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You're unique. Not in the vague, optimistic sense of the word: there never has been and there never will be another you. It doesn't matter how ordinary you may see your life as, how common you think it is. You, as you are, will never exist again. Nobody will share this life with you, nobody will share your mind and soul with you. In the most realistic, practical sense, you're the most unique individual you'll ever meet. Make sure to enjoy this experience! 🌹

Go cry about it. Then come back stronger than ever.

Bad grade on a test? Go cry about it.

Got rejected? Go cry about it

Feeling left out? Go cry about it.

Listen, im not trying to make you feel upset or angry in anyway. I am genuinely telling you: if something has happened that is actually negatively impacting your life very strongly, GO CRY ABOUT IT. Express those feelings. Scream into your pillow. Punch your bed. Pour your thoughts onto paper then rip it up and burn it. Feel the feelings vividly.

But what about after that? Are you going to keep crying about it? Are you going to keep victimising yourself and feeling sorry for yourself? Yuck. Look girl, cry about it, then come back stronger than ever.

Like Haruki Murakami once said: “But we cannot simply sit and stare at our wounds forever.” He was right. We can cry and let the wounds hurt for a bit, but then we must get up.

Life moves on, so must we.

You can either make excuses, or make a way.

Opening Night (John Cassavetes, 1977)

How I got my life together.

Getting your life together, and I mean really getting it together, should be a priority of yours. You can’t miss out on your life by staying in a pattern of losing it all, pulling it together as quickly and as carelessly as you can, and then losing it all again because you weren’t ready enough or devoted the first time. I made a choice to pull my life together when I was 18, and I’ve stayed improving myself ever since; I bettered my mental health, fixed my body, changed my mindset, found an aesthetic and style that worked for me and that I loved, and have done my part to keep steadily improving my life and my mindset. If you are devoted to yourself and your life, you will do well and find that the path towards your future will become much clearer as time goes on.

Exercising.

You need to be exercising, bettering your body, and taking the time to nourish yourself and your health. This means eating whole meals and taking the time to cook and prepare them, considering removing heavily processed foods and alcohol from your day-to-day diet, and taking the time to do at home or in gym workouts. I do Move with Nicole videos in the morning, finish up with a quick yoga session, go to the gym in the evenings, and make sure that my body is being fueled by real foods and being properly hydrated throughout the day. You will live in the same body for the rest of your life; you need to make sure that you’re caring for it and nourishing it in ways that will let it support you for the rest of your life. You won’t regret a health journey, and you should actively be on one. 

Socializing.

Isolation will kill you, and if you already have anxiety, it will worsen it. You should be meeting people, getting to know them, leaving your comfort zone, and trying new things. Your late teens and early twenties are all about taking the time to know people, making and losing friends, and figuring out the sorts of people you want to have in your life forever. You have to socialize, go to social events, join clubs and different activities, and get out of the house. I’m a person who believes in spending time around and loving other people, and that has saved my life. If you aren’t sure how to socialize, don’t have friends, or aren’t sure of what you like, now’s the time to learn how. You don’t become good at meeting people in one day; it takes time and failure, but the more you do to leave your comfort zone, the easier it will become as time moves along.

Studying.

I believe that life is meant for learning. It’s important to always be learning, to always be bettering yourself, and to always be keeping your mind busy. While I strongly believe that every woman should have a university education and a degree, I understand that it’s not always feasible. If it’s not possible for you to get a degree, you have to learn a trade, a skill, a language, or find something to occupy your mind so that it’s not idle. It’s important to always be doing something, and it’s important that you’re pursuing a passion; life isn’t much if you’re not passionate about what you’re doing, so you have to find them and do more with them. Education can come from work experience; it can come from pursuing projects, cultivating wisdom, and spending your time nourishing your mind and reading books. Life is a learning experience, and you should be in constant pursuit of educational excellence. 

Seeing More.

Life is about seeing more and seeing things you’ve never experienced. If you’ve always wanted to watch a tennis match, step into the ocean, or see the sights in a new city, now’s the time to start making plans to do those things. We all deserve to see and experience beautiful things, so it’s important that we find the time to do so. If I hadn’t made the time to find beauty in the mundane, I wouldn’t have made it far. You don’t have to spend money pursuing beauty; I find the most beauty I’ve seen in my life is found on short walks and time spent around my city. You should spend your time both looking for beauty and becoming beautiful too.

Doing More.

Doing more is next. I’ve spent my life trying new things, failing, succeeding, having a good time, and learning about what I enjoy. You should be doing more; your twenties are for moving away, visiting new cities, trying new foods, working jobs you hate and finding jobs you love, going to new restaurants and getting into new relationships, and doing more with yourself. All of the greatest women I’ve ever known have told me that they spent next to no time resting in their twenties because they had so much life to live. I’d encourage you to do things without holding yourself back, and if you don’t know what to do with yourself, find things to do. You can't waste your youth being idle; now is the time to get out of your room, see the world and what it has to offer, and do more with yourself and your gifts.

Richarlotte x

pretty hobbies to try 🤍

cooking and baking

gardening

interior design

reading and writing

antique collecting (or collecting in general)

art (drawing, painting, etc)

photography and videography

sewing

embroidery

tea or wine tasting

calligraphy

learning (new music genre, an instrument, a language, art history, philosophy etc)

all about yin yoga

what is yin yoga?

yin yoga is a form of slow-paced yoga in which asanas, or poses, are held for a longer period than a usual yoga class. this period can range anywhere from 3 to 7 minutes.

what are the benefits of yin yoga?

there are many potential benefits of practicing yin, including:

improving flexibility

reducing stress & anxiety

increasing blood circulation

stimulating and lengthening the tendons, muscles, ligaments, & the fascia

calming the nervous system

promoting connection between the mind & body

reducing risk of injury

balancing the skeletal system & improving posture

opening up the body channels, or meridians

yin yoga routines

30 minute full body yin yoga by yoga with kate amber

30 minute yin yoga deep stretch by travis elliot

30 minute yin yoga ritual by rituals cosmetics global

30 minute yin yoga for the back & hips by travis elliot

30 minute beginner stress relief yin by travis elliot

30 minute yin yoga deep stretch by travis elliot

30 minute supine yin yoga by the bare female

30 minute lower body yin by yoga with kate amber

30 minute yin yoga with crystal bowl healing by boho beautiful yoga

30 minute angelic frequency yin yoga by mei-lan

39 minute gentle yin yoga detox by travis elliot

40 minute yin yoga for the inner thighs & groin by yoga with kassandra

45 minute yin for the upper body by yoga with kassandra

45 minute yin yoga for energy depletion by yoga with kassandra

45 minute relax & stretch yin yoga by travis elliot

45 minute yin yoga for back pain by youaligned

45 minute total relaxation yin by yoga with kate amber

50 minute self care yin yoga by yoga with kassandra

50 minute yin yoga for deep relaxation by melina ophelia

54 minute yin yoga for happy lungs by yoqi yoga and qigong

1 hour yin yoga with props by jess yoga

1 hour deep hips & back yin by gayatri yoga

1 hour yin for the hips & legs by yoga with kassandra

1 hour yin yoga for stress by fightmaster yoga

1 hour deep hips & legs yin by yoga with kassandra

1 hour yin yoga deep stretch by travis elliot

1 hour complete yin fascia stretch by devi daly yoga

1 hour yin yoga for a happy liver by yoqi yoga and qigong

1 hour yin yoga for a happy heart by yoqi yoga and qigong

75 minute advanced yin with extra long holds by yoga with kassandra

90 minute yin yoga by yoga with kassandra

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life will be like this in november

A reminder for my ladies: EVERYTHING TAKES TIME. YEARS. So start right now with the little that you have and stay consistent. Drink a glass of water instead of soda this time. Do one workout. Take a walk. Take up a class. Read a book. Start the treatment. Learn that language. And try that EVERY SINGLE DAY. A little bit every day, but I tell you something, you will see the results in YEARS. Yes, you will get that degree AFTER A FEW YEARS. Yes, your hair will grow long, AFTER A FEW YEARS. Yes, you will be in shape, you will become who you want, you will heal, you will speak that language fluently AFTER A FEW YEARS.

Just keep doing what you're doing and don't give up. Ok? Ok. Love you, bye bye 💌

How to change your personality in simple steps

• Remind yourself that you can literally just change whatever you want about yourself

• Make a plan: How can I achieve this? Which steps should I make? How long does it take to achieve this?

• Ask yourself why you want to change your personality: Are you doing it for career opportunities? Do you seek validation in others?

• Remind yourself that you can literally change any thoughts, feeling and emotion. You can decide to not be angry or sad anymore. You can decide to not overthink anymore.

• Inner mind first: You can change your style, makeup or hair all you want, but if you don't work on your triggers, trauma or insecurities, you will still be the same person. Work on your mind first, then the rest will follow.

bad habits that held me back for years

negative self talk: tune into your inner voice and turn mean thoughts into kind ones

prioritising comfort over progress: you have to actually do the work, then enjoy your rest and comfort (with less anxiety too)

hanging around the wrong people: you are the sum of the people you spend the most time with, choose your friends carefully

never taking responsibility: tough stuff happens to everybody, focus on what you can control (you) rather than blaming outside circumstances (not talking about trauma here obviously)

expecting praise for 'being yourself': you're good enough as you are in a spiritual sense, but if you want to be excellent at something you have to actually do the work, not just expect praise and reward for just showing up

liking the aesthetic more than the work: do you want to achieve that goal or do you just like how it looks on pinterest??? make sure you derive some level of pleasure and satisfaction from the pursuit

overthinking: seriously just tell your brain to shut up. stop over intellectualising and over thinking every single thing. find your heart to guide you and save your brain power for working on your passions...

Happiness comes from within 🌟

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Organize Your Life with Tips for a Stylish, Productive Space | IT GIRL DIARIES

In today's fast-paced world, staying organized and productive while keeping a stylish space is essential. Creating an environment that feels fresh, clean, and aesthetically pleasing can boost motivation and mental clarity.

Here's how you can organize your life and space like an "IT girl" to keep your productivity on point :

1. Keep It Clean and Clutter-free 🫧🧼

A clutter-free space reflects a clutter-free mind. Dedicate time each week to tidying up your environment. Pay special attention to your bed and work areas, where you spend the most time. Clean pillows regularly to promote good skin and hair health. A clean space not only looks chic but also fosters a sense of calm and order.

2. Incorporate Fresh and Greenery 🍏🪴

Fresh air and greenery can transform any room. Consider adding indoor plants or fresh flowers to your living space. If you’re into healthy habits, you can even take it further by preparing a daily green juice with spinach, kale, cucumber, and other vibrant ingredients to match the aesthetic! This not only adds color but helps maintain a healthy body and mind.

3. Stylish Organization Tools 📖📕

Invest in minimalistic, stylish storage solutions—think sleek organizers, chic bins, or gold-accented trays. Everything should have its place, from your skincare products to supplements like magnesium and zinc. Neat storage keeps your space looking polished and makes it easier to find everything you need.

4. Create a Wellness Corner 🧖🏽‍♀️

Set up a small area for your self-care routine. This could include your skincare products, supplements, a diffuser, and even a cozy chair for relaxing. This space can help you stay on top of your health habits, like drinking hot lemon water in the morning or taking your daily zinc and ashwagandha for stress relief.

5. Stay Hydrated and Energized 💧💪🏽

Stylish glass water bottles or tumblers not only keep you hydrated but also serve as chic desk accessories. Infuse your water with lemon or fruit for added variety, and always keep it within reach while you work. Hydration is key to staying energized and productive throughout the day.

6. Incorporate a Fitness Routine🏋️

Your space should encourage movement and wellness. Keep a section free for indoor workouts like cycling or skipping, which you can do even if you're busy. A stylish yoga mat or exercise equipment can blend into your decor while reminding you to stay active.

7. Aesthetic Motivation

Use wall art, vision boards, or inspirational quotes that reflect your goals. Choose colors and designs that align with your personal style to keep your space motivating. Keeping your goals visible can help you stay productive, whether it's maintaining your fitness routine or sticking to a clean eating plan.

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your daily talk with @colebabey888 🎀

Thursday’s Watch.

how to become the smartest woman in the room 💭

topics to study:

philosophy

languages

art history

literature

fine foods

classical music

history

architecture

psychology

political science

I strongly believe you shouldn’t speak ill of your partner to anyone. unless you’re having genuine doubts about your relationship or something serious has happened like abuse or cheating, normal issues and problems should be solved within your relationship. I find that a lot of people will talk crap about their partner almost in a casual way when they have no intention of actually leaving that person. I don’t think complaining about ur spouse should be a conversation topic amongst friends. ultimately, not only are u disrespecting them, you’re also making yourself look bad. people forget that the person you’ve chosen to be your life partner reflects on you as well. making your partner look bad only makes you look bad too. you should be a team and you should conceal each others flaws and mistakes from the outside world

Networking Like an IT Girl | IT GIRL DIARIES

In today’s world, making good connections with people can be tough. Whether it’s meeting new friends or building professional relationships, it’s important to leave a good impression. Having a good circle and being able to network well with people is crucial during your IT Girl Journey. Here are some tips and tricks to help you stand out

1. Take Care of Yourself When you feel good, you look good, and confidence shines through. Healthy habits like drinking lemon water in the morning, eating lots of greens, and exercising regularly make you feel more energetic and ready to meet new people. When you feel your best, it’s easier to connect with others and make a lasting impression.

2. Be Real and Honest People appreciate honesty and being real. When you meet someone new, just be yourself. Show interest in what they have to say, ask questions, and really listen. Being genuine helps build trust, which is the foundation for meaningful friendships and professional connections.

3. Focus on a Few Good Relationships It’s better to have a few strong friendships than many shallow ones. Spend time building deep connections with people who share your values and inspire you. These relationships are more meaningful and last longer, both in your social life and in your career.

4. Show Your Personality While being professional is important, don’t be afraid to let your personality shine. Whether you’re at work or meeting new people in a social setting, showing your true self makes you more relatable and memorable. People connect with those who are genuine and open.

5. Share Your Healthy Habits Your healthy lifestyle can be a great conversation starter. Talking about things like your daily green juice, or how magnesium helps you sleep, can lead to interesting conversations and help you find people with similar interests. Plus, sharing wellness tips makes you stand out as someone who is mindful and health-conscious.

6. Keep in Touch Building strong connections takes time, so stay in touch with people. Whether it’s following up after meeting someone new or checking in with friends regularly, consistency is key. Social media can help, but personal interactions—like meeting for coffee—go a long way in keeping relationships strong.

By being yourself, taking care of your health, and staying consistent, you can build lasting connections that make you stand out in any social or professional setting. Networking like an IT Girl means showing up as your best self and nurturing relationships with kindness and care.

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xoxo, @colebabey888

essential soft skills for personal excellence

+ emotional intelligence: the ability to understand emotions (yours + others) with empathy and how they impact behaviour. without it you are liable to be defensive, self-centred, and experience a feeling of disconnection (from self + others).

+ resilience: how well you react when something bad happens. do you fall apart or can you navigate challenges without setting yourself back?

+ critical thinking: the ability to slow down and approach ideas with rational intelligence so that you can make thoughtful, considered decisions instead of impulsive, reactive ones.

+ adaptability: remaining flexible to the circumstances and cultivating the ability to deal with change (see also: resilience). can be more difficult if neurodivergent; they key is to be gentle + forgiving with yourself.

+ (healthy) self-discipline: doing what you need to do regardless of whether you 'feel like it' (see also: emotional intelligence, so that you're not ruled by your emotional state). remember that you can cultivate healthy discipline with gentle nurture that builds confidence over time, rather than toxic discipline that uses shame, fear, and punishment.

+ self worth: continuously building the foundational idea that you are worthy of the good life. without self worth, most attempts at self-improvement start with grandiose ideas of huge change and result in broken promises, difficulty sticking to goals, and a spiralling shame cycle.

people say marriage isn’t a fairytale or that it won’t be perfect which I understand and agree with but honestly if he’s not my actual soulmate who I can experience true love and connection with I’d rather be single because otherwise I’d just be getting married for what? just for the sake of it to fulfil a societal expectation or something… some women talk about marriage like it’s such a chore and be like ‘you’ll understand when you get married’ well I don’t want to and I hope I never do

The It Girl Diarie Blog

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The links to all It Girl Diarie Blog Post's. Mwah!

xoxo, colebabey8.88

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A Guide For Your It Girl Journey

Living Through Your Alter Ego

It Girl Academic Excellence | The Elle Woods Method

It Girl Vision Boards

Steps I Took To Become A It Girl

It Girl Financial Freedom Through Social Media

How to Clear Your Gut

Stop Giving A F*CK

Social Media/ Blog Mentorship

Networking Like An It Girl

Building A Killer Confidence Routine

Day In The Life Of The Ideal It Girl

Organize Your Life Like an It Girl

The Perfect It Girl Beauty Sleep Routine

The It Girl Wardrobe Essentials

Elegance: Talking with Grace and Walking with Poise

Rebranding Yourself in 90 Days

Financing 101

Beauty Secrets of A Brown Skin Girl

www.thedigitaldollar/gumroad.com

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𝐝𝐚𝐢𝐥𝐲

at least 7 hours of sleep

never skip skincare

use an oil cleanser to remove makeup

at least 30 min of exercise

10k steps per day

take vitamins

𝐰𝐞𝐞𝐤𝐥𝐲

shave face

clean up eyebrows

nail care routine

everything shower

sunday reset routine

𝐦𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐡𝐥𝐲

whiten teeth

get a lash lift

get a pedicure

go to a head spa

i wish more women knew beauty is an energy. it’s not about fitting the beauty standard so much as it is that tender care for your body and effort put into your outward appearance (hygiene, grooming, personal style and having fun with it) creates a magnetic energy. it tells people to regard you as important because you prioritise time and energy spent solely on yourself. it doesn’t even have to be about appearance at all if it’s not of interest - notice the same energy in people who are very skilled at something, who took the time to be great, who invested into themselves through passion and self-respect. sometimes fitting the beauty standard does help our goals, but you’d be surprised how little it can matter once you focus your energy on how you present yourself regardless of the standards. move from a place of pleasure and passion and watch it all come together.