Dependency May Appear To Be Love Because It Is A Force That Causes People To Fiercely Attach Themselves

Dependency may appear to be love because it is a force that causes people to fiercely attach themselves to one another. But in actuality it is not love; it is a form of antilove. It seeks to receive rather than to give. It nourishes infantilism rather than growth. It works to trap and constrict rather than to liberate. Ultimately it destroys rather than builds relationships, and it destroys rather than builds people.

The Road Less Traveled

M. Scott Peck

Where there is a will, there may be pride heading for a fall.

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Unfulfilled Desires?

One of the biggest lessons I learned as an adult was the reality of unfulfilled desires. It was something that I'd never dreamt as a possibility. I thought that if you feel it deeply and work towards it, your desires will come true. Or just living in the future will make the desire happen. Or feeling it all over your body and your intuition and seeing coincidences is proof that your desires will come true. Unfulfilled desires are like empty buckets, they may be filled someday so the wait keeps perpetuating.

Despite knowing people in external world who lived with unfulfilled desires, unreached potential and unaccomplished goals, I, for some reasons, thought that I was exceptional and different. I do not mean to say that one must live in misery, frustration and depression all the time. Some door opens when others are closed..

What I mean is that this concrete reality of 'unfulfilled desires' is something we don't talk much about. Sometimes it feels like the unfulfilled desires are socially silenced to the extent that a person buries and curls themselves up into a symbolic ball. So that nobody can see their unfulfilled desires and aspirations, and consequently gaze at their vulnerability aka emotional nakedness.

But maybe if we talk about it... Or perhaps it's better if we don't?

Inheritance

By Carl Jung

People do not realize just how much they are putting at risk when they do not accept what life presents them with, the questions and tasks that life sets them.

When they resolve to spare themselves the pain and suffering they owe to their nature.

In so doing they refuse to pay life's dues and for this very reason life often leads them astray.

If I have to suffer then let it be from my reality. A neurosis is a much greater curse.

One cannot do more than what one really is.

Suffering was inevitable in any case. But I want to suffer for those things which really belong to me.

A decisive factor for me in choosing this path was the knowledge that if I did not respond fully to my life's purpose and challenges then they would be inherited by my children who would have to bear the burden of my unlived life in addition to their own difficulties.

I am aware of what a heavy burden was passed onto me by my parents.

Such a burden cannot simply be shaken off. You find yourself weighed down with an inheritance that you have to accept and carry around like a snail carrying its house on its back.

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