AND The Pan/bi Debuff On This - Tumblr Posts

"once demi people are in relationships they're basically normal and their orientation is no longer important"

except for the fact that most of us have a fundamentally different relationship to sexuality and romance than allos do. except that we're still alienated from an amatonormative culture. except that we still constantly have to justify our identities. except that many of us still deal with feelings of brokenness. except that many of us approach relationships differently than allos.

except that being in a relationship doesn't suddenly make us allo.

we are not "ace/aro until we're in a relationship", we are always demi, always ace/aro. our deminess is woven through all of our life experience and isn't suddenly ripped out by a sexual or romantic partner.