Also, While I'm Ranting:

Also, while I'm ranting:

Just because something gives you a boner doesnt mean that its excempt from critical discussion.

I’m not anti kink, and I support sex workers, but the mindset of kinkshaming being a sort of unacceptable sin needs to go away. Daring to criticize kinks that have strong elements of racism, pedophilia, and incest needs to be more common. Calling out people who objectify and sexualize unknowing, unconsenting people (like fetishists who steal content from plus size fashion blogs) is also important.

People who are anti bdsm/anti kink seem to think that me needing aftercare is “I’m having an emotional breakdown after sex because I feel bad plz help me uwu” when really it’s my boyfriend cuddling me after sex making me feel loved and secure. It’s him holding me while I come down from the intense [plesurable and adrenalin inducing] emotions, and the “aftershock” I get sometimes, while he chuckles and goes “You okay babe?”. It’s me telling him “My heart is beating really fast.” and him telling me “Breathe, babe.” while he strokes my body. It’s him holding my hand and smiling while we start our next episode of House Hunters.

Stop talking about aftercare when you don’t even understand what it is. Thanks.

When I say I’m kink critical it doesn’t mean “you get turned on by feet so I hate you” it means I am wary of people who think their orgasms are more important than someone’s existence or safety from harmful and dangerous behaviours, you’d be surprised how often people’s fantasies of misogyny, racism, transphobia and ableism can leak into how they interact with the real world and that’s fucking scary

libfem website article suggestions:

Why You Should Get Over Your Discomfort With Being Called Demeaning Slurs If It’s, Like, A Sex Thing

Here, Have A Tentative Endorsement Of Actual Intercourse In Public Spaces

A Bisexual Talked To Me???? Am I Qu**r Now??? (Blog Post)

Why Trans-Fetishism Is Progressive

Why Racial Preferences Are Natural (According To A White Free-Lance Psychologist)

How To Push Your Sexual Boundaries And Warp Your Perception Of Your Own Sexuality In A Way That Is Palatable To Straight Men

Are Lesbians Actually Holding Back Qu**r Rights?

Why It’s Okay To Be Homophobic To Gay Men, But Only When They’re, Like, Obnoxious About Being Gay. Real Homophobia Ended A Long Time Ago, Right?

How Feminism Was Actually Always About Helping Men, Too

a huge problem with the ultra-liberal sex positivity movement is that a lot of its rhetoric centers violence as an inherent aspect of sex. like if there isn’t some form of pain or harm, is it even “good sex”? while not all bdsm is bad, the presentation of violence (and let’s face it, the default is overwhelmingly man-hits-or-degrades-woman) as something that is inherently sexual enables abuse. like this weird discourse that presents physical impact or aggression as a precursor to having a healthy/active sex life serves to normalize aggression in general, and enables men with harmful motives in their efforts to abuse women.

All women are forced to live under an arbitrary and unfair system which sorts us into the categories of “Fuckable” and “Worthless.” The solution to this is NOT to expand the definition of “Fuckable.”