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Traumas I'm thinking about in context of superhero media:
all kinds of effects from jerk (whiplash, acceleration of acceleration) and g-force above human tolerance
suspension trauma/orthostatic syndrome (trauma from hanging with no moving)
crush syndrome
post-concussion syndrome. There's plenty of shock waves in superhero medium and that will definitely cause that
Yippeee art dump cuz I've been gone too long :D
Apologies for me saying I have time to do art and then not being online for multiple days afterward :DD (am I hoping this art dump will placate you guys? Maybe...? Is it working :D?)
Yeah I've got a plethora of things for you to enjoy. So, enjoy!
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Signs of Abuse and Trauma in Children
No one discovered my abuse or stepped in. I went many years without being correctly dx'd and without my trauma being recognized. I've had to do all of the work to heal as an adult due to events that could have been stopped before. A huge part of the problem is that many people don't know how to recognize signs of abuse or symptoms of trauma in children.
1. Changes in behavior
2. Returning to earlier behaviors (regression)
3. Fear of going home (or to another place)
4. Changes in eating
5. Changes in sleeping
6. Changes in school performance/attendance
7. Lack of personal care or hygiene - or excessive bathing
8. Risk-taking behaviors
9. Inappropriate sexual behaviors
10. Unexplained injuries
Physical signs:
Sexually transmitted infections (STIs)
Signs of trauma to the genital area
Behavioral signs:
Excessive talk about or knowledge of sexual topics
Keeping secrets; not talking as much as usual
Not wanting to be left alone with certain people or being afraid to be away from caregivers
Regressive behaviors
Overly compliant behavior
Sexual behavior that is inappropriate for the child’s age
Spending an unusual amount of time alone
Trying to avoid removing clothing to change or bathe
Emotional signs:
Change in eating habits
Change in mood or personality, such as increased aggression
Decrease in confidence or self-image
Excessive worry or fearfulness
Increase in unexplained health problems such as stomach aches and headaches
Loss or decrease in interest in school, activities, and friends
Nightmares or fear of being alone at night
Self-harming behaviors
Additionally, don't expect a child to disclose abuse on their own. 86% of CSA is NEVER reported, and the average age of disclosing CSA is well into adulthood. This is often because 90% of cases are perpetrated by someone the child knows such as a caregiver or relative. It is also common for children to be threatened and afraid of telling on their abuser. They may even believe they are responsible for their own abuse.
My pettiest and most tenacious gripe with supernatural is that when Lucifer is not taking a vessel but projecting his own image of himself, he should be played by Jared Padalecki. I know that for whatever mysterious reason they wanted Mark Pellegrino back but I just think this was a huge missed opportunity.
Lucifer considers Sam's body his rightful vessel, as much his own body as it ever was Sam's. In the cage he should have presented himself this way when he wasn't actively possessing Sam, and Sam's hallucinations should have been of his own cruel smirk. It's consistent with Lucifer's characterisation, his objectification of and entitlement to Sam. And it's impact on Sam would be so powerful.
After Lucifer, he avoids mirrors. Looks away from the impala's night-darkened windows lest he catch his reflection. His stomach turns at old photos of himself. He doesn't have many, but he's held onto some of his family. In one with Dean, his arm is slung easily around his brother's shoulder, both of them with beers in hand and matching smiles. It's a rare memory of peace, an image he's treasured for years, and when he looks at it now he feels panic crawling up his throat. He grits his teeth to hold back the snarl of "get away from him". He never looks at his hands any more, when he changes the car's oil or cleans the guns. He touches other people as little as possible. Everything's different. His body makes him an invader in his own life. He was born unclean, a soul tainted from the start, but now he looks into his eyes and sees a monster.
heya! I'm not sure if your requests are closed, and by no means do I hope to overwhelm you further with more requests :'D feel free to ignore this especially bc it's more of a negative request aaa
so as context: sometimes I zone out and due to my childhood I will flinch if I see a movement coming at me which at the time I thought was understandable/normal but my bf has already expressed his disappointment every time I flinched or denied physical affection and left me being the one who apologizes for a reflex and I was wondering how the batch (platonically) would react to the reader (preferably female) telling them that story if the reader was the batch's bffs or smth? :'D (plus Cody if that's okay!) I'd be curious to know if they would just try to calm me down or if they would try to encourage me to get that specific thing fixed maybe?
argh I'm so sorry for the long ass text cRIES
again no pressure whatsoever with this waaah
Aloha! 😊
Interesting question. Personally, I think personal space should always be respected, no matter how close we are with someone. In a relationship, most people tend to loving physical contact in many different forms, and I see how this reaction can be surprising or off-putting for some. But with a little empathy and patience, that really shouldn't be a problem for a partner to get used to and accept. If my partner is jumpy with such reflex reactions, I should be able to adjust. There is a reason for this reaction and I think you shouldn't be, or feel pressured to apologize for it. All in all, communication (and an understanding, open mind) is key, as it almost always is. Then there is also the option to try and get that out of your system, so to speak. Therapy might help, it's worth a try or two. After all, it would possibly make things easier for you as well, giving you more comfort in everyday life. Easier said than done, I know. But that's just my two cents. Either way, I'm wishing you all the best 😊 Let's see...
The Bad Batch/Cody x Reader HCs - The Flinch
Warnings: Implied Trauma / Traumatic Reflex Reaction
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Hunter
It can happen casually, maybe he doesn't really think about it, just wants your attention for a moment, but you are busy, and your mind is elsewhere. A brief touch on the shoulder, innocent, gentle, without ulterior motives. Still, you flinch and turn around so quickly, startled, that he flinches briefly himself.
Hunter in no way intended to scare you or offend you, he would never do that consciously. Of course, he apologizes, you are close friends, he knows your past that you confided in him.
"I should have known better, I'm sorry. Are you okay?"
He is patient, gentle and forgiving. Hunter tries his best to be sensitive to you and respect your boundaries. He is careful in his interactions with you, considerate.
Echo
The first time it happens, he is so startled by your reaction that he backs away and looks at his hand as if he expects to see it red-hot, or spiked. He blinks a few times, then says, "Sorry, did I scare you?"
Whether you confide in him or not, Echo will never hold it against you. He can understand that your reaction has a background, and he can respect that you don't want to share it with him. This does not change the fact that he will take it into consideration.
He sometimes seems strict and so serious, but he has an antenna for the sensitivities of others. It is in his nature to be considerate.
Wrecker
He is a bit impetuous and very affectionate. Scaring you or triggering a reaction is never his intention, but it can still happen quite a few times. You can speak openly with Wrecker, he is happy to listen to you, he is understanding even if you don't tell him everything.
He will always apologize if it still happens accidentally, and he will never blame you for these reactions. He will rather make sure that others around you respect your personal space as well.
Tech
He is not a particularly physical guy. On the contrary, Tech values his personal space and usually respects that of others around him. In combat, this may not be possible at times, but in general everyday life, Tech tends to keep a polite distance.
If he does trigger that automatic flight or defensive reaction, he apologizes immediately, and you can assume it won't happen again. He himself is not a fan of surprising touches, which is why he doesn't like Wreckers' little nudges at all and usually lets them pass with rolling eyes or critically furrowed brows.
Crosshair
As almost always, his first reaction is a bit grumpy. He doesn't immediately understand what's going on, but he's a good observer and a bright guy. Of course, he notices that you have these reactions more often, even with other people.
Crosshair reads your body language and realizes that this is a learned, habitual reflex reaction. He understands that there is a real, possibly deep-seated reason behind it. Of course, he adapts, even if he doesn't like to admit it, he can be considerate and very understanding.
So you don't have to worry about him. He certainly doesn't respect or appreciate you less than before because of that. In fact, it awakens a certain protective instinct in him.
Cody
At first, he is surprised, but he is neither offended nor annoyed. But he is attentive. As a soldier, he's learned to read body language, to interpret reactions, and even though you might not say anything about it, Cody understands pretty quickly what makes you tick.
You can count on him to pay attention to that in the future. You don't have to apologize to him, you can just be yourself and relax. Cody is always a safe haven.
He also won't let other people maybe cause you problems because of it. Anyone who teases you about it or makes fun of you should be prepared to get in trouble.
So... I've got this idea a few months ago...
What if after the argument, instead of dying, the magic turns Madrigals' gifts into curses in order to save itself...
CW: traumas, body modifications
Isabela: The plants are growing inside of her body, replacing her flesh. Causing severe bleeding. And attempts to remove plants only making it worse. She still tries tho and gets a lot of scars from removed vines. Not like it's matter, they will be replaced with plants anyway.
Dolores: The vibration from sounds starts to affect her body. It works like electricity. Quiet sounds are painful. But loud... Loud sound can cause heart failure. She just stays in her room the entire time, isolated, so she won't die.
Luisa: Her body slowly turns into a stone statue, cell by cell. Her mobility is also dissapearing since her joints being a fused pieces of stone. No need to tell that it's extremely painful. The fact that she can see how the difficulty of the simple movements grows only makes her more terrified.
Camilo: He shapeshifts uncontrollably. His curse usually combines the details from different people, making it even worse. For example, he might have Luisa's arms with Antonio's body and legs and Mirabel's head. Everything in its original size. Or somebody's leg instead of head... There's endless possibilities.
Antonio isn't affected. He's five and he only got his gift. It would be too cruel even for the curse. So he just loses his new ability, without any effect. The other Madrigals are keeping their gifts, but control over them is awful.
Alma, Mirabel, Felix and Agústin aren't cursed as well, since they didn't have gifts to begin with. But the whole situation can be viewed as the punishment for Alma.
And I'm not sure about the triplets. I think that Julieta might get back all the injuries she ever healed and Pepa's emotions being affected be the weather. But I don't want it to be too deathly (there's no point in curse if they die instantly) or predictable (that's why Dolores'/Luisa's curses aren't based on hearing/strength) And I have no idea about Bruno. You're welcome to give me ideas about their curses
This made me cry... I wish my parents were that sensitive to my need for consistency and stability as a child. When I was 8, my family replaced our living room sofa. A fairly normal occurrence for families in my area. Even though I anticipated it for weeks, when it came time to replace it, I screamed and cried and begged and reasoned and came up with every excuse we needed to keep it. Besides having a different pattern, texture, color, resistance, width, and height, the new sofa was also going to come with new rules like “no jumping” and “no feet on it” which was hell to me because jumping and nestling myself in its corners were my main sensations of safety away from my hyper-critical helicopter parents. My parents tried to placate me in other ways but didn’t understand me and just screamed at me and yelled that the sofa is not alive and that I need to get over myself and eventually had to take me outside away from the house to load the old sofa in the truck to take it to the dump. Tbh that experience was legitimately traumatizing for me. I actually cry thinking about that sofa and how specifically comforting it was. This post gave me an understanding of why.
My child is autistic. He doesn’t do well with change. Even little things that would be meaningless to most people.
For example, his hairbrush was getting old and worn. He had chewed the end of it. The cats had chewed some bristles. It was dirty and dusty. But I didn’t say anything. Because it’s his hairbrush.
Finally, he said he thinks it’s time for a new brush. Ok, I say, we’ll put it on the shopping list, and get one next time we’re in town.
So we go to town and we go to the store. There are many hairbrushes to choose from. He picks one and they even have it in his favorite color. We buy it, take it home, and remove the packaging.
I go to put it on the shelf where the old hairbrush is. Can we throw out the old one, I ask.
That’s when he stops. That’s when he freezes and gets a momentary look of panic on his face. Throw out the old one? That hadn’t occurred to him.
Because here’s the thing. Hair brushing is a part of his morning routine. And not just hair brushing, but hair brushing with that particular brush. To most people, the act of hair brushing is the routine, but not the brush itself. The objects are interchangeable. But not to my child. Not to someone with autism. The brush itself is just as important as the act of brushing.
So I take a breath. I put the old brush down. Think about it, I say. Let me know tomorrow what you want to do with this brush.
He decides. He realizes keeping an old hairbrush is not necessary. But it’s still important to him. So he asks if I can cut off one bristle. To keep. As a memory of the old hairbrush.
I don’t laugh. I don’t tell him it’s silly. I respect his need. I cut off the bristle. He puts it in his treasure box, along side some smooth rocks, beads, sparkly decals, a Santa Claus charm from a classmate, a few other things meaningful to him.
He throws the old hairbrush away himself. He is able to move on, and accept the change.
It feels like everything is changing.
The people I love love each other but in dysfunctional ways.
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I feel like I’m learning that the surest way to maintain relationships is to not have needs, or to meet all my needs myself with tons of energy to spare. That way, I’ll never have to decide between meeting my needs or meeting someone else’s: I can choose the other person every time and they’ll never get hurt by me.
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Is it true that we are all giving at the expense of ourselves?
Are any relationships healthy if they involve caregiving?
Is a “healthy” relationship really just a false and ableist idea? Don’t we all ultimately have to compromise? To make do with what we have? To suffer a bit for the sake of others?
I don’t think there’s a way to have it all. Not anymore, at least. Not since what was too good to be true dissolved in front of my eyes.
I’m trying desperately to love my friends back together. And it’s not sustainable. But it has to be because this can’t fall apart. I can’t lose both of them. They’re my family.
I don’t know what to do, or what to think about my own future, the one I’m slipping towards where my condition worsens and I need physical caregiving support. I know I can’t count on anyone to be there for me. I can ask people for help, but I can’t expect them to help me. They’re not obligated to. At least according to my value system, they’re not.
I won’t tell my hypothetical partner they’re neglecting me, because I won’t rely on them for support. I’ve made up my mind. It’s not fucking happening. I’m gonna hustle til I die and the hustle will kill me and I’m just gonna have to accept that.
Fuck.