Imagine Youre At A Party. A Guy Offers You A Drink. You Say No. He Says Come On, One Drink! You Say No

Imagine you’re at a party. A guy offers you a drink. You say no. He says “Come on, one drink!” You say “no thanks.” Later, he brings you a soda. “I know you said you didn’t want a drink, but I was getting one for myself and you looked thirsty.” For you to refuse at this point makes you the asshole. He’s just being nice, right? Predators use the social contract and our own good hearts and fear of being rude against us. If you drink the drink, you’re teaching him that it just takes a little persistence on his part to overcome your “no.” If you say “Really, I appreciate it, but no thanks” and put the drink down and walk away from it, you’re the one who looks rude in that moment. But the fact is, you didn’t ask for the drink and you don’t want the drink and you don’t have to drink it just to make some guy feel validated.

The art of “no,” continued: Saying no when you’ve already said yes. « CaptainAwkward.com

I love this post SO MUCH. 

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This is absofuckinglutely true. Predators deliberately find the women they can manipulate out of a “no” in order to pick the most vulnerable women to coerce. If you see a guy doing this to someone else, step the fuck in. Amplify her “no” if you see her struggling to assert herself to someone pushy.

I’ve done this for a total stranger. When I said “I think she said no” he started acting sort of aggressive and told me to mind my own business, but she was looking at me with panic and when I asked if she knew him she said no. After it was clear I wasn’t budging he left, and after he left she told me she had been uncomfortable and didn’t know what to do, and that he’d grabbed her inappropriately.

Protect each other. Not everyone is able to voice a “no” firmly and repeatedly. Learn the skill and protect others who are still learning it.

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There are accepted revolutions, revolutions which are called revolutions; there are refused revolutions, which are called riots.

Les Miserables Volume 5, Book 1, Chapter 20  (via shakespeareandpunk)

(Just saw the newest Hunger Gsmes movie, these fits so well!)

The eternal struggle!

[half wills the cat to move]

[half doesn’t because he’s so cute]

I am so torn…

Reminder

Don’t pay a registry to register your pet as an emotional support animal. If you’re dealing with mental illness then a medical professional can write you a prescription for your ESA! The registries are a scam and profit off of people’s ignorance on this.

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