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I think in honor of pride month and also in general forever we should stop trying fit queer people into the identities we think they should call themselves.
And I know no one is going to see this because no one ever does but I'm going to talk about it anyway because this is important.
Bisexual doesn't mean you don't date trans people, it doesn't mean you like men and women, it doesn't mean you can't have a preference. Someone can identify as polysexual or bisexual or omnisexual and have no preference and you don't get to say that that means they're pansexual. Because no, if they don't identify as pansexual then they're not pansexual.
Transmasc doesn't mean you use he/him pronouns. It doesn't mean you identify as a man. Transfem doesn't mean you use she/her pronouns. It doesn't mean you identify as a woman. You can be nonbinary or genderqueer or agender or any gender that isn't binary and not use they/them pronouns. You can use any of those labels and still identify as a man or a woman. You can use different pronouns than is typically used for your birth sex and not consider yourself transgender. People can be gender non conforming and not he trans. People can be trans and not gender non conforming.
A trans man can be fem. A trans woman can be masc. Nonbinary people don't owe you androgyny. Intersex people don't owe you androgyny. Intersex people are people, they deserve way more attention than a way to one up transphobes. Intersex people face discrimination and body altering surgeries without their consent and then are only ever talked about to say "some cis women have penises" or "some people have an extra x chromosome" and then we never talk about the struggle they face as part of the queer community.
Asexuality and aromanticism is a spectrum. Some aces like sex, some aces are repulsed, some aces only experience sexual attraction to one person or once in their life, some aces need a deep emotional bond, some aces their attraction changes. Some aros change identities. Some aros are repulsed by romance unless it's a fictional character. Some aros have romantic feelings until they get to know someone. Some aros crave a romantic relationship but never have romantic feelings. You don't get to say someone isn't asexual or aromantic enough.
Asexuality and aromanticism is having a unique relationship with romance or sexual feelings and impulses. Someone who is transgender has a unique experience with gender. You don't get to decide that they don't have a unique experience. But guess what? You don't get to decide if they do either. Someone can have a unique experience and still not identify as asexual aromantic or transgender. You can cross dress and still fully feel like a man. You can use he/him pronouns as a cis women. You can have trauma around sex and not identify as asexual. You can never have a romantic relationship and not identify as aromantic.
You can have "contradicting" labels. I don't know as many of these because I don't personally identify as any but please fell welcome to add in reblogs. There are trans men lesbians and gay women. There are sex loving asexuals. I know there are others I just genuinely am not educated enough.
YOU DONT GET TO CHOOSE SOMEONES LABELS
ANYONE CAN EITHER IDENTIFY OR NOT IDENTIFY AS QUEER
Please feel welcome to add anything in reblogs. I'm sure there's things I've missed. I haven't talked about neopronouns I haven't talked enough about "contradicting" labels. I haven't talked about queer platonic relationships or kink or polyamory or enough about intersex people or pronouns vs gender. There's so much important things but at the end of the day it's just so important to not choose other people's labels.
; hi @auseryoumayknow !! I use neos so lemme try help :]
; I think the easiest way to get better at using neopronouns ( emojiself, nounself, etc ) is simply practice !! And asking people how to use their pronouns. Whether that be how to pronounce them or how to use them in a sentence, people will be more than happy to help !! Really appreciate you being open to trying :D /gen
; also a trick I use is simply taking a pronoun like he or they that I know how to use, and replacing it with the neo. For i.e. Xe / Xem would = Xe ( he ) is my friend, xe ( he ) uses xe / xem and would like me to use them on xem ( him ) ! I think xe ( he ) should be proud of xemself ( himself ) :]
; this also goes for other pronouns like nounself ( i.e. moth / mothself, fern / fernself, cloud / cloudself ) and emojiself !! ( i.e. ⭐ / ⭐self )
; also quick thing .. Emojiself pronouns are not intended for irl use !! They're for online communication only .. Some people do have pronounceable alternatives to their emojiself pronouns ( i.e. Instead of 🍄 / 🍄self it could be shroom / shroomself ) but not everyone does ! Better to just ask. :]
; if you have other questions feel free to ask me through like DMs or my askbox !! /gen /nf
dyall. people. bitches. stop making a fuss over ppl's identities.
"but they have genderfluid and also mlm in their bio!"
fuckin. so what?????
"but they use it/its pronouns!"
doesnt affect you. shut the fuck up.
"but they use neos and emojis as pronouns!"
literally so what?? it's harmless!!!
"but they wont label themself for me!"
idgaf, not your business.
"but they say they're an animal!"
literally ok? how. does that affect you.
"but they think that theyre something that doesnt even exist!"
yes and that's very cool of them
"but they use animals and nouns as their pronouns!"
do i look like i care? no? that's because i dont.
"but they-!"
DOESNT FUCKING AFFECT YOU. OK. YOU HEAR ME??? IT. DOES. NOT. AFFECT. YOU.
YOU SHOULD NOT CARE SO MUCH ABOUT HOW SOMEONE EXPRESSES THEIR IDENTITY. IT LITERALLY DOES NOT TAKE A N Y T H I N G TO NOT BE AN ASSHOLE.
; by " pronounce " if you mean saying it irl .. Emojiself pronouns are for online usage only !! Although some people have pronounceable versions, i.e. ⭐ / ⭐self could be star / starself .. But others js have completely different pronouns altogether, and their emoji ones are online and online only !!
dyall. people. bitches. stop making a fuss over ppl's identities.
"but they have genderfluid and also mlm in their bio!"
fuckin. so what?????
"but they use it/its pronouns!"
doesnt affect you. shut the fuck up.
"but they use neos and emojis as pronouns!"
literally so what?? it's harmless!!!
"but they wont label themself for me!"
idgaf, not your business.
"but they say they're an animal!"
literally ok? how. does that affect you.
"but they think that theyre something that doesnt even exist!"
yes and that's very cool of them
"but they use animals and nouns as their pronouns!"
do i look like i care? no? that's because i dont.
"but they-!"
DOESNT FUCKING AFFECT YOU. OK. YOU HEAR ME??? IT. DOES. NOT. AFFECT. YOU.
YOU SHOULD NOT CARE SO MUCH ABOUT HOW SOMEONE EXPRESSES THEIR IDENTITY. IT LITERALLY DOES NOT TAKE A N Y T H I N G TO NOT BE AN ASSHOLE.
; this a million times oml. To add more: neopronouns are not effecting the trans community, neopronouns are not exclusive to certain people, neopronouns are not silly or cringe or invalid and they're not ( most the time ) js for online use, they're peoples pronouns. And qpr are different to everyone !! They can include sex but they don't have to, but stop calling it " basically friends w benefits ", qpp's can kiss or never even try, qpp's can get get platonically married if they want, qpr's can be polyamory or exclusive, and they can be sexual without being romantic and it is not mf abusive or whatever dumb shit ppl are spreading, they can also be romantic and not sexual and not be sad or a " failing ship ", etc. It's not your relationship and it's not your definition of platonic, so js leave ppl alone. Oh and for the love of the stars DO NOT call it " js a really close friendship " or " friendship+ basically " and / or describe it as lesser than romantic / sexual relationships. Its not less or more than anything, it's a queer platonic relationship. It's it's own category THANK YOU.
I think in honor of pride month and also in general forever we should stop trying fit queer people into the identities we think they should call themselves.
And I know no one is going to see this because no one ever does but I'm going to talk about it anyway because this is important.
Bisexual doesn't mean you don't date trans people, it doesn't mean you like men and women, it doesn't mean you can't have a preference. Someone can identify as polysexual or bisexual or omnisexual and have no preference and you don't get to say that that means they're pansexual. Because no, if they don't identify as pansexual then they're not pansexual.
Transmasc doesn't mean you use he/him pronouns. It doesn't mean you identify as a man. Transfem doesn't mean you use she/her pronouns. It doesn't mean you identify as a woman. You can be nonbinary or genderqueer or agender or any gender that isn't binary and not use they/them pronouns. You can use any of those labels and still identify as a man or a woman. You can use different pronouns than is typically used for your birth sex and not consider yourself transgender. People can be gender non conforming and not he trans. People can be trans and not gender non conforming.
A trans man can be fem. A trans woman can be masc. Nonbinary people don't owe you androgyny. Intersex people don't owe you androgyny. Intersex people are people, they deserve way more attention than a way to one up transphobes. Intersex people face discrimination and body altering surgeries without their consent and then are only ever talked about to say "some cis women have penises" or "some people have an extra x chromosome" and then we never talk about the struggle they face as part of the queer community.
Asexuality and aromanticism is a spectrum. Some aces like sex, some aces are repulsed, some aces only experience sexual attraction to one person or once in their life, some aces need a deep emotional bond, some aces their attraction changes. Some aros change identities. Some aros are repulsed by romance unless it's a fictional character. Some aros have romantic feelings until they get to know someone. Some aros crave a romantic relationship but never have romantic feelings. You don't get to say someone isn't asexual or aromantic enough.
Asexuality and aromanticism is having a unique relationship with romance or sexual feelings and impulses. Someone who is transgender has a unique experience with gender. You don't get to decide that they don't have a unique experience. But guess what? You don't get to decide if they do either. Someone can have a unique experience and still not identify as asexual aromantic or transgender. You can cross dress and still fully feel like a man. You can use he/him pronouns as a cis women. You can have trauma around sex and not identify as asexual. You can never have a romantic relationship and not identify as aromantic.
You can have "contradicting" labels. I don't know as many of these because I don't personally identify as any but please fell welcome to add in reblogs. There are trans men lesbians and gay women. There are sex loving asexuals. I know there are others I just genuinely am not educated enough.
YOU DONT GET TO CHOOSE SOMEONES LABELS
ANYONE CAN EITHER IDENTIFY OR NOT IDENTIFY AS QUEER
Please feel welcome to add anything in reblogs. I'm sure there's things I've missed. I haven't talked about neopronouns I haven't talked enough about "contradicting" labels. I haven't talked about queer platonic relationships or kink or polyamory or enough about intersex people or pronouns vs gender. There's so much important things but at the end of the day it's just so important to not choose other people's labels.