Nonbinary Literally Just Means Any Gender Other Than Binary Man Or Binary Woman - Tumblr Posts

Frankly (AFAB nb masc), it's been my experience that white cisgender queer women (esp lesbians) are the most likely to engage in violent rhetoric against nb people. Whenever folks have come after me claiming that nb folks are "taking up too much space" or that we're "the real problem in queer spaces" (things that people have actually said), it's always been white cis queer women.

And white cis lesbians are the most likely to take that a step further and claim that AFAB nbs and trans men are being "stolen" or other equally hateful rhetoric. Meanwhile, the worst I usually have to deal with from white cis gays is, like, wilful cluelessness about nb stuff.

So yeah. Women are NOT automatically safer for queer folks. Assuming that nb people want to be lumped in with women is dangerous, dysphoric for a lot of AFAB nbs (myself included), and isolating for all the AMAB, masc, and genderfuck nbs that don't conform to the ideal of white, thin, able-bodied, and masc-but-not-too-masc.

I've been seeing a disturbing number of "queer safe spaces" describe themselves as things like "femme & them" and even worse "she+," conflating femininity & nonbinaryhood. cease this immediately. say it with me: nonbinary people are NOT women-lite and it is extremely violent and straight up incorrect to imply that all they/thems are fem adjacent. this is erasure and this verbiage does nothing but make gnc and nonbinary spaces unsafe for masc and male nonbinary people. nonbinary, genderqueer and other third gender people can be and are masculine and men, we can be hes as well as shes and theys, stop allowing yourself and your peers to view nonbinary as woman/femme-lite, signed a butch nonbinary person.

I have an appointment next Monday about starting HRT.

My name and pronouns aren't changing. My gender identity hasn't changed. I've just gotten worn down by the impossibility of being myself in a world that only wants to see me as "Cara's mom", and which reads me as female even when I'm wearing my pronouns on my fucking face.

I'm annoyed and sad that this version of me that I've worked so hard to learn to like is going to go away. I'm particularly sad about losing my voice. But as mad as I am about the impossibility of getting read as my gender, doing nothing is still a choice, and that choice is taking a severe toll on my mental health.

I'm looking for a new middle name that starts with A, because I wanted to make Agamemnon my middle name, but my husband doesn't want to have to write it on parenting forms and shit (which honestly, fair and reasonable), so it's going to be my SECOND middle name and I need a reasonable and normal Anglo first middle name.