Bioessentialism - Tumblr Posts

with how we're all aware of how toxic masculinity leads men/boys to harass, assault, and abuse other men/boys, you'd think the fact they can be harmed by patriarchy and misogyny wouldn't be a controversial statment. *especially* marginalized men. but alas, many people have taken the "identity" in identity politics so literally, they just end up ignoring and reinforcing the harmful things they claim to be against.

also if you think the pain of the men harmed by toxic masculinity isn't a big deal because they're men... that is. that is literally you believing in toxic masculinity. like i thought we all knew part of toxic masculinity is that men shouldn't feel pain, they shouldn't cry, they can't ask for help or be truly hurt, etc. etc. and if they do any of these things, then they're not real men and not only deserve to be emasculated, but deserve to suffer. you just switched it to they are real men so they deserve to suffer.

and even though again, this is extra harmful for marginalized men, i shouldn't have to say that for you to care. if you only give support to people harmed by these systems when you think deserve it, you're always going to end up propping these systems up at some point. maybe you should stop that.

also. to any man reading this who feels like their pain doesn't matter: it does. you deserve to exist in a world where you're safe to be yourself and feel emotions, and get genuine protection and support. we all need to exist in that world. none of us deserve this hell.

It's just funny how bioessentialism to most of the queer community seems to boil down to just genitals and not entire bodies and each individual secondary sex characteristic too

Like if a woman has a penis that's fine. But if that woman looks like me, it doesn't matter if she has a penis or a vagina, because you all stopped breaking down your bioessentialism at genitalia. And it's not like we flash our junk in public, so a beard is instantly a sign of a man no matter what even if the same person who believes that wouldn't think that about genitals

It's the same reason queer people who aren't intersex are still so obsessed with intersex = ambiguous genitalia. You don't want to actually do the work to break down your bioessentialism to even understand the variations in secondary sex characteristics that come naturally to humans regardless of their genitalia or chromosomes

Lazy and intersexist and usually self serving