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you know sometimes it shocks me too but google really is free and it’s right there in your hands
I'd like to take a moment to give a little love to kids who grew up with Passive Aggressive Parents/Guardians
A little love to the kids whose parents dumped their problems they had with each other on you instead of confronting each other.
A little love to the kids who felt they had to be the messenger, mediator, and couple's therapist for their parents because they couldn't communicate with each other.
A little love to kids who had to play guessing games to try and figure out what their parents wanted from them.
A little love to the kids who felt very lucky to be in a household where their parents rarely yelled and fought until they realized that there was always tension hanging in the air of unspoken arguments.
A little love to the kids who felt the weight of the tension on their shoulders and were anxious and stressed and sad because of it.
A little love to the kids who winced every time their parents would smile and laugh while talking about their frustrations instead of being straightforward about their feelings.
A little love to the kids who realized they internalized all these traits and saw how it hurt themselves and the people they had relationships with.
A little love to the kids who are slowly trying to work the passivity out of their system, better their confrontation skills, and communicate better because they've seen what it does to people.
You are strong and I send you my love and support.
This is soooo important.
I know it can be scary to set boundaries and say no. I know it can be awkward to tell someone they're making you upset or uncomfortable. Believe me, I know how hard that can be, especially for people-pleasers and people who fear rejection.
Trust me when I say the relief from being honest and open will long outweigh the awkwardness of having to say it.
Trust me when I say that any bad feelings that may come from being upfront are WAY better than just suffering in silence and then inevitably blowing up.
People often confuse being assertive for being rude, but it's NOT MEAN. Just think of how upset you'd be if you were unknowingly hurting or upsetting someone you cared about..
TL;DR Stop gossiping. Stop being passive aggressive. Be upfront, say no when you mean no,, set boundaries, tell someone if they've upset you. I PROMISE it will prove the quality of your relationships.
actually you either need to set clear boundaries with people or not get mad when people “overstep” something that doesnt even exist to them. its stupid as hell to assume everyone owns the standardized handbook of social interaction and get mad when someone may do something you dont like without even realizing it. its even worse when people act like its a toxic relationship when the literal only problem is no established boundaries lmfao
loves-
when you aren't anti/pro any characters and just sit here chilling and watching the fandom scream at each other about snape, riddle, bellatrix, dumbledore, the malfoys, and the marauders.
(bonus points for the people who think that liking villains/questionable characters means you have no moral compass)
Me when I'm in a "thinking being passive aggressive is a personality trait" competition and my opponent is a 16-22 y/o white girl who does e-girl adjacent makeup, and condescendingly uses the words "babes", "bestie", "hope this helps!" and the ":)" emoji as if she's the "edgier" equivalent of a stereotypically mean girl from a Disney Channel show.