare their queerness that we've become blind to the idea that queerness can exist in a different language than our contemporary mode of communication. second it IS a fully explored part of the narrative! dorian gray IS a textually queer story, even removed from the context of its writing. it's the story of toxic queer relationships and attraction and dangerous scandals and the intertwining of late 19th century "uranianism" and misogyny. second of all, i'm sorry that oscar wilde didn't include 15k words of graphic gay sex with ao3-style tags in his 1890 novel that was literally used to convict him of indecent behaviour. get well soon, i guess...