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houseonthemoors

11 months ago

Another interesting comment thread on this post:

I really like how HMS expounds on her original point. I feel like this is true for the type she discusses. Although I don't agree that it represents "all men" and no women.

I’m starting to think that many males use the word “dysphoria” when what they are feeling is “guilt”

Literally when you see males who want to be seen as female complain about how everyday female behaviors make them dysphoric (talk of periods, childbirth, existing, having natural breasts, wanting female doctors, feeling uncomfortable alone with strange males, lesbians not wanting to engage with males) and replace the word dysphoria with guilt and the word dysphoric with guilty.

“It makes me feel guilty when you talk about how you don’t want to have sex with penises”

“My guilt acts up when I see cis women who don’t see me as a woman”

“Please don’t talk about your period because it makes me feel guilty”

After sitting in therapy sessions where men cry about how hard it is on them to beat their wives, I think it is a similar emotion a lot of the time. Men often react to feeling guilt by doubling down (“actually you deserved it”), gaslighting (“I didn’t hurt you so I shouldn’t have to feel this way”), or repeating the abusive behavior (“I am not analyzing my guilt, but I know you made me feel bad and therefore you deserve bad treatment”).

This is not to say that trans-identified males are different or worse or more violent than other men, necessarily. Just that they are exactly the same.

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yeahhhh I really think that the push of ''yes all men'' changed the fucking atmosphere of discourse on tumblr guys getting harrassing messages and messages telling them to kill themselves because they literally just said ''not all men are bad people especially TEENAGE guys who might be getting abused at home / they want some way to talk about their own issues but if they talk about it they got told ''well women have it worse'' remember the era of 'male tears' mugs etc. like I feel like that would likely have less of an effect on a grown man... ...but what about on a young man who is just trying to find his own place in society? we talk all the time about social pressure 1/2 my male friends left tumblr when it became super popular to be comedically misandrist and most the other half went through troony phases like I think some feminists make a mistake in saying that men don't have feelings... because then you just alienate them and they form their own self-centered groups if they get vitriolically harassed 'in the name of feminism' like it is one thing to make someone feel the consequences of their actions... ...but to make fun of someone for something they were born as is unfair and only fosters resentment just like how the TERFs peaked after being personally mistreated as an 'intrinsically-privileged Other' in TRA groups that's how some guys feel and some of them laugh it off just like we do. but like... it's just mind-blowing to be mistreated and told it's 'for the good of society' It doesn't matter who you are. or what your body looks like. Judge a man not by the color of his skin but by the content of his character. The psychos will show themselves by their own actions and lies; the way they talk.. etc. Maybe I have a depth of experience beyond many other people's but even their charmer acts get a rise of bile in my throat. It's often possible to tell the difference between someone who charms and someone who is genuinely good. but keep an open eye because they're always scheming up new tactics.

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