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For me, it's about freedom from the expectations placed on transfems/trans women to sexually serve (especially tme) partners to a really high degree and very one-sidedly. It's about reclaiming my right as a trans woman to enjoy myself during sex.

On top of this it's about refusing to be fetishized for my genitals, I've had one too many interactions with chasers at this point and I was willing to top them out of desperation because none of them ever made me feel valuable outside of my genitals, and I believed doing that was the only way anyone would ever love me. Almost all chasers are focused on getting topped by transfems, so by saying no to that entirely and all other forms of giving sexual touch, I pretty effectively keep them away and put people who are unlikely to fetishize me at the forefront of my dating options.

It's also very much about stone tops, respecting them, respecting their boundaries always, showing gratitude for how they care for me, and allowing myself to be cared for in a world that has decided trans women don't deserve that treatment (partially because I want to be cared for and partially because I know stone tops want to take care of me and that it makes them happy too).

High Femmes: How would you describe your identity and role in your role in the butch/femme community or your relationships to someone who was questioning their identity?