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I’ve had some difficult conversations with my family and we’ve come to the conclusion that it’s best for my mental health if I don’t get a drivers license. At least for now.

I’m 23 and feel like I ought to have one by now but if I drive any faster than 45 miles an hour I get dangerously close to an anxiety attack so I guess I’m gonna try living in the western United States on my own without a car. I know it’s doable but I’m intimidated. It’s gonna be hard. I know that. I need to do what’s safest for me and those around me though so if I ever get a drivers license it won’t be this year.

I know how to drive. I can do it safely. But it takes too much of a toll on me mentally, so I just can’t right now. And if you’re in a similar situation I want you to know that it’s not just you. Driving is scary. It’s difficult. It’s a high pressure high risk activity. Not everyone has the capacity to deal with that kind of pressure. I’m not ready for it. I’m ready to admit that now.

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Hello! i started my new job yesterday! I think im going to like it here the people seem friendly so far . Due to being in the training stage, I don’t get paid till two weeks. being in trianing mode they put me on for three days for both weeks. im really going to be financially unstable this month and it sucks to be honest. im asking for help one more time to get though this month . If you can’t donate please reblog this post. 

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THROUGH A RAPIST’S EYES” (PLS TAKE TIME TO READ THIS. It may save a life, It may save your life.)

An Article from Neena Susan Thomas

“Through a rapist’s eyes. A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interview…ed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:

1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun! , braid, or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.

2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who’s clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.

3] They also look for women using their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.

4] The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at is grocery store parking lots.

5] Number two is office parking lots/garages.

6] Number three is public restrooms.

7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don’t have to worry about getting caught.

8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn’t worth it because it will be time-consuming.

9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas,or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.

10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you’re not worth it.

POINTS THAT WE SHOULD REMEMBER:

1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk: can’t believe it is so cold out here, we’re in for a bad winter. Now that you’ve seen their faces and could identify them in a line- up, you lose appeal as a target.

2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they’d leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

4] If someone grabs you, you can’t beat them with strength but you can do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or in the upper inner thigh – HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.

5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy’s parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you’ll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he’s out of there.

6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don’t dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel little silly at the time, but you’d feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.

FINALLY, PLEASE REMEMBER THESE AS WELL ….

1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do it.

2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans : if a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you…. chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won’t see you but everybody else will. This has saved lives.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON’T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side,put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS , LEAVE.

5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:

a. Be aware: look around your car as someone may be hiding at the passenger side , peek into your car, inside the passenger side floor, and in the back seat. ( DO THIS TOO BEFORE RIDING A TAXI CAB) .

b. If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.

c. Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked “for help” into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.

Send this to any woman you know that may need to be reminded that the world we live in has a lot of crazies in it and it’s better safe than sorry.

If u have compassion reblog this post. ‘Helping hands are better than Praying Lips’ – give us your helping hand.

REBLOG THIS AND LET EVERY GIRL KNOW AT LEAST PEOPLE WILL KNOW WHATS GOING ON IN THIS WORLD. So please reblog this….Your one reblog can Help to spread this information.

THIS COULD ACTUALLY SAVE A LIFE.”

this is simply the greatest video i have ever seen

To my friends on the spectrum, let me explain to you an unspoken social rule that possibly nobody has ever explained to you before

If a neurotypical asks you, “What game are you playing?” they’re not asking you to describe the game.

They’re asking you if they can play too.

If a neurotypical asks you, “What are you watching?” they’re not asking you to explain the plot of the movie/tv show to them.

They’re asking if they can watch it with you.

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When neurotypicals ask you “What are you doing?” 

What you think they’re asking: “Please explain to me what you are doing.” 

What they’re actually asking:  “Can I join you?”

Now here’s the really fucked up part. If you start explaining to them what you’re doing? They will interpret that as a rejection. 

What you think you’re saying: [the answer to their question]

What they think you’re saying: This is an elite and exclusive activity for a level 5 friend and you are a level 1 acquaintance. You are not qualified to join me because you don’t know all this stuff. Go away.

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This is why neurotypicals think you’re being cold and antisocial.

IT’S ALL A HORRIBLE MISCOMMUNICATION.

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Not a grown ass police officer who “fears for his life” in site!

#WhitePrivilege 

Cops don’t see danger when it comes to other white people …Even when clear danger exists .

Cops see danger when it comes to black/brown people …Even when no apparent danger exists .

Cultural conditioning .The actions of cops during these recent protests demonstrate bias .

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Support Anjanette Young in Speaking Truth to Power, organized by Eve Ewing

On February 21, 2019, Anjanette Young was alone in her home, undressed af… Eve Ewing needs your support for Support Anjanette Young in Speaking Truth to Power

Anjanette Young is a Black social-worker from Chicago who was a victim of a botched raid by the Chicago police department in February 2019.  Ms. Young’s home was raided and she was handcuffed with guns drawn at her while completely undressed.  She repeatedly told officers over 40 times that they had the wrong home.  Police eventually realised they were looking for the resident next door and left Anjanette’s home.  Ms. Young is now in a legal battle with the City of Chicago as they tried to block the footage of the raid being made public.  Please read more about her story in these additional articles here: from cbs, here: from the chicago suntimes, as well as in her gofundme linked above.  (TW: antiblackness, misogynoir, police brutality in the articles, one link includes footage of the raid)

A lesson in how to gird your loins.

via The Art of Manliness

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Every writing advice thing ever: Don’t get bogged down in details on your first draft. Just write! ☺️

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I'm petrified. Of everything. Of my mom getting sick and not being able to hug her ever again. I'm scared shitless my sales will completely disappear again and I won't be able to pay rent. I'm being so massively taken advantage of. I fear homelessness more than death and this block is where I need to be. I'm so vulnerable and i just can't handle anything more. My move isn't totally finished. I have no lease. I have stuff at the old house that I'm not capable of moving on my own and the people who promise to help me move them never do but act like I'm a failure because I'm not getting it done fast enough.

At first I thought it was just that the move was triggering my PTSD. I don't think so anymore. I feel that this has been a new trauma. Like lash marks all over my body raised with welts, occasionally breaking open and bleeding, bright vivid red stripes in no particular pattern that have not had a moment to fade or heal on top of the layers and layers of scars that are in various stages of softening and fading.

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All of my reserves are blown. I cobbled together rent but still can't pay utilities. More pressing is my lack of food. I don't have anything in the fridge and I'm too poor to eat out.

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