Day 9 - Wants And Needs

Day 9 - Wants and Needs

Usually these two are complete polar opposites of each other but the process is similar. Both are easily attainable mentally where we can imagine them in our lives. However the difference between what we want and what we need is the fact that wants are generally what we plan for, what we seek and generally what we believe would make our life perfect yet may be poor for us either mentally, physically or both. We focus on the wants and what makes them so easily imagined is that we may come to fantasize about them more often as we picture our ideal lifestyle. It may be a life of fame and fortune or a minutely detailed 10 year plan regarding education and a career.  Not all wants are bad but when it's a want based on superficial terms such as materialistic gain it becomes more of a false sense of fulfillment rather than actual happiness because all you're seeking is something that will provide happiness for only a brief moment. Once you get what you want the high never lasts so you move onto another materialistic want which again only provides satisfaction for a short amount of time. Regardless these wants are part of what we hope for and what we strive to attain and very rarely do they have an affect on our character since we can generally see it coming. When we obtain what we want it becomes almost like an ego boost.

Needs are different insofar as they are what builds our character and shapes us for the better. They are the counterbalance to our wants. Very rarely do we imagine something we need as something favourable. Generally they hinder the process of getting  all that we want especially when the wants have to do with materialistic or superficial gain. A life of fame and fortune needs a strong sense of self as well as self-inflicted limitations in order to stay grounded and not get swept up by the excessive lifestyle. A rigid lifestyle filled with plans and structure may need flexibility in order for someone to maintain a sense of self and happiness in life rather. Focusing on one goal is not bad however, narrowing your mind solely on one aspect may disregard all other possibilities and this may prevent a chance at actually living rather than just existing. When we know we need something it most likely goes against what we want in order to create a balance. At times we don't accept what we need, ignore what is necessary and focus solely on what we want in order to be happy.

Wants are what are looking to achieve whereas needs are what maintains these achievements while making sure they do not become excessive. Acquiring too much of your wants

On life's journey all you need to take with you are the experiences of yesterday and the lessons you can learn today which will make you strong enough to take that further step into tomorrow.

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Just an idea...

but in my opinion I think these two in a film together would be cinematic gold.

Don't Look Back In Anger - Oasis

Take me to the place where you go Where nobody knows, if it's night or day

What's your 'type'?

When I look at you I see your ability to make me laugh, how your eyebrows scrunch together when you're genuinely concerned for me or the way you bite your lip when I ask you a hard question. When you lean into my shoulder and hug me I stick my fingers through your ungroomed hair and love how soft and beautifully out of place it is as it falls slightly over your eyes. Only when I see into your heart do I begin to notice the way your nose scrunches up and the colour of your eyes when they light up as you laugh. I start to see the slight asymmetry of your smile when you're not trying to make it look perfect but when something brought you pure, unadultered happiness at a moment's notice. It's only when you provide me with a shoulder to cry on that I notice the nook between your shoulder and your neck where my head fits perfectly. And in that moment when you wrap your arms around me and kiss me on the forehead do I notice how soft your lips are and that although your arms are not the most toned and muscular arms in the world they are still strong enough to provide me with the love I need.

Never assume that someone who is physically appealing is beautiful or that it will provide you with love. Rather, think that the love you have for someone opens your eyes to just how gorgeous they are.

You don't fall in love with someone for their beauty. You start to find beauty in the ones you love. Your eyes define their allure and their charm as they trace over every animated feature that you notice with each loving moment you have with that one person. It's only when you truly love someone that you deserve the beauty they encompass and no matter what you're type is they will always be the exception.

Men

You give us a house

We'll give you a home

You give us food

We'll give you a meal

You give us protection

We'll give you our trust

You give us your seed

We'll give you a baby.