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One thing about me is that I like my ships spending plenty of time getting to know each other and facing challenges together before they even get to see each other in a romantic light. A spark of attraction is fine, but before it burns into a bright romantic flame, it must be cultivated slowly first.

I don’t know if this is just because I might be demiromantic (still questioning this), but if they skip the Friendship stage and jump straight away to being Love Interests, it feels so unnatural to me.

However, just being Friends is also not enough. As mentioned, they must also face challenges together. Because that’s how you see how much they actually care for each other and how well they know each other. How do they use their strengths for the other? How do they compensate for the other’s weaknesses? How do they inspire each other to be better? Or how do they let the other feel safe enough to be vulnerable with them? Would they take a knife to the stomach for their beloved? etc. etc.

This is why I can’t ship Ran and Shinichi. Shinichi keeps Ran too much at a distance.

Same reason why I dropped the Kaiju No.8 manga. I didn’t like how the canon straight pair (Kafka x Mina) can’t go on missions together, while Kafka gets to live the childhood dream he shared with Mina with some other guy instead...

And now, with Yatagarasu, I can’t ship Hamayu and Wakamiya in spite of their cute childhood history because the two of them barely even spend time with each other.

For ships like these, the friendship and romance is there—no doubt about that—but then the actual Love is not, y’know? People vary on how they define Love, but for me it’s a verb. It’s not just something you feel but something you do. And if a character in a ship isn’t even given the chance to do anything for their partner, then how can they Love?

Also… does Character A actually Love Character B? Or do they just love the idea of them?

Again, this is just how I view shipping. You don’t have to agree with me, but… Friends to Lovers, when done right, is supreme:

Killua and Gon from HxH

Bachira and Isagi from Blue Lock

Cheng Xiaoshi and Lu Guang from Link Click

Lin Yun and Tang Ning from Flower Vase

All the gay ships in You Yao are also pretty great