This Is Also A Problem With The System Pride Flag Being Stolen And Then Used As The "super Straight"

this is also a problem with the system pride flag being stolen and then used as the "super straight" flag

Yaknow how this week is aromantic awareness week and as the name states, is to spread awareness about aromanticism? I have been wearing the aro flag frequently wherever I go, and also have been keeping a small version of the flag on my bag to celebrate! However, I am extremely agitated over just how little is truly known about aromantic people.

The intention of having the flag around was to spread representation of arospec people and to educate others on our identity! And I am very pissed off to know more people recognize the aromantic flag not as what it truly is, but instead this:

Today someone had called my flag a “dreamsexual flag” and i have never felt more offended.

They took our flag. I don’t want to have to constantly worry that people see my flag and think I support a bigot. There is more recognition of this flag as a “dream flag” than what it actually stands for. This is why more people should be educated about aros. We are already doing what we can to fight amatonormativity and I have never been more furious to have my identity belittled to a “dreamsexual flag.” That is not what aromanticism stands for, and it never ever will stand for that.

So please educate yourself! When you see that flag please know what it genuinely means. It stands for a beautiful community of people who experience little to no romantic attraction. It does not stand for a community of uneducated people stealing flags and supporting bigots. Thank you, and happy aromantic awareness week.

i made a post earlier but tumblr fucked up the tags so i hav 2 put it all in txt :/

the post was

"not everything has 2 b an opportunity 4 u 2 try 2 prove u r a good ally sharon"

and i was gonna keep it at that and then leave the specifics of what i was talking abt in the tags but tumblr is a hellsite so i can't, i posted and immediately all the tags were out of order and made no fucking sense so im gonna just put the whole thing in txt here ig

this is abt me mainly thinking abt the ppl who hijack social movements 2 try 2 prove "what a good person they r" or act like we hav 2 make everything abt them like "the a stands 4 ally" mfs, the ppl who act like we in the minority hav 2 tone down what we're saying 4 them bc they would rather b comfy than acknowledge that ppl in their group r still hurting us

like the teachers and therapists who hijack every time a disabled/nd/mentally ill person talks abt their experiences 2 say "well im not like that" or worse the teachers and therapists who tell us 2 stop talking abt our experiences bc "we're making ppl afraid 2 go 2 school/therapy" and then they lie and say that "our experiences don't happen that often" like yes they do mf it's not my fault my reality makes u uncomfortable

this is also abt the mfs who act like im "racist" 4 saying that im mixed british and african when i say that bc i am, but some white ppl will say that calling myself that makes me racist bc "it's an insult 2 ppl actually from africa",,, like mf my grandmother was from africa and my mother was raised there, ur not as good an ally as u think u r

this is also abt the ppl who act like hating on mogai makes them a good queer ally, no it doesn't, also can't help but notice the stuff in mogai that i c getting the most hate is the labels that r there 4 nd/mentally ill ppl, hate 2 break it 2 u but ableism doesn't make u a good queer ally

also side note some of u just c a label and assume u know what it means, like u c the word "cloudgender" and assume it means some1 identifies as a cloud when that's not what that means, it's a label 4 some1 who the specifics of their gender r hard 2 pinpoint bc of dpdr [depersonalisation and/or derealisation] which is a very real thing 4 a lot of ppl, if ur such a "good ally" y don't u do the bare minimum research b4 u decide u know what something means

also while ur at it stop acting like every character in a queer relationship who's nd or mentally ill is child coded, like u guys will b like "[lists a literal common symptom of being nd/mentally ill] this makes them child coded" like mf no it doesn't hell some of u will point 2 a character being aro or ace or both and use that as evidence 4 them being "child coded" and u only seem 2 do this w/ queer ships [canon or otherwise] and i hav 2 wonder how many of u r doing that bc u c ace ppl, aro ppl, nd ppl, mentally ill ppl the same as children and how many of u r doing that bc u want any excuse 2 call a queer ship p*do bait neither of those makes u a good ally 2 queer ppl

i'm nd, im mentally ill, im aroace and im not a child, ppl like me r allowed 2 exist and hav relationships and yes that includes relationships that r obviously and unashamedly queer, sry not sry if that makes u uncomfortable and b4 u say "well it's not abt ppl like u" yes it is, im literally nd and mentally ill in the way that ppl use 2 say a character is child coded, im autistic and i hav dpdr as a result of cptsd so i hav moments where i just hav no idea what's going on, if i was a fictional character i would hav ppl on the internet saying that im "child coded" and that ppl can't like me and my partner being 2gether and that it's "bad queer rep" also even if it wasn't abt me that's not the point, the point is adults r allowed 2 b adults and being disabled shouldn't change that

i feel like a lot of activism is hurt by "allies" that just hijack our movements 2 try 2 prove "what good allies" or "what good ppl" they r and then they focus the movement around them and their ego and what they will and won't accept instead of our activism being allowed 2 b centred around us, the oppression we face and our goals 2 work 2wards our own liberation, the ways in which a lot of these "allies" try 2 prove that they r good allies is in ways that hurts the community they r saying they r helping or in a way that hurts another community that wouldn't hav been caught in the crossfire otherwise

[not saying all allies r like this but u do get way 2 many like this and it pisses me off]

so yeh, not everything has 2 b an opportunity 4 u 2 try 2 prove ur a good ally sharon

"embrace ur differences, stop saying ur different in the way that u r and embracing it" also legit unironically saying that ppl should stop talking abt skin colour??

once again mixed ppl exist outside of the US

[there were more comments but it's a vid that got a lot of attention and i cba 2 go thru all the comments on it rn]

[title 4 context but yeh im not watching this vid it's obvs what it is]

[mainly put this video title in here 4 another video title i was going 2 put in 4 context but found these comments]

4 context all the woman w/ the braids did was point out in her own words that "white passing privilege" is just as much bs as "straight passing privilege" is at least in what i watched of this video b4 having 2 stop watching, there were also a bunch more comments trash talking her for speaking up abt it, didn't put those in bc i reached the image limit

we're not white either tho and none of us r "pretending 2 b black" we're just trying 2 acknowledge and embrace that part of ourselves instead of just allowing ourselves 2 b constantly pushed into the same box as our oppressors

fuck this im having a bad day bc of ppl being weird abt me being mixed w/ black and mixed w/ white so im just making this a masterpost of all the kinda bs i deal w/ bc so many ppl don't seem 2 believe me when i say me and others like me go thru this shit, gonna reblog this w/ any new shit i find

apparently they r comparing us 2 coffee now

weird race fetish bs

weird eugenics bs

in case u thought it was only 4 coffee cups

hey so i couldn't help but notice that while this post is good a lot of the replies r shit

there's a lot of ppl pointing out that "in txt magneto wanted 2 do a genocide against all non mutants" and while yes that is true there's more 2 it than that

the ppl who r saying magneto was right r not saying "genocide is super cool" what they r saying is "we shouldn't hav 2 play nice w/ the ppl who oppress us"

it's no mistake or coincidence imo that x-men is a series marketed 2wards ppl in minority groups and the representation of ppl who don't want 2 play nice w/ the oppressors is magneto, it's p obvious [at least from what little i've seen] that x-men is essentially just propaganda 2 try 2 demonise ppl who would rise up against their oppressors instead of asking them nicely if we can hav equal rights yet, not saying u can't enjoy x-men btw just wish that more ppl would watch media w/ their brains switched on instead of just ignoring all cultural context and then getting mad when ppl don't ignore said cultural context

it's like, disney villains were made queer coded 2 demonise queer ppl, and a lot of queer ppl reclaim those villains now bc of this, and no1 is saying that if a queer person reclaims a queer villain that that somehow now means that they agree w/ their actions in txt bc we r aware of the cultural context and keep that in mind

magneto was a character that was made 2 demonise ppl who's activism isn't oppressor friendly, i can't speak 4 what it was originally but at least what little i've seen it seems like it was written by the majority and marketed 2 minority groups 2 try 2 stop us from getting any ideas abt rising up against our oppressors

it's weird 2 me how ppl in the replies r saying that ppl who r saying magneto was right "don't hav any critical thinking skills" bc it just shows that they r just taking everything in x-men at face value w/out applying any thought abt cultural context and y the only guy who's anti oppressor is shown 2 b evil, like do u guys actually think that there's ever going 2 b a character in mainstream media who's in a minority group who's not willing 2 play nice w/ the oppressors who's ever going 2 b shown in a good or even honest light?? and i mean in a real way not in a "well it was just that we needed a different person in power" or "well it was just this individual that was bad not the system" kind of way

[sry if this is incoherent im typing this while sleep deprived]

i mean some ppl do get violent when they find out ur not white but go off ig :/

acting like we're privileged once again

erasure

as some1 who's from the UK i can confirm that mixed ppl exist outside the US

do i even need 2 fucking say anything on this 1???

unironically using the term "exotic" 2 describe how we look b*tch im not a pet

apparently some1 thinks that american = white

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fuck this im having a bad day bc of ppl being weird abt me being mixed w/ black and mixed w/ white so im just making this a masterpost of all the kinda bs i deal w/ bc so many ppl don't seem 2 believe me when i say me and others like me go thru this shit, gonna reblog this w/ any new shit i find

apparently they r comparing us 2 coffee now

weird race fetish bs

weird eugenics bs

in case u thought it was only 4 coffee cups

yeh as some1 who is ""white passing"" [don't like the term 4 in it's current use 4 so many reasons] ppl just always assume im white and then when i tell them i'm not they try 2 tell me that me being mixed w/ black "doesn't count" or w/e bc it wasn't 1 of my parents who's black it's my grandma but like,,,

1] it still makes me not 100% white

2] fuk u if there was a literal racial slur made 4 ppl who r "a quarter black" like me then i don't think u then get 2 turn around and call me white and say that my black side doesn't count [not putting the slur here bc i don't trust like that but if u know u know]

3] my mother despite being technically born in the uk was raised entirely in zimbabwe and doesn't rly consider herself english

4] i've experienced racism on multiple occasions despite what so many ppl like 2 think, if im black enough 2 experience racism u don't get 2 tell me im not black enough 2 call myself mixed

5] im not even fully white passable [which i would still b able 2 call myself mixed if i was i just find it weird how ppl act like i am fully white passable] like,,, my hair and body r different bc im mixed pale skin isn't the same thing as being able 2 pass as white and it's not like ppl don't notice those things abt me

sry if i got angry in the reblog im just glad some1 else is talking abt this bc it rly sucks bc it's not just white ppl who do this [which is bad enough already] but u even get monoracial poc doing this as a way of trying 2 pit the wider poc community against mixed ppl and it sucks

This isn’t like, specifically a fandom or media thing, but I’m kind of tired of the way people discuss (or often don’t discuss) multi-racial or multi-ethnic identities. Mixed people are literally so diverse and no two of us are going to have the exact same experiences. I remember once during class (I don’t remember what the exact topic or whatever was, but I think it was a writing class) we were discussing an article written about a mixed-race woman (I believe white/black) and everyone was just repeatedly referring to her as a black woman. And I didn’t say anything at the time because I was uncomfortable and I’m bad at speaking up for things that make me uncomfortable. But now I wish I had. Because maybe she thought of herself as a black woman, but none of us knew whether or not she did.

And like. I’m half-black, half-white, and I would be extremely uncomfortable if someone referred to me as a black woman. Because 1) I don’t look black. Straight-up, if you just looked at my face you would never assume I was black or part-black. I know because many people have guessed or assumed my race and they have never gotten it right. I am Ambiguously Brown. 2) I was raised by my mom, who’s white, and there are a lot of gaps in my knowledge of African-American history and culture (part of this is also a failure on the part of the American education system but what else is new). One of my friends and I (also a multi-racial woman, though not the same as me) used to joke that we were basic half-white bitches. No I would not be comfortable if someone who wasn’t a close friend, or if someone who wasn’t mixed, tried to do this with me. 3) Even if the first two weren’t true, I’m not black. I’m part black, and all aspects of my race are important to me, not just the ones that are most “obvious” to other people.

And that’s part of my biggest problem like this - people making assumptions about other mixed people’s experience with their identity. The first one that comes to mind is Keanu Reeves. I’ve definitely seen people make jokes about him being a popular unproblematic internet white guy - but he’s not white. He’s part white, part Chinese, part Hawaiian (his name is literally Hawaiian). And I can feel people rolling their eyes that it doesn’t matter or he still has privilege, so it doesn’t “count”. And I won’t deny that he may have privilege because of his appearance, but it is not your place to say that other people’s identity doesn’t count. You don’t live in other people’s brains, and you don’t know how he relates to his identity. You don’t know his experience. You don’t know how it’s affected him - or how assumptions like that affect him. This also goes for people on the opposite end of the spectrum, like my high school friend “Dimitri”, who was part black, part Native, and people typically assumed he was black. I wish now that we’d talked about this together - I don’t know how it affected him, but I do know how other people’s assumptions can affect you.