Dance Little Liar - Arctic Monkeys

Dance Little Liar - Arctic Monkeys

The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-time

Just finished reading this book and needless to say, compared to the rather positive outcome I had for the book it still exceeded my expectations. I had read wonderful reviews about the book but from my own person experience with it it was far more than I had imagined. I mean really? How great can a book be about an autistic child investigating the death of the neighbourhood dog? EXACTLY! Everything about that sentence makes the bland, generic genre of mystery so much more intriguing. The protagonist, an idiot savant struck with autism has to face his adversities to go far beyond his comfort zone in order to accomplish the one goal in his mind. Going deep into the cognitive functions of this character makes him as well as the overall tale engaging as you're taken through every twist and turn of his thought process along his journey. Very good read indeed.   

Day 9 - Wants and Needs

Usually these two are complete polar opposites of each other but the process is similar. Both are easily attainable mentally where we can imagine them in our lives. However the difference between what we want and what we need is the fact that wants are generally what we plan for, what we seek and generally what we believe would make our life perfect yet may be poor for us either mentally, physically or both. We focus on the wants and what makes them so easily imagined is that we may come to fantasize about them more often as we picture our ideal lifestyle. It may be a life of fame and fortune or a minutely detailed 10 year plan regarding education and a career.  Not all wants are bad but when it's a want based on superficial terms such as materialistic gain it becomes more of a false sense of fulfillment rather than actual happiness because all you're seeking is something that will provide happiness for only a brief moment. Once you get what you want the high never lasts so you move onto another materialistic want which again only provides satisfaction for a short amount of time. Regardless these wants are part of what we hope for and what we strive to attain and very rarely do they have an affect on our character since we can generally see it coming. When we obtain what we want it becomes almost like an ego boost.

Needs are different insofar as they are what builds our character and shapes us for the better. They are the counterbalance to our wants. Very rarely do we imagine something we need as something favourable. Generally they hinder the process of getting  all that we want especially when the wants have to do with materialistic or superficial gain. A life of fame and fortune needs a strong sense of self as well as self-inflicted limitations in order to stay grounded and not get swept up by the excessive lifestyle. A rigid lifestyle filled with plans and structure may need flexibility in order for someone to maintain a sense of self and happiness in life rather. Focusing on one goal is not bad however, narrowing your mind solely on one aspect may disregard all other possibilities and this may prevent a chance at actually living rather than just existing. When we know we need something it most likely goes against what we want in order to create a balance. At times we don't accept what we need, ignore what is necessary and focus solely on what we want in order to be happy.

Wants are what are looking to achieve whereas needs are what maintains these achievements while making sure they do not become excessive. Acquiring too much of your wants

The best place to touch a girl is her heart.

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Men

You give us a house

We'll give you a home

You give us food

We'll give you a meal

You give us protection

We'll give you our trust

You give us your seed

We'll give you a baby.

All I ask...

You don't have to plan the dinners by candlelight and you don't have to show up at my house with a dozen red roses.

When we're out together and the guy at the bar is being a jerk you don't have to fight him for me.

I understand if you don't want to hold my hand in public and I understand if you're just not romantic.

All I ask is that when you do show up you come to me with the burdens you carry so I can help you.

When I'm close to walking away because I'm too scared of where this is going I'm going to need you to fight for me by telling me you're just as scared as I am but you're willing to go through with it. 

And most importantly I'm giving you something so much more important than just a hand to hold in public. I'm giving you my heart and I ask that you not break it.