Being An Adult Is Just Dragging Urself Kicking And Screaming To Things That You Will Enjoy And That Will

being an adult is just dragging urself kicking and screaming to things that you will enjoy and that will be good for you

There’s an honest conversation that needs to be had about how you feel when you’re in an important place with important people for the first time and how being on hypergamyblr or watching TikToks on how to be feminine absolutely does not prepare for the real thing. Speaking from experience, you are more than likely to feel out of place in environments where everyone seems to be better, smarter, and more good-looking, and when it comes down to it, the competition is tough.

It’s okay to decide that happiness is more important than obsessing over marrying a billionaire and keep it pushing.

Hi queen of networking. I had a question there’s a guy I wanted to connect to, he’s very successful in my industry & I wrote a long message introducing myself since he has a group for youth and I wanted to get involved… he answers on WhatsApp. We can discuss later on I would like to do my best ‘I’m so busy. Please remind me’

I’m confused how I should answer as it’s the first time I’m reaching out to someone like that

Initial response: "Thank you for getting back to me! I understand you're very busy, and I appreciate your willingness to consider my involvement in the group. I'll be sure to send a reminder message soon."

Follow up: "Hi [Name], I hope you're doing well. Just following up as per your suggestion. I'm still very excited about the opportunity to get involved with your group for youth. I believe my experience in [specific area/skill] could be valuable, and I'd love to discuss this further whenever you have some time. Thank you once again for considering my involvement!"

Hi! I'm trying to balance my ph down there. I've seen soo many ppl recommending things that help overtime but I need to balance it out quickly. Thank you!

To Balance Your pH Overtime✧･ﾟ

Do This:

drink cranberry juice

take cranberry pills

wear loose panties

eat greek yogurt

eat more fruits like mangos, pomegranates, etc

take vaginal health vitamins if you want

let your kitty breathe at night 

consume less meat & sugar

Do Not Do This:

leave your tampons in too long

use scented tampons or pads

don’t use bath & body works on your kitty, the inner parts of your thigh is close enough

have unprotected sex (semen is alkaline)

To Balance Your pH Within A Week✧･ﾟ

Flush out your system with water for the next two days (double the water intake you usually do)

Try to wear no panties around the house so it can breathe 

Eat a lot of yogurt like a lot a lot

take a nice quick bath with 4 tbs of ACV should do the trick within a week

List of products and little tips that have made my skin (and my life) better pt. 2🌸

once again, this turned out way longer than expected, but this particular post doesn’t have as many product recommendations as pt. 1. this is more focused on tips that, i feel, make me a better version of myself

*the links show the brands i use but there are cheaper options you can find that work just as well

• shower at least two times a day.

• after showering at night use a pumice stone to remove dead skin from your feet then coat your feet with shea butter and put on socks overnight.

• have a diy manicure weekly. even if you dont paint your nails, make sure theyre clean and trimmed (or get your nails done professionally, whatever floats your boat.

• floss.

• y’all know im a natural ho when it comes to things i put in or on my body. ive always struggled with my teeth. they were yellow asf and i didn’t like it (if you dont care if your teeth are yellow and love them that way, kudos for you, i am not). i tried turmeric, oil pulling method, banana peels, strawberries, charcoal, baking soda… basically everything and it didnt work (these may work for some but they didn’t for me) so i bought crest strips and bitch. for $22 i have the whitest teeth ive ever had. it may not work for everyone but it did for me(ik that some dentists and orthodontists offer whitening services but my mom had it done and she has had sensitive gums ever since so due it at your own discretion).

• for fucks sake. clean. your. damn. ears. theres this beautiful invention called Q-Tips. use them.

• NEVER look at the floor while walking. look straight forward. if you make eye contact with a stranger, smile. this shows confidence and tbh i hate it when people, specially attractive girls, give you a nasty look. just smile. youll look good and possibly even male someones day.

• again, eye contact is hot. make eye contact. always.

• be polite and friendly. when entering a place say “good morning”, when leaving say “have a nice/good afternoon/evening”.

• your back should always be straight. posture is attractive.

• wake up early. (i usually wake up at six, go to the gym and in my opinion its the best way to start your day. ik its not for everyone but if you can, do so).

• do not. DO. NOT. drink sodas. its bad for you. plain and simple. drink water.

• try to get in 8 hours at the gym weekly. you dont have to go the 7 days but if you to two hours a day and have rests days in between youll be good. (before someone starts talking shit, im not saying to do two hours of cardio. nope. you do you. you can do 30 minutes of cardio and do weights or mat exercises for the remaining time. i usually do 1 hour of cardio and 1 hour of whatever i feel like doing (legs, arms, abs… sometimes i’ll combine them))

• i developed the bad habit of weighing myself everyday and im currently going to the gym and trying to lose weight so it’s frustrating if i dont lose as much as i wanted or stay the same weight. so if you can, try to weigh yourself only once a week. this is a tip im trying to apply to myself because obsessing over one’s weight is just unhealthy.

• if you part your hair, make sure the line is straight, not necessarily centralized.

• i have curly hair and my life has been a constant cycle of buying different hair products bc none of them ever seem to work but ive been using shea butter mixed with vanilla oil and damn. my hair has never looked/smelled better.

• own nice pjs. you never know if theres an emergency and you have to run out of your house with what you’re wearing. (i dont sleep with clothes so i just keep my silk robe near my bed whenever i go to sleep)

• this goes for underwear too. if you have hispanic parents you know what im talking about. (i don’t believe in period underwear. fight me.)

• please. please. always match your bra and panties. i was at the mall the other day and saw a woman bend over and her panties where beige……. her bra straps were black. just no. (im not saying i have a problem with seeing bra straps. but just make sure theyre the same color as your underwear.)

• get your hair professionally cut at least twice a year. if you can cut your own hair and not butcher it while doing it go ahead!

• stop eating foods you know bloat you.

• if you want to lose weight, dont focus on doing targeted exercises like crunches and squats. Do cardio. (not saying that you shouldn’t squat once in a while, but cardio helps you loose weight while targeted/focused excersices tone)

• if you happen to go to Planet fitness and want to shed a few pounds. use the Arc Trainer. its the best machine for weight loss.

• dont use setting powder after concealing your eyelids (gotta thank my girl daisy marquez i love her)

• when buying gift sets at sephora, only buy hair/skin care sets (a friend of mine used to work at sephora and said only to do so if you wanted to try certain products for the first time bc its not really cost effective)

• y’all gotta stop sleeping on stores like marhsalls and tjmaxx when you can be saving loads of money (ask an employee which day of the week they put out new merch)

• invest in silk sheets (trust me if/when you shave your legs you’ll know what heaven feels like)

• make a cup of tea and sit down and enjoy a book

• the B E S T brand for lip balms is burt bees. i love the peppermint one but they are all truly good.

• buy a diva cup. they are comfortable. cost effective. personally i dont like having to change my pad every 2-3 hours and a diva cup can be used for up to 12 hours. i changed like 5 times a day during my cycle while wearing pads and now i change around 15 times per cycle. you have to be absolutely comfortable with your body, especially your vagina to start wearing them tbh (diva cups come in two sizes i believe model 1 model 2 i bought both because my first two days are my heaviest flows. so during the first days i use the biggest one and use the small the rest of the cycle.) if you want me to make a post about my experience wearing them let me know!

• castor oil hair mask every two weeks.

• invest in scrub gloves for life changing, smooth skin. (although i shower 2-3 times a day i only scrub at night then coat my whole body with shea butter) \ let me know if y’all want my night routine merged with my boob/butt care routine in another post!

• get a journal/agenda and plan your week (i got this bullet journal)

• always make your bed in the morning

• if you like someones outfit, tell them. if you like someones smile. tell them. give compliments every once in a while.

• dont judge people’s clothing, specially if they’re fat and youre thinking some shit like “theres types of clothes for those type of bodies”. just shut the fuck up. i do agree that there are types of clothes for every ocasion but not for bodies. if you, a skinny girl, can wear a crop top in public, so can a fat girl. (this coming from someone who used to be very fat and stopped wearing crop tops in public bc of mean ass bitches)

• if youre in an office, wether it be a doctors or some government office or whatever, dont be talking loudly on the phone. me and the rest of the population hate you if you do this. it’s annoying and rude. nobody cares if your sisters bestfriends boyfriend had sex with a dog. i really dont care. if you HAVE to talk on the phone, quietly exit the room and talk all you want.

• a friend of mine (a girl) told me that she doesnt hold the door for anyone, and i mean ANYONE, bc she’s a lady. thats bullshit. if you see a woman with a stroller, an old lady, or basically anyone, hold the door for them. its plain rude for you to let the door slam in someones face bc you believe everyone should treat you like a lady. (im not sayin they shouldn’t but act like a lady, not a bitch)

• iron your clothes.

• never use your phone at the table.

• dont point out acne or sun burns.

• if youre a vegan or vegetarian or eat, protein shakes are always a good breakfast option if youre in a hurry or dont want to cook

• if you have acne scars mix an egg white and an apricot in the blender. thank me later.

• buy african black soap for better skin. (if you have sensitive skin i wouldn’t recommend it tbh)

• if youre at the gym: fucking wear appropriate attire. (ive seen girls with jean shorts and flannels wrapped around their waists… i get that some girls wear red lipstick to feel hot and theres nothing wrong with that. but dont lie to me and say that you’re comfortable running with jeans rubbing against your thighs. everyone is probably judging you.)

• always tip your waiters/waitresses. if the service is good tip atleast 15%. (i always tip 20% / if you have a favorite restaurant and you like a particular waiter/waitress ask for them to serve you. its more likely youll get a better service.) whenever i go to my favorite restaurant the same guy always comes to my table and we chat. he memorized what appetizers, main courses, and desserts my family usually orders so when i go there hes like “welcome to *****, 2 lemonades and a room temp bottle water?” and same goes for appetizers and the rest of the meal. always be friendly to your waiters/waitresses. always.

• smile more often and remember self-care isn’t selfish.

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im sorry this took so long to post… i hope some of these are helpful. reblog if you’d like to see a pt. 3¿? theres not much more to add but i constantly change products and routines so who knows.

HOW DO I KNOW WHAT FOODS ARE IN SEASON?

JANUARY

Fruit: apples, blood orange, clementines, kiwi fruit, lemons, passion fruit, pears, pineapple, pomegranate, satsumas, tangerines, walnuts

Vegetables: beetroot, Brussels sprouts, cabbage, carrots, cauliflower, celeriac, celery, Jerusalem artichoke, kale, leeks, parsnips, potatoes (main crop), rhubarb, turnip, shallots, squash, swede

Meat/poultry/fish: brill, clams, cockles, haddock, halibut, hake, John Dory, lemon sole, mussels, oysters, plaice, scallops, turbot, venison

FEBRUARY

Fruit: bananas, blood oranges, lemons, passion fruit, pears, pineapple, pomegranate, walnuts

Vegetables: brussels sprouts, cabbage, cauliflower, celeriac, chard, chicory, jerusalem artichoke, leeks, parsnips, potatoes (main crop), purple sprouting broccoli, rhubarb, spinach, swede, turnip

Meat/poultry/fish: brill, clams, cockles, haddock, hake, john dory, mussels, oysters, turbot, salmon

MARCH

Fruit: bananas, blood oranges, kiwi fruit, lemons, pomegranate, rhubarb

Vegetables: broccoli, cabbage, cauliflower, leeks, purple sprouting broccoli, rhubarb, spring onions

Meat/poultry/fish: cockles, cod, hake, john dory, lemon sole, mussels, oysters, salmon, sea trout

APRIL

Fruit: bananas, kiwi

Vegetables: asparagus, broccoli, Jersey Royals, kale, lettuce, radishes, rocket, rhubarb, rosemary, spinach, spring onions, sorrel, watercress, wild garlic

Meat/poultry/fish: cockles, crab, cod, john dory, salmon, sea bass, sea trout, spring lamb

MAY

Fruit: cherries, elderflowers, kiwi

Vegetables: artichoke, asparagus, broccoli, carrots, new potatoes, radishes, rhubarb, rocket, sorrel, spinach, spring onions, watercress

Meat/poultry/fish: cod, crab, dover sole, duck, haddock, halibut, herring, john dory, lamb, lemon sole, mackerel, plaice, salmon, samphire, sardines, sea bass, sea trout

JUNE

Fruit: cherries, elderflowers, gooseberries, kiwi, melon, strawberries

Vegetables: artichoke, asparagus, aubergine, broccoli, carrots, courgettes, fennel, jersey royal new potatoes, lettuce, mangetout, peas, radishes, rocket, runner beans, sorrel, spring onions, watercress

Meat/poultry/fish: cod, crab, dover sole, grey mullet, john dory, lamb, lemon sole, lobster, mackerel, plaice, salmon, sardines, sea bass, sea trout

JULY

Fruit: apricots, blackberries, blueberries, gooseberries, greengages, kiwi, loganberries, melons, nectarines, peaches, raspberries, redcurrants, strawberries, tomatoes

Vegetables: artichoke, aubergine, beetroot, broad beans, broccoli, cabbage, carrots, courgettes, cucumber, fennel, french beans, garlic, lettuce, mangetout, new potatoes, onions, peas, potatoes (main crop) radishes, rocket, runner beans, sage, spinach, sorrel, watercress

Meat/poultry/fish: clams, cod, crab, dover sole, haddock, hablibut, herring, john dory, lamb, lemon sole, lobster, mackerel, monkfish, pike, plaice, rabbit, salmon, sardines, sea bass, scallops

AUGUST

Fruit: apricots, blackberries, blueberries, greengages, kiwi, loganberries, melons, nectarines, peaches, raspberries, redcurrants, tomatoes

Vegetables: artichoke, aubergines, basil, beetroot, broad beans, broccoli, carrots, courgettes, cucumber, fennel, french beans, garlic, kohlrabi, mangetout, onions, peas, potatoes (main crop) radishes, rocket, runner beans, sorrel, tomatoes, watercress

Meat/poultry/fish: crab, crayfish, cod, dover sole, grey mullet, haddock, halibut, herring, john dory, lamb, lemon sole, lobster, mackerel, monkfish, plaice, salmon, sardines, sea bass, scallops, squid

SEPTEMBER

Fruit: apples, blackberries, damsons, figs, grapes, melons, nectarines, peaches, pears, plums, tomatoes, walnuts

Vegetables: artichoke, aubergine, beetroot, broccoli, butternut squash, carrots, celery, courgettes, cucumber, garlic, kale, kohlrabi, leeks, mangetout, marrow, onions, peppers, potatoes (main crop), radishes, rocket, runner beans, sweetcorn, watercress, wild mushrooms

Meat/poultry/fish: brown trout, crab, cod, dover sole, duck, grey mullet, haddock, halibut, herring, john dory, lamb, lemon sole, lobster, mackerel, monkfish, plaice, salmon, sardines, sea bass, scallops, squid, turbot, venison

OCTOBER

Fruit: apples, chestnuts, elderberries, figs, grapes, pears, quince, tomatoes, walnuts

Vegetables: artichoke, aubergine, beetroot, broccoli, butternut squash, carrots, celery, celeriac, fennel, kale, kohlrabi, leeks, marrow, mushrooms, onions, potatoes, pumpkin, rocket, swede, turnips, watercress, wild mushrooms

Meat/poultry/fish: autumn lamb, brill, clams, crab, duck, john dory, grey mullet, goose, haddock, hake, halibut, lemon sole, lobster, mackerel, monkfish, mussels, scallops, sea bass, squid, turbot, oysters, venison

NOVEMBER

Fruit: apples, chestnuts, cranberries, elderberries, passion fruit, pears, quince, walnuts

Vegetables: artichoke, beetroot, butternut squash, celeriac, celery, jerusalem artichoke, kale, kohlrabi, leeks, parsnips, potatoes (main crop), pumpkin, swede, turnips, wild mushrooms

Meat/poultry/fish: brill, crab, goose, haddock, hake, halibut, john dory, lemon sole, lobster, monkfish, mussels, oysters, plaice, scallops, sea bass, squid, turbot

DECEMBER

Fruit: apples, chestnuts, clementines, cranberries, passion fruit, pears, pineapple, pomegranate, satsumas, tangerines, walnuts

Vegetables: beetroot, brussels sprouts, cauliflower, celery, celeriac, chicory, jerusalem artichoke, kale, leeks, parsnips, potatoes, pumpkin, red cabbage, swede, turnips

Meat/poultry/fish: brill, clams, duck, goose, haddock, hake, halibut, john dory, lemon sole, monkfish, mussels, oysters, pheasant, scallops, sea bass, squid, turbot, turkey

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