Adding Onto This With Some Things I've Experienced.

Adding onto this with some things I've experienced.

Guilt-tripping: "The intentional manipulation of another person's emotions to induce feelings of guilt" (Liza Gold). In layman's terms, it means to actively and intentionally make someone else feel guilty for something that, most of the time, they have no need to feel guilty for in order to get what you want.

What it is not: Someone genuinely expressing their emotions, even if it makes you feel guilty.

Trigger: Something that affects your emotional state in an extreme, often negative way. This can lead to being overwhelmed or highly distressed. They affect your ability to remain present and function in the moment. It may also be defined more strictly as something that leads to a flashback or panic attack.

What it is not: Something that makes you feel a little uncomfortable or that you'd rather avoid. It's also not a generally unpleasant topic that makes most people upset, unless that does trigger you, in which case. It is.

Trauma-Dumping: "Sharing specific details about a traumatic experience with somebody who isn’t ready or doesn’t want to hear it" (Naomi Torres-Mackie). This can include doing it repeatedly or inappropriately. This can be highly distressing to the person who's on the other end of it, especially if they themself end up triggered by the content within it.

What it is not: Someone complaining about their day, or someone venting to you about regular issues.

A lot of pop psychology gets thrown around and since I already have a headache, here's preventing you lot from making it worse.

Love-bombing: A manipulation tactic of increasing affection and grand gestures before or after doing something abusive, specifically to weasel one's way out of consequences.

What it is not: A streak of affection and generosity towards friends/loved ones.

Trauma-bonding: Knowingly traumatizing someone to take advantage of their vulnerable state, to then act like the "hero" or the one who cheers them up.

What it is not: Bonding over similar traumas.

Gaslighting: *Knowingly* convincing someone they cannot trust their own perception of a situation in pursuit of one's own narrative.

What it is not: Misaligned perception of events.

Narcissist: Someone afflicted with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, a traumagenic cluster B disorder, that struggles with self-obsession, paranoia, craving validity from the public, delusions of grandeur, and social disconnection.

It is not: Your rubbish ex that cheated on you.

Thank you for coming to my TED Talk.

-Xanthe

do you guys think jesus, the son of a carpenter, smelt the wood of the cross & temporarily thought of home

My mom and my doctor kept telling me all this stuff about getting nice, thin top surgery scars,

How it'd be like they were never there.

I rub my fingers over the lines on my chest and they remind me what I've done

Where I've come from to be all the way over here now

They are beautiful and long, with lumps and colors and space where healing took a little bit longer.

They are brown and tan and red and purple and white. They cannot be defined so easily.

I told my mom and my doctor I didn't mind the scars. I never told them how much I wanted them there.

There are carvings on my chest proving that I have survived the unthinkable.

Everyone on twitter is arguing against the terfs demonizing phalloplasty and top surgery by saying the scars fade and the flesh regrows over time, but has anyone considered that scars are cool and having huge, discolored, incredibly noticeable scars is based

Slay the princess princess vs slay the princess paranoid

"You believe me?"

"Of course I believe you. I don't trust that other guy as far as I can throw him."