This Is So ????

This is so ????

tbh for me it's important to have male friends, too.

Whenever I see another guy acting disrespectful, then I know "this is not how men are supposed to act, because this is not how anyone is supposed to act". and the disrespectful crazy guys will say "this is just how men are", and I see right through them. They're lying.

I've had this on my mind for years.

I've had weird guys try to goad me into "bonding with them" over the fact that they think 'all men suck'. That's what they think all women think. I don't.

It's just like.... I was looking out into a sea of ugliness, and saying: "well, I'm sorry that your father was an asshole, but I'm not you. My dad is a great guy. He's smart and respectful. He always cared about me. He's the first man I met in the world. So no, I don't accept 'ugliness as intrinsic to maleness'. Skill issue. Git gud."

Sorry if this is random. I just want to get this out of my head. I always keep my ideals alive. and remain sober enough to recognise the reality.

any tips to deal with the despair of it all (men)? like how do i deal with them treating women and the idea of femaleness with such disrespect and fetishization without going insane TBH

If I'm being honest, this is something I frequently struggle with. Followers of this blog may notice that I take silent hiatuses sometimes, even for a few couple months, because I need to remove myself from having to read some of the shit I have to on here.

The best advice I can offer is spend time with other women if you can; befriend your female coworkers, go to local events, make time to spend with female friends and family if it's possible. Womanhood isn't suffering and misery all the time, there is a beautiful connection between women who are important in each other's lives.

I understand if that's not an option for you, I have shitty female family members too if I'm honest, but I do my best to become friends with my fellow women I've met through work and such. Even after leaving a job we will check up on each other and hang out, even women who are far older than me. Being a positive presence in another woman's life helps me.

Contrary to the belief of some TRAs on here, this blog isn't my only passion. It's good to be conscious and learn about radical feminism, but frankly it also can make me extremely frustrated towards men in general. I don't have many males in my life and that's sort of intentional because every time I've attempted to, they let me down.

Learn about women's accomplishments, give a woman a compliment every now and then. Forge your own inner circle if you can, even if it's just online. I will always be wary of men and constantly think about what they do on a regular basis, but I've had to take breaks and focus on some positivity to improve my life if that makes sense

tbh people dont talk about how disturbing the popularity of sibling/step sibling porn is nearly enough.

tired of seeing women on tumblr swooning over a male celebrity tag their thirst posts with lgb-related tags because of mildly gnc kinks

lol sorry but wanting to put lipstick on a man and strapfuck him does not make you, a woman, gay in any way, no matter how many times you write that he's your babygirl, you're still a female expressing interest in a male which is the definition of heterosexuality

it's insane how regressive norms of 'femininity' and 'masculinity' have been so deeply internalized by the woke crowd that they think they're a 'queer gayfag genderfuck' for stepping one inch away from a tradwife caricature

i’m just trying to keep in mind what mind control does to rational, non-violent people. when you’re in a cult, everything seems literally life or death. in the trans community you are contributing to “saving lives” or you “have blood on your hands”. i can’t stress this enough: trans people literally think that misgendering is akin to suicide baiting which is akin to murder. when you’re in a cult you see yourself as an enforcer of justice because you’re lucky to know right from wrong when most people, in your view, are wilfully ignorant, reckless, and hurt people every day by refusing to wake up to your ideology. when you’re in a cult attacking your enemies is synonymous with protecting your allies, no matter how trivial the threat. when you’re in a cult the outside world is a scary place and you put up so many walls to protect yourself from it that you genuinely don’t know how to reasonably act when a “safe space” is compromised. i’m not defending violence because in the end we all have to take responsibility for the harm we do regardless of why we thought it was appropriate. but i honestly think it’s important to remember that all young trans people aren’t homophobic bloodthristy monsters who want to hurt women. they’re normal people who have been very slowly and gradually conditioned to believe that violence is something to be celebrated and rewarded, because they see it as fighting back, even when they quite literally throw the first punch. 

noah fence but genderism literally rots your brain. my nb friend was one of the smartest women I knew for the first two years or so of knowing each other. we talked about religion and spirituality and culture and politics, her insights were so nuanced and interesting.

then she started IDing as nb last summer and it’s like I can’t hold an intelligent, nuanced conversation with her anymore. everything I say gets poorly-informed knee jerk responses and gets completely misinterpreted and misquoted.