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Delayed development is an unfortunate side effect of socialized closeting in the gay community. We don’t get to be proud of our own experiences so we hide them or avoid them until we feel safe. And no, you are not missing out!

Being gay often comes with doing a lot of things later than everyone else. Having your first kiss later than everyone else, having your first relationship later than everyone else, and all the things that we missed in middle school or high school we scramble to catch up on as adults. But doing things such as going on a date for the first time in your late teens or your twenties, or hell, even your thirties, does not make those experiences any less important or worth any less than if you had done them earlier. Do not be ashamed of “missing out” on common middle or high school experiences. You still have a long life to live, and plenty of time to make up for it.