As Some1 W/ Morality Ocd I Rly Need Ppl 2 Stop Acting Like It's Morally Terrible 2 B Born In Britain,

as some1 w/ morality ocd i rly need ppl 2 stop acting like it's morally terrible 2 b born in britain, like ik u americans (bc it's only americans ive seen doing this) think its just a joke but it's honestly a p harmful 1

1st of all americans hav more influence over things than britain does so u guys r basically punching down w/ ur joke

(just 2 b clear im not saying that britain doesn't hav major political power or anything, it does but ur kidding urself if u honestly can't c that america has more political power than britain)

2ndly i can't trust that this is gonna stay a joke given how many times ppl hav made "jokes" abt "doing x harmless thing or being from x specific country makes u a terrible person and u should b eradicated" only 4 them 2 just not actually b jokes or 4 it 2 l8r very quickly become not a joke

3rdly it contributes 2 this idea that a lot of americans want 2 hav of britain where they want 2 act like every1 born in britain is a rich white person when that just isn't true, like,,, u guys know that poor british ppl exist right? u guys know that british POC exist right? u guys know that disabled british ppl exist right? u guys know that queer british ppl exist right?

the joke isn't funny and it's actively making it easier 4 ppl 2 think that every british person is a privilege twat when that just isn't reality and it's just making it easier 4 other ppl 2 ignore the ways in which marginalised groups of british ppl r oppressed within britain, it's making it easier 4 the british government 2 keep the ways it's oppressing marginalised groups within britain under wraps bc like it or not marginalised ppl who were born in britain r included in ur "jokes" when u use blanket statements 2 say "british ppl r all bad and privileged rich ppl" and it hurts like hell hearing that as some1 born in britain who isn't privileged and is marginalised by the UK government bc ik that these ppl r not taking into consideration that not every british person is boris fucking johnson

the Ken tumblr tag is not a safe space 4 oppressed men and that's a real problem (talking abt Ken from the Barbie movie)

i shouldn't b having 2 deal w/ most of the tag being either ppl acting like men can't b oppressed and r always oppressors or sexualising Ken in a rly fucked up and dehumanising way or making fun of Ken having emotions and his own struggles in the movie, none of u learned anything from Ken's story in the movie i hate it here, i hate how even now i feel like i need 2 make this post devoid of my own personal emotions 2 b taken seriously

Ken is a perfect analogy for being an oppressed man, the fact that he's a himbo makes him a good analogy 4 existing at the intersection of being a man and having some sort of cognitive/intellectual disabilities (speaking as some1 who has brain damage from a traumatic brain injury i suffered b4 i was a year old) and its present in the way the ppl around him treat him, he wants 2 leave Barbie's side for a little bit and she says "don't go 2 far" he wants 2 go 2 the library and she says "don't get in trouble" he's consistently seen as her accessory, the movie mentions how it's not fair that some women are expected 2 "mother" their male partner and that's true its not fair but it also SHOWS us that sometimes women push that onto oppressed men, Ken is very clearly upset when Barbie mothers him, getting upset when she tells him not 2 go 2 far or not 2 get into trouble like he's a child and it's also not fair that some women push that onto men (usually disabled men) and expect those men to just allow them to "mother" them and infantilise them and dehumanise them and then on top of that because of Ken being a man he is taught that the only way he can gain respect is by taking over and starting fights and wars

so yeah, genuinely fuck you guys for seeing a movie about how both men and women deserve better and then choosing to ignore half the message because you would rather get wasted on gender essentialist politics that tells you that women are always safe and men are always oppressors so you can make jokes about killing all men and traumatising all men because each man is the same to you, i am a disabled, gay, trans man of colour and i am so fucking sick of this shit and i genuinely thought i would be able to escape that in the Ken tumblr tag and just be able to see posts from ppl who get it since that's partly what the Barbie movie was about but no, because oppressed men can't have anything, in fact i'm probably gonna get a bunch of comments making fun of me for being emotional because u guys probably also think men shouldn't b allowed 2 hav feeling right?

If the idea that trans men don’t exist for the benefit of cis women bothers you, sit down and ask yourself why. Why do you think a minority group exists for the benefit of those who are privileged over them.

Before you say the reason trans men in the workplace is good because they’ll reduce sexism against cis women, ask yourself why you’re putting the responsibility on trans men to make cis men treat women better rather than asking cis men to treat women better. Do you think trans men caused them to behave like this? If not, why do you think this is a reasonable expectation of trans men?

Before you talk about the ways trans men make better boyfriends, ask yourself how you’ll react when the real trans men you meet don’t meet that expectation you’re building up for them. Will you get offended if he rejects you for any reason (gay, aromantic, he’s just not interested, etc)? Will you get upset if he doesn’t want to have sex with you (ace, not in the mood, etc)? You expect him to not be misogynistic and ~understand women’s experiences~ but will you expect yourself to never be transphobic and understand trans men’s struggles? Will you fight for him if he goes to an OBGYN and they tell him they can’t help him cause he makes the cis women there uncomfortable by being a man seeing an OBGYN? Will you use gender neutral language around the subject of abortion and reproductive rights? Do you expect him to be your protector solely or do you plan to protect and defend him when he’s the one in danger due to transphobia? Do you see trans men as people or potential boy toys who know where the clit is and will eat your pussy upon request and listen to your problems while having none of his own?

And before you say “nobody says this, this didn’t happen,” why is it you’re so quick to assume trans men are lying about the types of cis women we’ve encountered? I wrote this because I made a post saying trans men don’t exist for cis women’s benefit and had someone respond with “but you can’t expect me people to ignore the perks!!! Trans men are trans men not men!!” As if it’s ridiculous for me to suggest I’m not an object.

personal theory, all of them are NPCS from different projects that caine never finished, he uses them 2 basically play test his ideas

I just read this idea that one of MCs of digital circus is actually an NPC

nvm they r ghosting me again!

it's been a whole year since they were supposed 2 contact me

so i out of desperation phoned up my gender identity clinic again this morning when they hadn't been responding 2 me 4 ages, turns out it was the right thing 2 do tho bc it turns out that it WASN'T that my gender therapist was ghosting me when i heard nothing back from her and it's not that the gender identity clinic was ghosting me when i was getting no response from them when i tried to email, it turns out that MY DOCTOR QUIT AND I WASN'T NOTIFIED and then THE CLINIC SHUT DOWN FOR 5 MONTHS AND I WASN'T NOTIFIED, this whole time i thought that i was being deliberately ignored after having recently discovered i might b intersex and that i was gonna have 2 go private and basically visit a different country 2 get affordable private health care trans surgeries like trans ppl had 2 do historically, i dunno i hav a lot of mixed feelings,,, like im relieved that i don't hav 2 go thru all that and that my gender identity clinic wasn't just ghosting me and that i might actually b able 2 get my top surgery thru the NHS like i was trying 2 but on the other hand it feels rly fucked up that i wasn't notified at all abt my gender therapist quitting or abt the clinic being shut down,,, and i was just left that whole time thinking it was my fault 4 telling them i thought i might b intersex,,,

It's like some people think intersectionality is a math problem?

Trans + man = cancels out so no oppression

Trans + woman = double oppression

And that's just? Not how real life works? Like you can't come to a conclusion via logic math problem and then insist it's reality because it makes sense inside the theory you've crafted.

You have to check it actually aligns with what is happening out in the world - Which is trans men sharing all the ways systemic and institutional transphobia targets us and affects us.

You can't just tell us to shut up because you like your theory better and you're upset our lived experience messes it up.

You can't tell us we don't experience what we live every day?