FALLING ASLEEP ON THEM WHILE STREAMING
FALLING ASLEEP ON THEM WHILE STREAMING
type — fluff
pronouns — IF any, i used they/ them but mentioned y/n as a future wife in wilbur’s
warnings — none
summary — reader falls asleep on their partner on stream
includes — awesamdude, dream, eret, fundy, george, karl, niki, quackity, sapnap, wilbur
awesamdude
- wouldn’t really mind
- starts smiling really hard and looks so damn adorable but facecam is off
- actually gets up to put you in bed cause you’ll get a terrible back pain, if you keep laying on top of him
- mentions it to chat quickly and starts a conversation about you with them
dream
- chat doesn’t notice cause how would they
- they notice how he gets unusually quiet a lot though and ask
- “oh yeah, y/n has been sitting on my lap and they fell asleep”
- doesn’t talk about it any further”
- he needs both his hands for minecraft but he’ll pause for a second to squeeze you slightly while giving you a kiss on the cheek
- loves being affectionate when you’re asleep so much
eret
- stares at you in admiration
- chat is jealous of both of you
- “please do not take any pictures of them while they are sleeping!”
- hugs you so tightly and places kisses on your head every few seconds
- starts talking to chat about how much he loves you and how good you’ve been to him
- she’s treats you so well that no one even dares to call them a simp
- “i won’t wake them because they’ve been having a very stressful week. i hope you don’t mind them staying”
fundy
- bruh
- at first chats ready to call him a simp
- plants multiple kisses on your forehead
- but then he grabs an air horn
- atp get ready to move out cause he won’t let you get ten peaceful minutes of sleep
- “fundy, i hate you so fucking much!”
- you leave the room to go sleep and he’s satisfied
george
- awkward af
- he wouldn’t know what to do and awkwardly stare from you to chat to monitor and back to chat
- calls dream but he can’t understand his wheezing and ends the call
- also calls sapnap and quackity who give him idiotic advice ( waking you up with loud sounds, dropping you to the ground ) or just laugh at him
- he kept his hands on your thighs the whole time
- ends the stream because wanting to make you feel safe confuses him too much
karl
- would get so giddy that he almost wakes you up
- takes 100 pictures and tells chat to clip and stuff
- will turn your face away from the camera tho
- you’re sitting on his lap sideways, your face buried into his chest and his arms pull you close to him
- puts his head as close to yours and repositions it everytime he feels too distant
- quackity bullies him for being a simp but in a loving way ofc
- tommy tries to yell through karl’s headphones to wake you up
niki
- notices you being asleep pretty soon and stares
- “stunning, am i right chat?”
- after about ten minutes she starts waking you up
- she begins kissing you softly and ends up poking your cheek until you finally wake up and glare at her
- “you’re very cute when asleep but please don’t go back to that state again”
- also asks chat to not take any pictures of you because it’s a little creepy once you think about it
quackity
- stares at chat the way he does when he’s really excited about something as soon as he realizes ( y’know what i mean )
- tries not to make a huge deal out of it but inside of him 🦋🦋🦋
- your front is turned to him so he doesn’t have to worry about chat taking screenshots
- hugs you SO tightly and pats your head while mumbling “poggers, poggers, popping off right now”
- chat obviously bullies him and he starts pouting before getting aggressive
- dumbass wakes you up with his yelling and feels actually bad
- apologizes while laughing about it but in his alex voice
sapnap
- he texts you midstream and tells you to join him
- he doesn’t say why but secretly he doesn’t want you to fall asleep without him, since it’s already 4am
- you walk in and stand next to him like 🧍🏻but he silently pulls you on his lap
- you reposition yourself the way you feel the most comfortable and just sleep
- chats going crazy because they see him whisper stuff into your ear and call him a simp because they’re annoying like that
- “fuck you, i love my partner. where is that a bad thing?!” “at least someone simps back for me”
- gets so defensive and ends after thirty minutes to get you to bed before he can accidentally wake you up
wilbur
- it is your chill stream actually
- will call tommy and ‘teach’ him stuff
- “see, tommy. this is how you treat a partner. learn from me”
- “you disgust me, wife haver”
- suddenly starts talking about how he actually wants to marry you someday
- tommy stays silent, melting innerly but it’s tommy so don’t expect him to admit that anytime soon
- “wilbur, listen to me, friend. you may want to get them off stream now and go to bed. i would divorce you, if i was them, wilbur!”
- listens to the child for ONCE and ends the stream
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240 Words to Describe Someone’s Tone/Voice
Abrasive - showing little concern for the feelings of others; harsh
Absurd - wildly unreasonable, illogical, or inappropriate
Accusatory - suggesting someone has done something wrong, complaining
Acerbic - sharp and forthright
Acidic - harsh or critical
Admiring - approving; think highly of; respectful; praising
Aggressive - hostile; determined; forceful; argumentative
Aggrieved - angry and sad because you think you have been unfairly treated
Airy - giving an impression of being unconcerned or not serious
Ambivalent - having mixed feelings; uncertain; in a dilemma; undecided
Amused - pleasantly; entertain or divert in an enjoyable or cheerful manner
Angry - incensed or enraged; threatening or menacing
Animated - full of life or excitement; lively; spirited; impassioned; vibrant
Anxious - typically with a feeling of unease
Apathetic - showing little interest; lacking concern; indifferent; unemotional
Apologetic - full of regret; repentant; remorseful; acknowledging failure
Appreciative - grateful; thankful; showing pleasure; enthusiastic
Ardent - enthusiastic; passionate
Arrogant - pompous; disdainful; overbearing; condescending; vain; scoffing
Assertive - self-confident; strong-willed; authoritative; insistent
Authoritative - commanding and self-confident
Awestruck - amazed, filled with wonder/awe; reverential
Barbed - deliberately hurtful
Barking - utter a command or question abruptly or aggressively
Belligerent - hostile; aggressive; combatant
Benevolent - sympathetic; tolerant; generous; caring; well meaning
Bitter - angry; acrimonious; antagonistic; spiteful; nasty
Blasé - unimpressed or indifferent to something because one has experienced or seen it so often before
Bleak - without hope or encouragement; depressing; dreary
Bombastic - high-sounding but with little meaning; inflated
Booming - loud, deep, and resonant
Bored - to tire or make weary by being dull, repetitious, or uninteresting
Brash - self-assertive in a rude, noisy, or overbearing way
Braying - speak or laugh loudly and harshly
Breathy - producing or causing an audible sound of breathing, often related to physical exertion or strong feelings
Breezy - appearing relaxed, informal, and cheerily brisk
Brittle - lacking warmth, sensitivity, or compassion; aloof
Bubbly - full of cheerful high spirits
Burbling - speak in an unintelligible or silly way, typically at unnecessary length
Callous - cruel disregard; unfeeling; uncaring; indifferent; ruthless
Candid - truthful, straightforward; honest; unreserved
Caustic - making biting, corrosive comments; critical
Cautionary - gives warning; raises awareness; reminding
Celebratory - praising; pay tribute to; glorify; honour
Chatty - informal; lively; conversational; familiar
Cheery - happy and optimistic
Childish - silly and immature
Chirping - say something in a lively and cheerful way
Clipped - speech that is fast, that uses short sounds and few words, and that is often unfriendly or rude
Cloying - disgust or sicken (someone) with an excess of sweetness, richness, or sentiment
Coarse - rude, crude, or vulgar
Colloquial - familiar; everyday language; informal; colloquial; casual
Comic - humorous; witty; entertaining; diverting
Compassionate - sympathetic; empathetic; warm-hearted; tolerant; kind
Complex - having many varying characteristics; complicated
Compliant - agree or obey rules; acquiescent; flexible; submissive
Concerned - worried; anxious; apprehensive
Conciliatory - intended to placate or pacify; appeasing
Condescending - stooping to the level of one’s inferiors; patronising
Confused - unable to think clearly; bewildered; vague
Contemptuous - showing contempt; scornful; insolent; mocking
Crisp - briskly decisive and matter-of-fact, without hesitation or unnecessary detail
Critical - finding fault; disapproving; scathing; criticizing
Croaking - a characteristic deep hoarse sound
Cruel - causing pain and suffering; unkind; spiteful; severe
Curious - wanting to find out more; inquisitive; questioning
Curt - rudely brief
Cynical - scornful of motives/virtues of others; mocking; sneering
Defensive - defending a position; shielding; guarding; watchful
Defiant - obstinate; argumentative; defiant; contentious
Demeaning - disrespectful; undignified
Depressing - sad, melancholic; discouraging; pessimistic
Derisive - snide; sarcastic; mocking; dismissive; scornful
Detached - aloof; objective; unfeeling; distant
Dignified - serious; respectful; formal; proper
Diplomatic - tactful; subtle; sensitive; thoughtful
Disapproving - displeased; critical; condemnatory
Disheartening - discouraging; demoralising; undermining; depressing
Disparaging - dismissive; critical; scornful
Direct - straightforward; honest
Disappointed - discouraged; unhappy because something has gone wrong
Discordant - harsh and jarring because of a lack of harmony
Dispassionate - impartial; indifferent; unsentimental; cold; unsympathetic
Dispirited - having lost enthusiasm and hope; disheartened
Distressing - heart-breaking; sad; troubling
Docile - compliant; submissive; deferential; accommodating
Drawling - speak in a slow, lazy way with prolonged vowel sounds
Dulcet - sweet and soothing
Dull - lacking interest or excitement
Earnest - showing deep sincerity or feeling; serious
Egotistical - self-absorbed; selfish; conceited; boastful
Empathetic - understanding; kind; sensitive
Encouraging - optimistic; supportive
Enthusiastic - excited; energetic
Evasive - ambiguous; cryptic; unclear
Excited - emotionally aroused; stirred
Facetious - inappropriate; flippant
Farcical - ludicrous; absurd; mocking; humorous and highly improbable
Feathery - extremely light and soft or delicate
Flippant - superficial; glib; shallow; thoughtless; frivolous
Forceful - powerful; energetic; confident; assertive
Formal - respectful; stilted; factual; following accepted styles/rules
Frank - honest; direct; plain; matter-of-fact
Fretful - expressing distress or irritation
Frustrated - annoyed; discouraged
Gentle - kind; considerate; mild; soft
Ghoulish - delighting in the revolting or the loathsome
Glum - dejected; morose
Goofy - foolish; harmlessly eccentric
Grating - harsh and unpleasant
Gravelly - deep and rough-sounding
Grim - serious; gloomy; depressing; lacking humour;macabre
Growling - low grating voice, typically in a threatening manner
Gruff - rough and low in pitch
Gullible - naive; innocent; ignorant
Guttural - produced in the throat; harsh-sounding
Hard - unfeeling; hard-hearted; unyielding
Harsh - cruel or severe
Hearty - loudly vigorous and cheerful
Hoarse - sounding rough and harsh, typically as the result of a sore throat or of shouting
Honeyed - soothing, soft, and intended to please or flatter
Humble - deferential; modest
Humorous - amusing; entertaining; playful
Husky - sounding low-pitched and slightly hoarse
Hypercritical - unreasonably critical; hair splitting; nitpicking
Impartial - unbiased; neutral; objective
Impassioned - filled with emotion; ardent
Imploring - pleading; begging
Impressionable - trusting; child-like
Inane - silly; foolish; stupid; nonsensical
Incensed - enraged
Incredulous - disbelieving; unconvinced; questioning; suspicious
Indifferent - having no particular interest or sympathy; unconcerned
Indignant - annoyed; angry; dissatisfied
Informative - instructive; factual; educational
Insinuating - suggest or hint in an indirect and unpleasant way
Inspirational - encouraging; reassuring
Intense - earnest; passionate; concentrated; deeply felt
Intimate - familiar; informal; confidential; confessional
Ironic - the opposite of what is meant
Irreverent - lacking respect for things that are generally taken seriously
Jaded - bored; having had too much of the same thing; lack enthusiasm
Joyful - positive; optimistic; cheerful; elated
Jubilant - expressing great happiness and triumph
Judgmental - critical; finding fault; disparaging
Laudatory - praising; recommending
Lifeless - lacking vigor, vitality, or excitement
Light-Hearted - carefree; relaxed; chatty; humorous
Lively - full of life and energy; active and outgoing
Loving - affectionate; showing intense, deep concern
Macabre - gruesome; horrifying; frightening
Malicious - desiring to harm others or to see others suffer; ill-willed; spiteful
Matter-of-fact - unemotional and practical
Mean-Spirited - inconsiderate; unsympathetic
Mellifluous - sweet or musical; pleasant to hear
Melodious - pleasant-sounding
Mocking - scornful; ridiculing; making fun of someone
Monotonous - lacking in variation in tone or pitch
Mourning - grieving; lamenting; woeful
Muffled - not loud because of being obstructed in some way; muted
Naive - innocent; unsophisticated; immature
Narcissistic - self-admiring; selfish; boastful; self-pitying
Nasty - unpleasant; unkind; disagreeable; abusive
Negative - unhappy, pessimistic
Nonchalant - casually calm and relaxed; not displaying anxiety, interest, or enthusiasm
Nostalgic - thinking about the past; wishing for something from the past
Objective - without prejudice; without discrimination; fair; based on fact
Obsequious - overly obedient and/or submissive; fawning; grovelling
Oily - unpleasantly smooth and ingratiating
Optimistic - hopeful; cheerful
Outraged - angered and resentful; furious; extremely angered
Outspoken - frank; candid; spoken without reserv
Pathetic - expressing pity, sympathy, tenderness
Patronizing - condescending; scornful; pompous
Pensive - reflective; introspective; philosophical; contemplative
Persuasive - convincing; eloquent; influential; plausible
Pessimistic - seeing the negative side of things
Philosophical - theoretical; analytical; rational; logical
Piping - high-pitched.
Playful - full of fun and good spirits; humorous; jesting
Pragmatic - realistic; sensible
Pretentious - affected; artificial; grandiose; rhetorical; flashy
Quavering - shake or tremble in speaking, typically through nervousness or emotion
Querulous - complaining in a petulant or whining manner
Rasping - harsh-sounding and unpleasant; grating
Reedy - high and thin in tone
Refined - elegant; cultured
Regretful - apologetic; remorseful
Resentful - aggrieved; offended; displeased; bitter
Resigned - accepting; unhappy
Restrained - controlled; quiet; unemotional
Reverent - showing deep respect and esteem
Righteous - morally right and just; guiltless; pious; god-fearing
Robust - strong and healthy; vigorous
Saccharine - excessively sweet or sentimental
Satirical - making fun to show a weakness; ridiculing; derisive
Sarcastic - scornful; mocking; ridiculing
Scathing - critical; stinging; unsparing; harsh
Scornful - expressing contempt or derision; scathing; dismissive
Scratchy - rough; grating
Sensationalist - provocative; inaccurate; distasteful
Sentimental - thinking about feelings, especially when remembering the past
Shrill - high-pitched and piercing
Silvery - gentle, clear, and melodious
Sincere - honest; truthful; earnest
Skeptical - disbelieving; unconvinced; doubting
Smarmy - excessively or unctuously flattering; ingratiating; servile
Smoky - a raspy, coarse and tone of quality that is deeper than usual
Snide - derogatory or mocking in an indirect way
Solemn - not funny; in earnest; serious
Somber - oppressively solemn or sober in mood; grave
Sonorous - imposingly deep and full
Sour - resentment, disappointment, or anger
Steely - coldly determined; hard
Strident - loud and harsh; grating
Stony - not having or showing feeling or sympathy
Suave - charming, confident, and elegant
Subjective - prejudiced; biased
Submissive - compliant; passive; accommodating; obedient
Sulking - bad-tempered; grumpy; resentful; sullen
Surly - bad-tempered and unfriendly
Sympathetic - compassionate; understanding of how someone feels
Thoughtful - reflective; serious; absorbed
Throaty - deep and rasping
Tolerant - open-minded; charitable; patient; sympathetic; lenient
Tragic - disastrous; calamitous
Tremulous - shaking or quivering slightly
Unassuming - modest; self-effacing; restrained
Unctuous - excessive piousness or moralistic fervor, especially in an affected manner; excessively smooth, suave, or smug
Uneasy - worried; uncomfortable; edgy; nervous
Urgent - insistent; saying something must be done soon
Velvety - soft; smooth
Vindictive - vengeful; spiteful; bitter; unforgiving
Virtuous - lawful; righteous; moral; upstanding
Whimsical - quaint; playful; mischievous; offbeat
Witty - clever; quick-witted; entertaining
Wonder - awe-struck; admiring; fascinating
World-Weary - bored; cynical; tired
Worried - anxious; stressed; fearful
Wretched - miserable; despairing; sorrowful; distressed
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Do you have any blog or fic recommendations for the 100 especially for bellamy?
not like
off the bat because i’ve literally read EVERYTHING there is on here :(
i do however know about this wattpad series that was really nice to read in my case and despite not being interested to read the entire series at first, i couldn’t stop once i started yknow??
each book is about one season ( starting with the first ) and the first two are completed, the third one hasn’t even really started i think, but i don’t find it too frustrating since the ending of the second one isn’t like.. too open y’know?
if you’re interested you should DEFINITELY check it out ( i think it’s a “higher quality” fanfiction where it’s obvious that the author paid attention to their own story) ! the first book is called “alive” and the author is ughivy <3
EXHAUSTED
type — fluff
pronouns — caring!sapnap x f!reader | she/ her
warnings — readers body is not bigger than 'medium' cause it probably wouldn't go with the plot, i'm sorry <3
summary — y/n spends sapnap’s stream on his lap because he’s worried she’ll put herself under too much pressure, if he doesn’t look after her
a/n — can someone pls tell me, if i ACTUALLY enabled anonymous asks? i am lost lol. i also hate this so much
your head hurt, your hand felt numb and you were one more missed assignment away from crying. school was stressing you a lot since the year was about to end and they wanted to make sure that every student got through it despite covid-19.
it was only 6pm but you had been doing homework for more than 8 hours already, even seeing some of them turning into missing assignments because your teachers apparently thought it was cool to not have any structure and making them due to the most random times.
the last time sapnap had checked on you was when you guys had lunch. you actually didn't plan on eating anything before you weren't done with biology, history, maths and english but he forced you to eat something, claiming you wouldn't get done until tonight anyways and he was right. even though you hadn't eaten a lot, you were glad that your boyfriend took care of you when you were too stressed to do it yourself.
sapnap was currently streaming minecraft with his camera on. it was a chill stream after he had recorded a new challenge with dream and george and although it could've been distracting him from you, it didn't. he texted you almost every 30 minutes and asked you, how you were feeling and if you needed something but when he hadn't gotten a text back for a bit over an hour, he decided to go into the kitchen to check up on you.
"guys, i'll leave you for a quick second because i need to look after y/n. i'll be right back", was what he said as he got up and left his room. when he entered the kitchen, he closed his eyes for a second and sighed before he walked up to you. you hadn't noticed him yet because you had sunken too deep into your homework.
"hey babe", be mumbled softly, putting his arms around you. you didn't respond and only leaned back against him, which made him pull you closer. "you need a break, okay?"
you considered it and nodded slightly. "yeah, i'll just get on my phone for a few minutes", you agreed and went to grab your phone but a kiss on your shoulder made you hesitate.
"no, y/n. i won't leave you with your homework, we both know that the break wouldn't be a break if i did. you will come with me. i want you to come with me and chill for the rest of the day", he explained, grabbed your hand and pulled you from your chair to get you to follow him.
"but your stream—"
"don't be silly. they love you more than me but if you want i can end it, i'm cool with that", your boyfriend offered but you just shook your head.
chat could hear the door open, since sapnap had forgotten to mute his mic earlier and only a few seconds later, they were also able to see the streamer and his girlfriend of almost two years. as you got closer to the screen, you could read some of the chat and spotted a lot of messages directed to you, some even worried.
“i’m back and i brought y/n with me because she never listens and i need to make sure that she gets her well deserved break”, he told them and sat down on his chair. you were standing next to him, zoned out due to your headache but he didn’t mind.
two hands were positioned on your sides before nick pulled you on his lap, making sure you were comfortable and secure.
your legs were dangling on his left while your head was lightly resting on his right shoulder. your fingers were playing with one of the straps hanging from his hoodie while he continued the game he was playing. he asked you how you were doing and if you needed something but when you declined and he looked down at you, he could tell that you didn’t have enough energy left to ask for anything, so he pressed a soft kiss on your skin and ignored the chat calling him a simp.
there were times where the game got him really upset but he didn’t want to startle you, which is why he kept quiet every single time. he had a hard time holding back his singing but when chat told him to sing to you, to help you fall sleep, he immediately did.
“okay chat, fuck y’all for calling me a simp when i’m just trying to take care of my girl. i hate you for this”, sapnap said and put his arms around you tightly. “i’ll get off now, bye!”
he sighed quietly when the stream was finally done and halted before his gaze fell upon your peacefully sleeping figure. as he did so often, he kissed your forehead and got up to carry you over to the bed, when he noticed your eyes opening a little.
“i love you. please stop putting so much pressure on yourself, alright? good night, babe.”
How to write about Grief:
There is no right or wrong way to experience grief. Just as there is no right or wrong way to write it. Everyone is different, each set of circumstances are different.
The point of this post is to show you how different people react in different ways, and give points on how you might write that, depending on your character and story.
Reactions to Grief
Numbness: Your character may go into auto-pilot and be unable to process the events that have unfolded.
Anger: This can be aimed at other people, at a Higher Being, or at nothing in particular.
Unsteady: Your characters may be unsteady. For example, unable to stop their voice from shaking or they may find it difficult to stand.
Focusing on Others: Your character may disregard their own feelings because they are so overwhelmed and instead concentrate on someone else’s well-being.
Seek out routines: Amid upheavals, your character may seek comfort in tasks that are familiar and “safe,” such as working, cleaning, making their bed, making absurd amounts of tea or taking a morning walk.
Pretending that Everything Is Okay: Grief is viewed as an emotion that should cease or be concealed once the funeral is over. So people mention the news in an offhand comment, then talk and laugh as if all is right with the world.
Denial: Some people deny the reality of death and convince themselves that the news is a joke or can’t be true.
Reactions from people surrounding your character:
People may avoid your character as they do not know what to say or simply can’t find the right words.
Some may even go as far as to cross the street when they notice your character approaching.
Even people that the character has known for years may act strange or standoff-ish, simply because they don’t know what to say.
On the other side of that, some people may be overly helpful and friendly.
It is not uncommon for estranged friends, family or others to suddenly reappear in a person’s life after they have experienced grief.
Either because those people want to offer their support and love or because they’re being nosy and they want to be kept up to date on the “drama”.
Most people will move on from the event fairly quickly if they weren’t emotionally invested.
Some people may even get annoyed at your character for still being upset weeks or months later.
When talking about the person they have lost:
Your character may recall a memory or tell a story about their loved one, these are possible reactions. (I have encountered all of them.)
Your character may being to cry or get upset at the thought of the person they have lost.
The person they are talking to may become awkward and avert eye contact when your character brings up the person they have lost.
Others may ask or tell your character to stop talking about the person they have lost. They may roll their eyes, cough awkwardly, or cut off your character mid sentences so that they can change the subject.
Some people may ask inappropriate questions about the circumstances in which the character’s loved one passed away. Depending on the personality of your character then may react differently.
Other things to note:
Grief is not constrained by time.
One of the main problems with grief in fiction is that a character is typically heartbroken for a couple scenes and then happy again. But grief does not evaporate because the world needs saving.
Allow your character to wrestle with their grief.
Your character may feel guilty. Your character may feel a twinge of guilt when they laugh or have a good time with someone else; when they do something to remind them that they’re alive, and their loved one isn’t.
Grief is a game changer. A previously outgoing character may withdraw and isolate themselves. Some people may take grief and/or bereavement as a sign that life is too short; they may make big decisions in an attempt to make themselves feel better and grow away from their pain.
Sometimes grief can help you find your purpose.
At first grief can be all consuming. It hurts and you can’t really control it. It may seem unrelenting. Eventually the grief will become easier to deal with, your character may find the days to be better, but that doesn’t mean that when the grief hits it doesn’t hurt any less.
For most people, grief never really goes away. “Sometimes you have to accept the fact that certain things will never go back to how they used to be.”
It is rare that a person will ever give a long speech about their feelings, a lot of people struggle to even find the words. But that’s okay. Show the reader how your character feels, rather than just telling them.
Don’t pause the plot to deal with the aspect of grief. This could overwhelm the readers and drag the pace down. In reality, life doesn’t just stop due to grief, the world keeps spinning and things still need to be done. Use the character’s grief as a backdrop for the story’s events.
Yes, grief affects the character’s day-to-day life, goals, and relationships. But it shouldn’t drive readers away or stagnate the story. Instead, should engage readers and produce empathy that keeps them turning pages.
You don’t need to tell your readers that everything will be fine. You don’t need to provide all of the answers.
“Skirting grief and treating it lightly is easy. But by realistically portraying it through a variety of responses and its lasting effects on the character’s life, readers will form a connection with your characters.“