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okay i get that you are trying to protect your favs yes i’m referring to olivia rodrigo and her boyfriend adam faze yes olivia is 18 and adam is 24 and y’all don’t like that calling out their relationship and tell people who try to defend their relationship not too and say you don’t care if she is happy she shouldn’t be dating a 24 year old but olivia can choose who she wants to date if she is happy that what is matters if she into him that what matters if she not bothered by the age differences then that’s valid i don’t think she wants her fans or anyone trying to protect her did she give you permission too? if she didn’t then stop trying to protect her she 18 she not a minor she not a child you can’t control her life and say who she should or shouldn’t date she can make her own decisions but go ahead and protect her just letting you know your hateful opinions about her relationship isn’t gonna matter to olivia it will only matter to you
What do you mean about misogyny of dating older men, I'm curious?
Ok. So…to me, there is so much media that normalises the idea of dating an older man and I think there are lots of ways that society reinforces that. From age gap celebrity relationships being not noteworthy when a man is older, but noteworthy when a woman is.
We call an older woman a cougar, but we have no equivalent for men.
To me, I think the most toxic thing is the way…is so hard to explain, but I feel there is this narrative like “girls mature faster than boys so therefore they want older guys because they are more mature” and it’s…so dangerous. Because we not only tell women to pursue older, but it defaults these guys that are older than you as being a better and safer option, which is not true and means you likely won’t see the red flags.
I can’t even remember how many times I said that I would never date a guy my own age out younger because I wanted maturity. But I wasn’t really looking for maturity, I was just unknowingly pushing a narrative that makes it easier for older men to behave in a way that is predatory towards women and have it be seen as completely normal.
Like, I don’t know if Drake is dating that 18 year old, they have denied it, but what is really disturbing are the comments like…from the “who cares, it’s legal” as if that just magically makes it not creepy, and…a lot of comments from younger girls who say that people need to shut up, that they would date Drake and that girls should want to date someone that much older than themselves because they “have their lives together”. We couldn’t be playing more into the hands of predators if we were actively trying
And this mindset is strong. I’ve spoken against age gap relationships a lot and I get a lot of angry messages from young girls still in high school who have crushes on teachers and are mad at me for saying that would be unhealthy.
And it fucking chills me that the only thing holding these girls back from being abused is the man they are crushing on
#age gaps #abuse #csa
I wish age gap discourse hadn't spiraled the way it has because I want there to be a safe space to say "Men in their 40s who date 25 year olds aren't predators, they're just fucking losers"