Let Women Be Butch. Let Women Be Feminine. Regardless Of If They're Trans Or Cis, Both Or Neither, Let

let women be butch. let women be feminine. regardless of if they're trans or cis, both or neither, let women present how they feel most comfortable without worrying for their safety, or whether they're 'enforcing gender norms'.

trans butch women aren't 'not trying hard enough' and feminine trans women aren't 'mocking womanhood', they're just expressing in a way that's most comfortable like cis women are.

—“I’m a transgender woman and a tomboy. What’s the harm?” by Kaylin Hamilton

just so everyone is aware of this, you literally do not have to listen to cisgender people on trans identities and issues. you literally don't

cisgender people do not know what the trans experience is like.

cisgender people do not know how trans men, trans women, non binary, gender non conforming, and other trans and queer people experience life. they do not understand how people treat us, how we feel, how we identify and how we struggle.

cisgender people do not know anything about the trans experience because they are not living the trans experience- they are living the cis experience. they have no idea what the trans experience is even life.

cisgender information on trans experiences is quite literally all speculation and at best repeated anecdotes

you do not have to listen to any cisgender person's opinion on trans issues, especially if it isn't positive or receptive. if their opinion involves talking at you and telling you what your experience is like, it's okay to not listen to that person and ask someone who actually is trans.

genuinely this would be such a good idea

hear me out DE

it's so funny to me how terfs want trans men to be butch lesbians so bad and then when we are, but still trans, they throw a fit. like you wanna tell us that we're 'confused butch lesbians' sooooooooo bad but then when we do turn out to be butch lesbians, but also transmasc/trans men, it's a problem. cis butch lesbians only!!! like do they want us here or not, because some of us are here and staying here regardless of whatever mental gymnastics they're performing over there.

they tell us we're confused and that we don't know what we want, but it is they who are confused and have no fucking clue what they want

is that person actually gaslighting you or are they explaining their point of view? people love to toss that word around, but don't actually know what it means, and that has caused traumatic experiences for me personally. it has resulted in me being wary of explaining my point of view in arguments lest I be accused of 'gaslighting' the person, because that's precisely what I had to experience from an ex 'friend'. I have been left in a state where even the beginning sentence of this post makes me worry that I'll get labeled a gaslighter again. and, honestly, the person's behavior was more 'gaslight-y' than my own, but since I don't know their intentions, I am reluctant to just slap that word onto it. Because I actually fucking know what that word means.

but because my coffee tastes sweeter through the lips of the woman I am than the man I tried to be.

such a wonderful quote. I wish cis people could acknowledge that transness isn't predatory, but rather freedom in the form of seemingly insignificant things, which matter so much more now that you can be yourself.

The idea that trans women are just like, cosplaying women or something for some ulterior motive is so utterly absurd to me, especially when I consider what I and so many other trans women value most in our transitions, which really is the mundane. I don’t just “pretend” to be a woman in public, I am a woman always, and it’s at home when I am just doing the same things I have always done that I feel most fulfilled in my transition, like cooking dinner or lounging in my pyjamas or doing homework. I did not transition for some supposed social advantage but because my coffee tastes sweeter through the lips of the woman I am than the man I tried to be.