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tw: abuse tw: sexual violence female socialization sets women up 2 be recipients of such violence gender is dictated by binary thought so female identity is defined in the context of male identity traditional ‘femininity’—submissive passive nurturer—is the complementary opposite of traditional ‘masculinity’—strong aggressive leader goscilo writes “submission implies assertion (violation); passivity invites action (violence)” we learnt last sem that whereas men fantasize abt women’s bodies and sexual activity women tend 2 fantasize about their own attractiveness 2 men we r conditioned 2 view ourselves thru the lens of the male gaze and engage in alienating voyeuristic self-examination over time internalized objectification (& possibly sexual blame avoidance) cause us 2 eroticize such violence & we make sense of it by equating violation with validation leading 2 distorted images of not only sexual intimacy but also our own body + self we been knew this but i wanted 2 go off i wanted 2 Word it i thot i was ace until v recently & i still feel like it tbh & realizing this has rly helped me get why altho a lot of other stuff went into it i think and like the occasional sexual fantasy i did hav as a teen was violent & so unhealthy & it made me feel ??? not nice but [john mulaney voice] we don’t have the time 2 unpack all of That im SO SO glad im over that tho f spe sex