Its Not By Choice - Tumblr Posts

Yes! Thank you.

There’s so much I want to say about this, but I don’t know how to get it out. I agree with this 100%

Another thing I really hate and that irks me to my core is when they hit you with a “If you can’t remember it then it wasn’t important” because how do you know it wasn’t important?! It felt important to me. You can’t just completely dismiss me and label my thoughts as “unimportant” simply because my stupid brain can’t catch up. I’m trying my hardest to remember, I swear, but it’s all just blank.

It honestly makes me feel so ashamed and slow.

we are so ableist about memory. people with good memory take for granted the fact that they can recall as much as they can, and use that to taunt, guilt and threaten people with memory issues. many neurotypes and mental illnesses cause memory lapses. traumatic brain injuries can cause memory lapses. brain cancer can cause memory lapses.

even if your memory is good, it's not right to guilt someone because they can't remember something. trust me, people with memory problems are desperately trying to remember: it's just that we literally can't. it is a very literal "i can't remember".