'I Don't Experience Dysphoria, So I Must Be Faking Being Trans!' Come Over Here For A Second. A Little

'I don't experience dysphoria, so I must be faking being trans!' Come over here for a second. A little closer. I am now violently shaking you by your shoulders, screaming 'YOU DON'T NEED DYSPHORIA TO BE TRANS!' Don't let ANYBODY, and I mean ANYBODY, tell you that you aren't suffering enough for your identity to be valid. Fuck that transmedicalist bullshit; the whole thing was created to cater to transphobic cis people, by saying 'we're just mentally ill!' It's not your job to validate yourself to people who don't want you to exist anyway!

NON DYSPHORIC TRANS PEOPLE ARE VALID.

[Banner ID: DNI system/queer exclusionists, TERFs/SWERFs, truscum/transmeds, anti recovery for harmful paraphilia, anti otherkin, anti self dx, pro cringe culture, pro-lifers, anti xenogender. A more detailed DNI is in my pinned post. End ID]

the tag is better now but i remember an era where the aro tag was like. Full of posts that all said "to the aro reading this you aren't a cold unfeeling narcissist" and every time without fail i was like. yes i am why are you lying to me. so shout out to the aro reading this who IS a cold unfeeling narcissist we are the strongest link

i love being aro i love being a bi lesbian i love being a genderqueer girlbutch boyfemme i love having a gender that feels like stars and willows and roses i love respecting other people and the infinite vastness of queerness i love having a gender and sexuality experience influenced by my autism i love being queer in a political and social way i love being visibly queer i love the guy who got excited about my queer shirt today and the young person who told me my openness made them feel more open and the trans guy who worked at a store i went to who i'd never met before and was ranting about body standards with after 5 minutes i love the many young closeted kids who have approached me thanking me for the shirts i wear while cautiously making sure their parents couldn't hear them i love the friend with whom i mutually offered to take in another friend with transphobic parents i love the friends i've made being queer and the things i've learned and the community i've gained and i even love the anger and the pain because that is what will inspire me to change the world and i love that. i love being me.

Friendly reminder that you aren't the problem, exclusionists are.

Normalize stealing shit from exclusionists. Flags, terms, etc: just fucking steal it. Reclaim it, make it yours, and fuck what the random person online thinks about your identity. Hell, they do that shit to us, so don't hesitate to do the same to them.

My queers, we really need to put the "no men" thing away. Men are not inherently bad. There are queer men. There are questioning men. There's men that are just plain cool. Denying these men a space at our table is not helping - except the TERFs. I just came off the back of reading a transphobe gleeful rant about the need to have pride without men - They of course mean me. This kind of stuff is damaging to me and I really need us all to take a step back and maybe kill this "men dni, men not allowed" stuff. What you mean is "no men who are going to do mean stuff to me." And frankly those men won't give a shit about that kind of boundary.

But I promise you there's a fleet of good honest men who will see that and be sad they're not allowed in your version of queer spaces.

PATRIARCHY is what you hate. Dni Patriarchs.