Do Not Let Freud Win - Tumblr Posts

Making attraction to older adults into a childhood trauma thing is so gross and immature, not even because half the people doing it don’t actually have ‘mummy/daddy issues’ — it’s just the deliberate, desperate childishness of trying to pretend you’re not old enough for it to be normal to be attracted to the unmistakeable attributes of adults. You did not have a crush on your teacher because you have psychological problems, but because healthy sexuality is oriented towards adults, and this was an adult you saw every day smartly dressed, displaying confidence, leadership, and expertise in a subject, all of which make a person attractive. You are not attracted to Cate Blanchett because of ‘mummy issues’ because she’s not your mum, I doubt she looks like your mum, and you do not have any semblance of a parent-child relationship with her — you like her because she is a beautiful woman whose job means she has developed a lot of charisma and passion, and has also been presented to you in romantic and sexual contexts. You are not attracted to that male actor because of ‘daddy issues’ but because he is a handsome, well-dressed and confident adult. You are way too fucking old to be going “ooh so squicky and strange to like 38 year old do we have to do the frick frack?”