Foster Mom Welcomes Another Baby Into Her Litter.

Foster mom welcomes another baby into her litter.

Hi,so I’m a 15 year old ENTP girl,and and for the last few months,I’ve been having some problems with depression,I never want to get out of bed, and I have no motivation todo anything I used to like to do.I really don’t have any friends, and nobody ever invites me anywhere and that’s a main reason that I’m not doing so well.I have a fear of always being alone and I always am🤷🏼‍♀️everyone hates me because of all the ENTP things I do but I really can’t stop..I just don’t know what to do anymore.

Ahh nonnie! I’m sorry you’re going through this, depression is hard and it’s really difficult to get out of the spiral and then stay out of the spiral. I really struggle with it as well. 

The depressed ENTP can have phases of being super isolated and then just plain annoying, but you know what!?? You can’t focus on that! Good friends should actually notice that something is wrong, and not hate you for it. Also, if they hate you, they need to find better things to do with their emotions and time. Regardless of that, what’s most important is that you get to a better place. You can’t focus too hard on your effects of people because it’s a symptom, so let’s solve the cause.

There are a few things and habits I have tried to form to keep myself good–and if not good, at least ok or functioning. And they are under the cut because this is a long post. :) 

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I don’t think we talk enough about it being 100% ok to abandon your goals.

There is so much about keeping on trying and working hard and You Can Achieve Anything When You Put Your Mind To It which is a great sentiment. And for the large part its true and I don’t intend to contradict that when I say that look: sometimes you have to quit and that’s ok.

There is no virtue in pursuing a goal to the detriment of your health and happiness. Not every goal is attainable for you no matter how much you want it and it isn’t shameful to walk away from an aspiration that isnt working for you or is sapping your energy and it doesn’t feel worth it anymore.

You’re no less for changing your mind about something halfway through, or losing interest, or deciding other things are more of a priority than getting fit, running that marathon, getting into med school or whatever else you hoped to do. Forgive yourself, move on.

nice day to you, Jas! I'd like to ask for your assistance in casting someone for Tyene Sand from Game of Thrones, as I don't really agree with her series' portrayal; she's said to have "fair skin, golden hair and deep blue eyes", and I'd really like her to be a woman of color, so maybe you have some suggestions, who could play her? thank you in advance!

Of course! The Sand Snakes casting in the tv show was awful, I skipped seasons 3-6 tbh because I didn’t want to ruin my memory of the books. 

Ana de Armas (30) - Cuban

Jasmine Sanders (27) - African-American/ German

Stephanie Bertram Rose (23) -Portuguese & Senegalese, Angolan/ Belgian 

Mimi Elashiry (22) - Australian/ Egyptian

I hope one of these works for you! 

Rant Time:

Okay, so I have seen some posts circling around Tumblr defending white-washed fancasts of the Sand Snakes, particularly Nymeria and Tyene.  They try and justify the white-washing by saying that Nymeria is described as having “milk-pale skin” and Tyene as having green eyes and blond hair.  First of all, George RR Martin has said that Nymeria looks like Janina Gavankar:

She is most definitely not a white woman, and is 100x hotter than Gemma fucking Arterton wearing brownface in the Prince of Persia.  .  Fancasting a white person to play a mixed character erases part of their identity, and that shit is fucking racist.  A lot of mixed-race people can be described as having milk-pale skin, but that does not make them white.  Case in point:

All of these people have milk-pale skin and are mixed, not white.  Similarly, having blond hair and/or blue or green eyes does not automatically mean a character is white:

A large part of Tyene’s identity comes from being the daughter of a Dornishman.  She should be played by a mixed actress in order to reflect that.  I am fine with a white-passing mixed woman playing Tyene, but Gemma Arterton, Jennifer Lawrence, and Katie McGrath are not mixed and are therefore inappropriate choices for Sand Snakes/Martell women.  

Seriously, stop using white actresses for these characters.  Literally every major character in the series outside of Dorne is white.  If you want to use Gemma Arterton, Jennifer Lawrence, or Katie McGrath in your fancasts so badly, use them for characters that aren’t from Dorne.  I think that all three of those actresses could work as Lyanna Stark, Asha Greyjoy (since so many people hate the actress on the show), or Val.  I also think Lawrence and McGrath could work as Mya Stone.  You should use women of color to represent the Sand Snakes/Martell women.  Please just fucking stop with the whitewashing.  

I want to tell y’all a story about supporting and loving your partner, starring my amazing wife.

I’ve mentioned before that I had an eating disorder for many years, and though I consider myself “recovered” there are aspects of my disorder that I still struggle with today — being quite a bit heavier than my wife is one of them.

When my wife and I moved in together back when we were still girlfriends, I was at my skinniest. She used to pick me up all the time and lift me off the ground, and I’d laugh and kick out my legs ‘cause I was just delighted to have her holding me.

But I started gaining weight as I went through recovery, and where once we were pretty close in size, I began to get bigger. And bigger. And bigger. And she remained her naturally petite self. I began to almost dread when she’d try to pick me up, sure that this time she wouldn’t be able to get me off the ground.

But every time, even if I protested, she’d lift me up and say something like: “See, you’re not so big that I can’t lift you!”

And one time I just blurted out: “But someday I’m going to be so fat you won’t be able to.”

She looked me dead in the eye and said: “No you won’t. Because if that ever happens, I’ll start working out.”

It was the best possible thing she could have said to me, because she wasn’t saying I wasn’t going to get fat — neither of us knew that for sure. She was just saying that I was never going to be “too fat” for her.

And every time I worry about getting bigger, I remember that I’ll never be so big that she can’t lift me, because baby knows how much I love being held, and she’ll change her own habits to ensure that I never feel “too big” or “too heavy” because in her eyes I’ll never be “too” anything.

Anyway, there’s a moral to this story: Find yourself a partner who will never consider you an excess. You should never be “too much” to someone who loves you — too big, too loud, too passionate, too awkward, whatever your “too” happens to be. And even as you change and grow (in my case, literally), the right person will be there through the changes, to tell you that you’re always just right for them.